Okay, my boyfriend and I got into this huge fight about me flirting with other guys, and how he doesn't like it. It's all in he's head! I don't go around flirting with guys and if a guy happens to flirt with me (which happens every time we go out!) it's not like I can just get up leave. I mean what's wrong with a little flirting? Anyway He was really angry with me and I was extremely pissed because he was making a big deal out of nothing. So in the middle of our augment I called him a son of a *****. He yelled, "Don't talk about my mother! Take it back now." I said "NOO." At this point he looked almost enraged. When I said he was a son of a ***** I didn't literally mean that, however that was how he took it. The next thing I know he's on the sofa pulling me over his lap, pulling up my skirt (I was to shocked to even fight back!), and spanking me really hard! It hurt really, really bad. I started to cry and he stopped, telling me he was very sorry and he didn't know what came over him. Later I told him I was going home and he begged me to stay the night, but I left anyway. He told me that when I called him a son of a ***** it brought back memories of how his mother was a *****, and use to get drunk beat the crap out of him and his two younger siblings. I know what he did was wrong and painful, however I really love him. Should I leave him even after what he told me?
2007-02-01 18:17:34 · 3 answers · asked by Maria 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I missed the first time you posted this question, and already posted once to the last one that you posted, but here it goes again. As bad as it sounds, I'd say that you provoked him when you started calling names. The fact that he spanked you, rather than slugged you, is really a point on his side. It could have been much worse. I think that you both need to sit down and talk about it and try to put it behind you.
Now, the fact that he chose to SPANK you, rather than lashing out in a worse way or dealing with it more constructively could be indicative of something more. He may have an interest in adult spanking, and took your behavior as a chance to put it in practice. When he realized how much he was hurting you, he stopped. It might be something you want to talk to him about, as well. Just ask him why spanking you popped into his head, rather than anything else.
Don't be so fast to listen to cries of abuse from the above answers. As I said above, slapping your bottom is a far cry from slapping you across your face, which would be the typical abuser method. The fact that he had the sense of mind, however small that may have been, to hit a body part that would hurt without leaving lasting injury shows that he doesn't follow the typical abuser mindset. An abuser doesn't care about how or why you hurt, and an abuser doesn't try to avoid injury. Think about that before you dump him.
2007-02-03 13:37:08 · answer #1 · answered by baka_otaku30 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes leave him.He is trying to excuse his behaviour,and there is no excuse for what he did to you.Once a guy hits or slaps a female,he will always do it.A leopard never changes it's spots.This is an unhealthy relationship.Walk away from him with your head held high and a big smile on your face.He will say "I'm sorry,I won't do it again". - all lies.Start walking and don't ever look back.You deserve to be treated with the upmost respect.Good luck and take care. x
2007-02-01 22:52:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him yesterday....
2007-02-01 21:25:30 · answer #3 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋