Who should I be with my fiance' or my babies momma ?

Question

Im currently engagged with the greatest woman ever, but before I met her i have always been hung up on my daughters mother. She has always done me wrong and treated me like crap, but it seems like she is actually beginning to change for the better. I'm in iraq and i talk to both of them on the phone my fiance' more than my daughters mom, but she doesnt know I'm engaged and tells me that she loves me and wants to be with me what should I do?

Okay all of you all are being very helpful but some people are say tell the truth and stuff i havent lied about anything and my fiance' knows about my daughters mother and wants me to tell her but i dont wanna hurt my babies momma feelings she might just have this idea that i still care about her you know

Answer 1

STICK WITH YOUR FIANCE..IF YOU GO BACK TO THE OTHER WOMAN WHO TREATED YOU LIKE CRAP...HISTORY WILL ONLY REPEAT ITSELF..AND YOU WILL END UP LOSING PROBABLY YOUR SOUL MATE....(YOUR FIANCE)

Answer 2

Dont leave your fiance for someone you have already tried to work things out with. A zebra can never change its strips. Be smart, if your fiance is the greatest woman ever stick with her. Its not easy to cut ties with your babies momma, but keep it stricly business. If she has always done you wrong then chances are she will do the same again. Stick with the fiance and tell your daughters mother you are engaged!!! Good luck...

Answer 3

Wow! sounds like quite the predicament. If you play your cards wrong you will end up nobody. Look, you already have a crappy history with the mother of your children. You probably already know that isn't going to work out, but maybe it is worth giving it a shot with her cause of the children. If you think you can make it work and provide a loving family for your kids than I think it is worth it. If you already the outcome is going to be failure than go with your fiance.
I firmly believe that children need a mother and a father for a proper balanced raising. At the same rate, if they grow up seeing you two fighting a lot and her treating your like crap than that is even worse than you not being together. Good luck

Answer 4

Man up and be that child's dad. You were man enough to get the gal pregnant, then by God be man enough to at least try to commit to a serious relationship with the mom. You didn't say how she treated you wrong, so I could be waaay off base here. If nothing else, at least commit to play an active, caring role in the raising of your daughter. I can't tell you how many friends I have who split with a young child in the picture and then the kids never have a meaningful relationship with dad. Some guys don't care, but you must feel something or you wouldn't be asking the question. Be honest with the mom, tell her you are engaged, she deserves that much. Maybe it could work and maybe not, but I think you should try for the child's sake, tooooo many single-parents out there nowadays. BTW, I assume you are in the military if you are in Iraq - you are all in my prayers, thank you.

Answer 5

Thanks for protecting the USA USA USA USA. I appreciate all you are doing for us in Iraq. I would say that if you are engaged to a wonderful woman then don't let your ex break that up! You can still have a great relationship with your child and not have to worry that you will be treated right everyday and maybe just maybe the reason she has had a change of heart is because you are overseas. I say stay with the Fiance and let your ex know that she had her chance.

Answer 6

well, choose who you love more.
and, if you choose your fiance, would she even accept the fact that you have a baby with another woman?
if she does, and the mom of your baby accepts her too, then it's prolly safe to go with your fiance.
take note that both parties must be able to accept each other.
especially if you choose your fiance over your baby's mom.
because if the "mom" doesn't accept your fiance, and if she's in love with you, she might try doing nasty things to come between you and your fiance.
tell both parties how you really feel, and assure them that you will still live up to your responsibilities as a potential husband, and a good father.

Answer 7

Iraq, I suggest you follow your heart, pray and wait for guidance. If you follow the "All Knowing God", your path will be set for good and the glory of God. If your truly love both of them do the right thing. What ever that is if it is done Gods way and not ours, it will always be the right thing.

Answer 8

Stick with your fiancee. You asked her to marry you for a good reason. You can still be a good dad without marrying your daughter's mum, and even if she says she loves you, she doesn't have a very good track record. Don't set yourself up to be messed over again.

Answer 9

stay with your baby's momma
your daughter needs you now.
It will pay off in the end
besides you could always go back to your fiance
you don't want 2 different families going on
I'm speaking from experience
I got 3 separate families going on not including my own
It's very tough........especially during holidays

Answer 10

Well who is it that you really love? You have to realize that right now, you are away from your baby momma so she probably is just telling you what you want to hear...I mean seriously, you can't make her prove anything to you all the way in Iraq.

Answer 11

you are going to end up hurting both if you do not tell your babies momma, you might even end up loosing both. Follow your heart and choose the right one.