This is a follow-up to a previous post, and I need more help!
I went out with this guy in December, one date that he was incredibly late to. He didn't call me till after we were supposed to meet, and tried to postpone, but I convinced him to go out since I was all dressed to go out. Since then, we talked a few times on the phone about going out again, but then he would say he would call me again on Monday and not call till 4am on Friday.
I cannot trust this guy, not because he's a bad person but because he's just not looking for any sort of commitment - even a commitment to showing up on time or calling when he says he will.
Last week he called and I told him I didn't want to see him again, and he asked me to reconsider. He said he wanted a second chace to get his life "back in order". I told him to call the next day since it wasn't a good moment but he didn't till late.
He called again tonight and left plaintive vociemails for me to call. What should I do??
2007-02-01 17:57:39 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just to be clear: I don't want to see this guy again. I just want to know how to get rid of him without making him feel like a loser. I feel bad about this, because he sounded so sad on the phone. I hate it when people just stop returning my phone calls, so I don't want to be like that, but he's so not getting the message!
2007-02-01 18:10:16 · update #1
BLOW HIM OFF! HE IS NOT WORTH YOUR VALUABLE TIME. WHAT'S UP WITH HIM ANYWAY? WHO DOES HE THINK HE IS? YOU ARE SOOOOO BETTER THAN HIS LITTLE "LATE" GAMES! SCREW HIM! MOVE ON SISTER! NEXT...
2007-02-01 18:03:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Where did to get to know this guy? He's very insincere and disrespect about this whole relationship thing. I agree with what you said "I cannot trust this guy, not because he's a bad person". I also true that he's not commitment..he just come and go. I think after giving him 2nd chance by giving him a call and demand an explainition of why is he always late, if it still doesn't work you can just let go.....he's not ready to have a relationship with you. A lady's youth is very precious anyway. Don't have to waste time on such person, he doesn't worth to get your caring, concern and even love.
2007-02-01 18:09:25 · answer #2 · answered by Huggy Love 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he hasn't caught on by now then I would say he isn't going to. Sounds like he's going to just keep stringing you along. If you were to get into a relationship with him, just imagine what that would be like. He wouldn't be around much from the sounds of it. He barely even calls you to let you know he's not coming.
I say, either leave him as a friend that you talk to on the phone once in awhile, or cut him off.
2007-02-01 18:02:51 · answer #3 · answered by Tiffany 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're not interested then don't go. Don't lead the poor guy on. Just tell him that you aren't interested. If you would like to give him a chance, make him prove himself so that he stops stringing you along. He sounds like he's married or something. Running late for dates and stuff. That's odd. Does he at least give you a legitimate excuse? I don't blame you for not trusting him. If he's a good person and you want to date him, just be careful and take it slow. Make him prove himself though. Don't keep giving him chances. If he is sincere, he will make every effort in the world to make it up to you. If he is just stringing you along, things won't change. Sometimes things do come up. If you aren't interested, then don't string him along.
2007-02-01 18:03:52 · answer #4 · answered by ladystarrchild107 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him flat out that it is time to move on and nevermind the call me tomorrow etc... He had his bite at the apple, so to speak, and he blew it. You need to have a life and I'll tell you right now if you give in to this guy and settle for being second to everything, you will be miserable and much meaner to him down the line. Been there, done that, got the bumper sticker!
2007-02-01 18:02:31 · answer #5 · answered by kiera70 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Move on to the next guy,I would've thought it would be self explanatory.He is showing lack of commitment in the little things now,And you hardly know him intimately.Imagine what your relationship could entail if you decided to submit to his advances and had a sexual relationship with him and ended up emotionally attached.I think you could probably answer that one for yourself.
2007-02-01 18:05:13 · answer #6 · answered by Eat My Shorts 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well this guy doesn't sound reliable at all, and i dont think u need someone like that in your life...u sound like u r looking for a committed relationship and this guy just isnt going to do that....i say wash your hands of him, do it nicely but if he keeps being persistent dont be shy to being blunt...YOU ARE JUST NOT WHAT IM LOOKING FOR, we dont click...that is all it takes. It doesnt sound like u see this guy at all in your everyday life so u should have no worries...Hope this helps and good luck
2007-02-01 18:05:56 · answer #7 · answered by eyesopen16 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im not there.
im not understanding anything except on your question.
I guess i feel the same way, but i feel like she's not telling me.
Well im not that bad!
We didn't even go on a date yet!
But still.
I really would hate the feeling of finding out what they have been thinking for the last month or so..
I just hate that feeling...
Alot...
2007-02-01 18:04:20 · answer #8 · answered by ssig_ru2systems 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him during the day and just tell him how you feel. If you aren't into him, don't lead him on with the phone-tag and dates.
2007-02-01 18:02:49 · answer #9 · answered by aSchway 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are pushy and too forceful. Leave the poor guy alone.
2007-02-01 18:00:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave him alone. dont waste ur time. if he wants to call u, let him, thats fine, but dont go out of your way to try to talk to/see him.
2007-02-01 18:00:29 · answer #11 · answered by annie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋