from the beginning of the marriage itself they started to harass our family,when we gt married she came in to our home and stayed for a month only ,after then she went to her home as she had home sick,thn whn we contacted her family they didnt give us a clear reply, aftr we enquired in various ways i came to know tht she is studying in a college without husbands concent,when we got a talk about this with their relations they agreed to send her with me, after that also she didnt came,then i issued her a legal notice regarding this, they replied harshly also her father demanded amount from me for divorce ,then my wife begged me to return the case, i also get returned the case m she came and lived with me for a year , i got her a job for her at a college, in this mean time her father came n give me many problems like disturbing my life, on one day she went for her home and there is no reply from there side when we enquired, i even went to the death of her grandma death which they didnt
2007-02-01 18:31:35 · 9 answers · asked by srini vellore 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
thanx for ur response, first of all my marriage is arranged and we did the marriage of our own money nor we demanded money also im nt having father now, by this problem my brother went seperately,also i had talked with her,with the people who arranged marriage, no way to releive from this problem,i need a legal solution how to go without problem.i got decisions from u people that to get left from her ,its ok but for me in life there should only one marrige in life .. im trying to live as god thinks,im totally confused also..
2007-02-01 20:08:17 · update #1
Dear fellow, I can understand the pangs of the situation u are in. In my opinion, your wife and her family is not desirous to send her to u. More so they do not seem to be interested in continuing with the marriage. In such circumstances, it would be better for mental piece of ur mind and ur family to move out of the relationship, (even if u have to pay them). There is no point continuing with the relationship which is bitter and can spoil whole of your life. You seem to be a young man say < 30. That means you can certainly look for a good match and settle down in your life. All the best.
2007-02-01 18:38:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you have not explained your problems clearly. after marriage did you spend times together, i mean to understand each other , what was the age when you got married.Did you take time to tell her, understand her what marriage is. if you have the answers for these question then i think you ll have anwers.
1) if she is very younger at the age of 17-18 dont force her ,as she needs time to understand herself.
2)if it was a marriage in your relation then time will come when she would come to you.
3) meet her personally (instead of giving divorce notice ,that is not the solution for your problem) talk to her , make her mentally understand what marriage is , then she will come to you.
4)If it was force full marriage from either side . Then i will tell you to get sperated because she/he is not yours.
5) if you are correct and others are wrong , then take some elderly people with you and asks the girl and girls father what is the real problems, even rumours,doubts can collapse a sucessfull marriages.
6) if the problems is from your house ,convience her and live seprately
7) Brother there is nothing in this world , which cannot be solved , it is upto you only how to llive your life , you have to find your own solutions because you are the destiny of your life.
2007-02-02 03:19:52 · answer #2 · answered by snehajaya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
firstly if she is under the legal age of getting married she is way to immature still (my honest opinion). If she is of legal age so is worse than been immature & is probably used to be dominated by a male figure (her dad) who is also a complete comtrol freak from what it sounds.
She probably got married just for the kicks of it & not for the actual thing. To that i would not know the real answer its between yourself & her.
You going to get some harsh crit coming your way but hang in there. If she does not wanna come back send her the divorce papers honey, you can do so much more way better.
You prob a sweet guy with a really nice personality & sounds like you have a big heart,she does not deserve you,you can do better.
Good Luck hope it all goes well
2007-02-02 04:02:53 · answer #3 · answered by MEHNAZ B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After going through your case what I can understand that your wife is immature lady being guided by her father who can shot many problem volleys from her shoulders firstly criminal complaint against you for cruelty under sec 498A Indian Penal Code, coupled with case under the Dowry Prohibition Act. A complaint for domestic violence under the Protection of Women from Domestic Violence Act, 2005. When you move petition for divorce there will be a huge demand for maintenance pendentellite as well for permanent alimony & maintenance. All the criminal complaints I have told you will be done to extract maximum sum of money from you only. Now you decide how much money you can afford to get rid of all these troubles? I may sound sarcastic but dear friend I am a lawyer with 24 years experience & have seen many of such cases in this much long professional life. You are in real trouble with such people & have to agree to their demand to get rid of this trouble.
2007-02-02 02:58:54 · answer #4 · answered by bisexualmale s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
an arranged marriage or what??? whatever it is, it is OBVIOUS she doesn't like either your family or you and doesn't want to go back--it's a dumb and childish thing she did, because she should have talked whatever she was feeling out with you... UNLESS you don't listen or try to solve her problems...
either way i think you should 1) talk to her face to you (you and her only) or 2) divorce her since she can't stand being with you. i believe this was a planned marriage, because planned marriages rarely work... however, if this marriage was out of her free will, she should have known what to expect of married life and lived with it or talked it out with you... hope you get the simple picture of your present situation... gd luck...
2007-02-02 02:46:45 · answer #5 · answered by wat_more_can_i_say? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is your question? If you truly love your wife like a man is supposed to, putting her above yourself, then be kind to her family & win not only her love, but their love also. You should allow your wife to attend college while she is with you & this will relieve her parents of that responsibility. I'm not sure what your question is, but a kind word will turn away wrath. Love will prevail.
2007-02-02 02:40:47 · answer #6 · answered by gayla.jean 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at first, you understand and talk with her freely what the problem she having? if she wants to help her parents please leave her to help with the money and you also affectionate with her parents .only, divorce is not a solution my brother.
YOU ALSO CONFIRM:
FATHER OR HUSBAND
2007-02-02 06:15:56 · answer #7 · answered by sudha m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dear stupid guy, just understand that your wife does not want to stay with you for whatever reasons she may have.
just file for a divorce
2007-02-02 02:35:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's a grown woman, if she doesn't want to stay you can't stop her.
2007-02-02 06:49:16 · answer #9 · answered by Big Bertha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋