my sister in law has a one year old same as me and she wanted us to trade kids on the weekends so we could go out with our hubbys. when she would ask me i would always do it but when i asked her she was always to sleepy or had to go to the store(i was able to take both kids to the places i need to go) now she is pregant with her 2nd and told the family at christmas that since i lived so close that i would help out and there is no way in hell i want to if she is always to lazy to care for my kid what should i do to tell her hell no.
2007-02-01 17:04:16 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
The hardest people to tell is family because you don't want any bad feelings but if you don't get some back bone and just let her know that you don't appreciate it then she will continue to do this. I would just let her know the next time she calls and needs you to watch her kids that you are tired or have plans with your family! She will get the message after a couple of weeks. Good Luck!
2007-02-01 17:30:07 · answer #1 · answered by LSD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well - hell no - with an explanation as to why (you lazy b**ch were to busy or tired to hold up your end of the deal)...
I'd talk to your husband and brother first, and explain the situation... you'll need everyone to understand why you need to stick to your position.
And I think you really need to stick to your position - if you have a mutual agreement, and one party fails to keep up their end, then the deal is over.
She sounds like a problem, for which I'm sorry... but she's taking advantage of you, and you need to end it...
-dh
2007-02-01 17:10:13 · answer #2 · answered by delicateharmony 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell her that if you help out that you are HELPING out.....tell your hubby that his sis isn't doing what she is suppose to. If you help and she isn't doing anything tell her that you are leaving and to take care of her kids and that you will see her tommorrow or thursday or when ever....don't let her walk all over you and sure in the hell don't take care of someone elses kid when they can't even do it them self....
2007-02-01 17:09:42 · answer #3 · answered by ♠ melisa ♠ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you can't, you're too sleepy and you need to go to the store.
2007-02-01 20:04:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just do as she does, your actions speak louder then word, she
has not time for you when you need her, turn the table on
her. you dont have time for her, then she will see that it take
respect from each other. then she may get the hint that you
cant treat people like that.
2007-02-01 17:23:21 · answer #5 · answered by luckystar 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sit down with her and explain to her how you feel and that she is taking advantage of you. You didn't tell her to have another kid.
2007-02-01 17:09:56 · answer #6 · answered by roxanne 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just to keep the peace just make your self unavailable to her. If she questions you tell her that she can't make time for you you can't make time for her.
2007-02-01 17:07:46 · answer #7 · answered by jagbeeton 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
HELL YES tell her HELL NO
2007-02-01 17:08:54 · answer #8 · answered by Gina 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just say no...How dare her volunteering you...If i was you i would just say i have plans already, its not up to you to raise her kiddos...
2007-02-01 17:25:52 · answer #9 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋