Whats the best way to forget about everyone who treats you bad in life especially when you have family that never calls and probably dont care if your alive? Its hard for me not to look back and I feel so alone...
2007-02-01 17:21:27 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I know all to well, what your feeling. And I wish I had a miracle answer, but I don't. It took years for me to come to the conclusion-that my my so called mom and her side of the family just don't give a dam, and never will.
So, I excepted it, and became a better person than any of them.
and ( that's how you get through, everyday.)
Become a better person, be kinder, more loving, and reach out to others in ways they never would.
I'm not perfect by any means, but I know, I'm a kinder and more loving person than my mom. And that, I'm proud of.
Take it a day at a time & hold your head high. For you will become better than them.
God bless & stay strong
2007-02-01 19:02:59 · answer #1 · answered by lvn3814 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don't feel bad, EVERYONE on Yahoo answers and in the world has done something that they regret in their past- and that is the answer- in your PAST. It's a New Year- and a new day for you- tomorrow you start a new day without looking back-- what's the point? It only is depressing, and hopefully you have learned from your past mistakes because that IS the answer to life-- we are not here as perfect human beings- to be human is to err, so don't beat yourself up about what was the past, let it go. As for your family- time will heal, and as a mother, I cannot believe any
"good mother" could give up loving their child- it is just an impossible task- and any failure you think you made in her eyes, she feels it was her failure- since she is your mother and was supposed to have taught you right/wrong, good/bad, her heart is heavy with guilt and could never stop loving you- no matter what you did or how much you think you may have hurt her-- again, only if she was a "good mother" and if she wasn't, you are stronger than her for being able to move on and don't feel alone, the world is full of people just waiting to be your friend, you just have to get out there and meet them----you should look into any support groups in your city, you can make friends with people who can relate to what you are going through and they probably have gone through worse....good luck to you.....be strong..
2007-02-02 01:34:42 · answer #2 · answered by mac 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you. I really do. I had a really hard childhood myself.
It took many years to let go of the family that was so hurtful and to forgive the ones that I'm still in contact with.
In my opinion we only traumatize ourselves more by reliving our past. Bringing up the past over and over again makes us feel as though it just happened. (Unless, you are seeing a therapist).
Your inner child is longing for the family, love, compassion that you probably didnt get when you was little. You cant get those years back.
But you can create your own, without pain and suffering.
Unless you hang on to the trauma you had as a child, then you only let the person that hurt you continue to hurt you.
Only now you can make it STOP.
If you need to, see a therapist. Get it all out and then be done with it.
You are the star in your life. You cant wait for someone to make it better for you, You can do it.
Go out and make new friends. Live the life you dream of.
I know everything wont go as planned, but pick your self up, and keep on trying.
2007-02-02 01:44:29 · answer #3 · answered by faith♥missouri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to quote Dalai Lama, "Someone else's action should not determine your response." Know inside that you are a child of God and that you never have to be alone....... Okay, away from the Christian spiel.... Unfortunately, you can't choose your family and some people got dealt a bum hand, but there are other facets to you so act on those you can affect. I would send a card explaining your feelings to those family members and let them make the next move. Meanwhile, I would find something positive in my life and play it to the fullest I could. Other good things will come from that...... good luck to you.
2007-02-02 01:31:19 · answer #4 · answered by Just me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes are past is a big problem. dont allow the past to get in the way of the future. Many people have ugly past. But if you can not find peace with inside your self your going to make everyone that deals with you unhappy. Talk it out with someone you do have as a friend sometimes we hold things in and letting it out can be the best thing to do. Remember life is very short and you only have one. Live it to the fullest.
2007-02-02 01:28:43 · answer #5 · answered by babycakes3557 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is never too late to start all over again. Change your ways, change your actions. Forget the past but be willing to be accountable for your past actions, where u have hurt or were responsible for losses. Start doing good actions, and with time, people's opinion about u changes, and they begin to accept u. Anyway, do good action without expecting anything in return. U will receive the fruit of your action, maybe at a later date.
2007-02-02 01:53:08 · answer #6 · answered by wizard of the East 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, this is what I do...I write letter to them even some things I would just never say, then before I send it, I rip it up and throw it away I feel better and also you can write a book anyone can or a journal that would make you feel good as well..but the best is writing and ripping it up when your done belive me it works.. I know how you feel I really do.
2007-02-02 01:29:28 · answer #7 · answered by Gina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Each day is a new day, and a chance to make a new start. Find a good church with caring people who will treat you like family. Only surround yourself with positive, caring people who make you feel good about yourself. (stay away from negitive people-you dont need them in your life) Pray to God and ask him to bring these people into our life, they are out there.
2007-02-02 01:34:24 · answer #8 · answered by seven-11 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Life can deal some bad hands. A change of lifestyle would help. You seem very down, maybe you need to go away or travel somewhere to think for a while. Get away from everything you know and find yourself. Backpack Europe that's what i would do.
2007-02-02 01:39:42 · answer #9 · answered by klone17 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
leave the past in the past-i know that this is easier said than done but you cannot move forward with letting go of the past-i am a firm believer in karma (what goes around comes around) those people who did you wrong will get theirs, but as long as you dwell on them they have a control on ur life-let them go-family can be made anywhere-first make peace with urself-then release all negativity in ur past and move on-u deserve every happiness
2007-02-02 01:27:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋