Well,i joined a college last year with lot of hope with my future. There i met this guy who was very frindly and so we started a relationship.it went soomthly last for 8months and we even had sex(i know stupid me).now our relationship kinda shaky and yea now i am ok whether he want to be with me or not: But i feel so disapointted coz i had sex with him,bcoz and i wanted to have sex with my husband and now i am suffering from this stupid mistake i made. I want to forget about evrthing and go back to my real life which i was. PS:Now i have stop going college and hoping to go assuy to study hairdressing...these days i am jobless and feeling so down!!! plz give me a good advice to get rid of this mentality!!!
thanx alot
2007-02-01 17:15:28 · 6 answers · asked by amy 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
It is hard to be young and feel so much. Don't be so hard on yourself. You had a experience and you have learned. If you want to remain celebate now until marriage that is great. Why did you leave college? You may want to go and talk to a counselor. I know it helps sometimes. :)
2007-02-01 17:20:46 · answer #1 · answered by dorothy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all I'm sorry. This kinda happened to my bestfriend. She was down for the longest time. You need to decide if this is what you want. And from what you are writing it seems like it's not what will make you happy. I believe that the decision is up to what you decide not what random ppl like me say. Don't feel disappointed in yourself, things happen and they usually happen for a reason. Like l said from what you say it seems like he's not the one you want for a husband, and the man you choose for a husband will understand you. This lesson can be taken as a new path for your life. Its a new road your woing to have to take and make the best of. This is your real life and your going to like I said make the best of it. Be happy if hairdressing is going to help then go for it.
I wish you the best, hold your head up high, don't let him bring you down, because you are probably worth more than you'll ever imagine. (i know my best friend is)
2007-02-02 01:32:30 · answer #2 · answered by Livier A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to someone, a friend, councellor, Mom, sister. Get all these feelings out in the open and it will help you move on. You are so young to be giving up because you made a mistake. We all make them. Give yourself a break and make the decision as to what kind of person you are going to be from now on and stick to it.
2007-02-02 01:37:30 · answer #3 · answered by kiera70 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you had experience and don't be hard ON your self must ignore the past it was a mistake but you cant change it than forget re grating about past you have a whole bunch of a life than why not make it useful .Try to be happy try to live lively and you should hang around with friends than you can forget about it and you should try to find a friend with you can share any thing this will keep you happy
2007-02-02 01:32:22 · answer #4 · answered by zain86us 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you admitted that you feel like it was a bad choice.you dont have to have sex again even with him. its your body not his.sex
needs to be on your terms.you need to feel comfortable with it.
and did you change your career path because of him or because of you?now you need to decide what path you want to follow.
if you want to abstain from sex that is a valid life choice.if you want to keep having sex then try to figure out why you feel guilty.
2007-02-02 15:46:39 · answer #5 · answered by mentalzan2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do not need the love, affection or attention of another person to define yourself!
2007-02-02 02:20:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋