I am in my mid twenties. I love my gf, but we moved in together last year and I work, she stays at home. She doesnt cook much or clean much at all. I wash my own clothes. I am not saying that a woman has to do these things, but if she worked and I was at home I would assume that role of keeping the house clean. She wants sex constantly which I sometimes grow tired of. I like to do things and little projects that I have, because I always have done then all my life. We only have one car at the time, I am not sure that is why she doesnt even try to find a job. I dont know what to do anymore. We are moving soon cause my job is moving, not sure I want to make the move alone and live by myself. I dont want to be supporting someone that doesnt seem to appreciate that I provided 100 percent for them.
Any help?
2007-02-01 17:19:49 · 18 answers · asked by Jack B 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She's a loser. dump her.
2007-02-01 17:29:42 · answer #1 · answered by Tumbling Dice 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is the most ridiculous situation ever! What does she do with all of that spare time? No wonder she wants sex constantly, it's probably her only activity for the day! I agree with you, since you're supporting her financially, she should be providing support in the home.
I work over 60 hours a week, cook, clean, see my friends and am currently swimming 4 times a week and learning golf. Buy her a filofax and tell her to fill it up with getting a life.
Aside from the laziness, she doesn't sounds like she's very encouraging - especially in relation to your side projects. I think that good relationships nurture and bring out the best in you. Your partner should be supporting you in a range of ways so that you can do all the things that make you happy.
Moving is not such a big deal, I've moved overseas so many times and interstate more times than I can count. You can always make new friends and meet new people easily. I think it would be a nice clean break for you guys. If you bring her with you, it will be SOOOO much harder to break up with her then.
The question really is; are you willing to setlle for something that's just okay, or do you want more?
Best of luck, take care.
2007-02-01 17:30:05 · answer #2 · answered by Snow White 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-17 04:43:53 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow. well, i would sit down and talk with her, say if she can't start pulling her weight then she has to hit the road. I mean, your a working man, you shouldn't have to do everything by yourself. Unless she has some kind of disability that is keeping her from doing something, then go ahead and leave her. You could do sooo much better. Your a man in your mid twenties, you shouldn't waist your life working and doing everything by yourself. I also think she needs to grow up some, tell her life isn't all about "all play and no work". She can't have sex all the time, you got to get up and be rested for work. (though i have to admit, i think i misjudged men alitte. I would've thought men liked to have sex all the time, shows me i am wrong.) Anyways best of luck.
2007-02-01 17:28:57 · answer #4 · answered by photo_girl_90 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yu should nto stay with this girl.It seems like all she wnats is sex,job free life style,and not be responsible to do the cleaning that is alwasys required,She is just taking adavntage of u and u know it or u would not be asking this question,You see her do it right in front of your face evryday and do not do nothing about it.I think it is time to break it off and move on to a new town and restsrt yer life with new home and relationship and maybe this job move was the greatest oppurtununity for u to break it off.
2007-02-01 17:38:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why don't you try to be open with your partner, try to tell what she have been doing, what do you like for the betterment yo both of you living in same house. Both of you should have the so-called give and take relationship so that you can feel both what is meant by true love.I think if that is your case, just go along talking to her about the things you wanted her to do and try to explain everything that what your doing is for the best that both of you could feel.
2007-02-01 17:35:24 · answer #6 · answered by Maricris D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love isn't enough. Obviously, she is not the right partner to give you the kind of life you want. You're not being unreasonable, she's just not the right woman for you. Trying to change her will be a disaster, so it's time to let this relationship end and look for a woman who is right for you.
Please don't stay with her just because she's better than being alone. That isn't fair to either of you.
2007-02-01 17:27:45 · answer #7 · answered by SLWrites 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Explain these thoughts to her and give her the "old tomato" ultimatum get a job, go to school or pull your weight around the house. Don't let her get too relaxed with this lifestyle because then she'll never change. So stop thinking and start talking.
Good Luck!
2007-02-01 17:27:06 · answer #8 · answered by Niinnaa 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you need to let her know how you feel about what going on. she
need to get a job, and start doing thing aound the house. it not
fair that you are doing everything, because trust me, if you dont
handle it right now the next apt will be the same. time for her
to get it together or time to move on by your self.
2007-02-01 17:33:01 · answer #9 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am totally with Lynne...i lost my job a month ago and i do everything to make sure my man knows that he is appreciated im only 18 but we have been together for 2 years and there is no way we would have lasted this long if our relationship is as one way as yours...good luck
2007-02-01 17:31:28 · answer #10 · answered by ddmynx 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well u sound very mature & thats good that u clean & u sound like a nice & healthy man.......but just try to sit down wit ur gf & try to consault wit her like draw up a chores grid or sumthin like that & then make a special night wit her & if she keeps up wit her work then give her a treat or sumthin special for her improvment....but if things dnt work out that way then its time to start agian i know it will be hard but u gotta try.....i know i sounds like ur trianin a dog but it worked wit me & i'm only 14 i know my rules know...best wishes
2007-02-01 17:31:51 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋