Single and Lonely? Share your story here and relief some of the pain.?

Question

Well, it's almost about that time of year again in feburary (besides black history month, of course!^^). Man, i can't believe that i actually made it through 18 years and still no guy. Although i'm pretty sure some of you guys lasted longer than i have. I guess i'm pretty sad because i just found out that my childhoodfriend--

(Whom by the way, we're friends again and gotten the whole broken friendship/relationship thing fixed up.)

--is now dating a guy i've had a major crush on years ago and still sortof do. Deep down inside, i knew he didn't really like me and the signs between him and my friend were pretty much obvious. I didn't really react too bad because she's pretty understanding and i trust her well enough to hang out and be with anybody. Not to mention, he got out of a relationship along time ago and she got out of a relationship, So I kinda knew this would happen.

*ahem* Anyway, if you guys wanna share something here, please feel free to!

Answer 1

You have already missed the trains, but not the last one. I really wish that everyday is your Valentine"s day, full of love and jealousness. But such a good thing cannot happen eveyday. It's faith and destiny. Life should be both sadness and happyness. Just wait for the next train to come. Good Luck.

Answer 2

Well first I want to thank you for posting this question; although your story is kind of sad, it's nice to know that I'm not alone. I've also lived for 18 years without finding a true girlfriend, but valentines day has never really been too bad for me. Though there were a few times when I hated it, the holday had some good. Last year, I met a girl the day after valentines day and we talked about the loneliness of being single. We ended up going out for a few months and it was a great time. Unfortunately now I'm single again, but I've had some good time. As for your story, don't beat yourself about it. There's a guy out there who's perfect for you. Feel free to email, or if you think that's creepy, then disregard this sentence.

Answer 3

21 years ago, there was a provision shop at the void deck of my flat. The shop owner daughter was about my age. I fall in love with her the first time I saw her. But that time, I was too shy (I was 14 years old) to tell her. For the next 7 years, I saw her everyday, but I did not built up enough courage to tell her, although we did chat in few occassions. Until one day, the provision shop was sold, I didn't see her then till now almost 13 years. I admit there was so much regrets I have, I still miss her, and I believe for the next 21 years, I will still fill with regrets.

Fate is to seize the opportunity when it come....hope no other will let this happen to you.

Answer 4

I'm 30 and single but not lonely. I guess its because I have other things occupying my mind. I finally understood what people meant by finding things to do to occupy that loney time. Mine is getting my health together and career on track. Now if someone comes along the way, then its all good but I'm tired of looking anyway.

Answer 5

Don't feel too bad. I'm the kind of girl who dreams of finding love. I love those cheesy chick flicks about dating and am constantly thinking about guys. But, still no boyfriend.
I think my main problem is that I am not allowed to hang out with anyone after school. Basically I go to school, extra-cirriculars (like piano and drama, not many hotties there) and then I go home and spend "quality time" with my family. It sucks! I'm crushing on like 3 guys right now and they are all my friends. I talk to all of them, they smile at me in halls, but I just can't get anyone to like me like that.
Another thing that doesn't help is when girls at school come up while I'm talking to my crushes and sit in their laps. They start playing with the guys hair, and practically lick their faces. It's gross and slutty in my opinion, but sometimes I want to be like them so guys will pay attention!
Hm...good things come to those who are patient (or in my case, those who are forced to wait) so soon enough, you and me will be part of the dating scene. Till then, good luck! Sorry about your situation with your friend. Hope a new guy comes your way soon!

Answer 6

Thanks for sharing your story. You have the whole world ahead of you so don't be discouraged. I have to comment on Tan D's post. I was in a similar situation as him but I was slightly older, maybe 17 at the time. There was this girl named Ingrid that attended a very popular catholic school in my city. I saw her everyday on the bus ride home. She wore peach lipstick and always smiled at me when our eyes met. I finally got the nerve to sit next to her and ask her for her number. Conversations were great but I didn't express the romantic feelings that I had for her. My fear paralyzed me. To make a long story short whatever "fuzzy" feelings she had for me disappeared and she began dating a guy months later who she eventually had a very long relationship with. I was devastated, almost to the point of depression. I would ride the bus home and listen to this Janet Jackson song called "Lonely", a track from her Rhythm Nation LP. When I came out of my funk I told myself that I would never let that happen to me again. If I get rejected that's ok, but I would never allow my romantic intentions to be hidden again. I saw Ingrid years later in a nightclub and needless to say we were both ecstatic to see each other. We sat down for drinks and I asked her in a confident, matter of fact way if she liked me enough to date me all those years ago. She looked at me with those soft eyes and said "yes". "I waited for you as long as I could". "I didn't think you wanted me". I'll never forget the sinking feeling I felt that night after she told me that. She was married as well as I at the time so that is where that conversation would end. That's the last time that I saw her. The moral of the story is when you have a wolf by the ears hold on tight and don't let go, because their bites never heal.

Answer 7

Well I am glad to hear that you actually put the past behind you. Just look what is in front of you. Whatever have happened in the past is history and there is no point clunging to it. Just move on with your life and I believe there is somebody out there for you.

Answer 8

im unmarried were for a lengthy time period. from what my brother used to inform, and from my previous journey with some females (not relationships) i got here to the opinion that purely about all females should be merciless, and not in any respect in a stunning good way. i wager im not a huge fan of valentines day because i not in any respect extremely had someone to percentage the vacation with. ..... my god i think like the grinch

Answer 9

Don't feel bad girl every woman has been in your shoes. And I know that you will find a good man that is worthy of you when you least expect it. So pamper yourself girl.... Don't let this time of the year bring you down...

Answer 10

I hope you feel a little better and remember you still have plenty of time.