tell her to move the **** out of the house she's too old to live at home.
2007-02-01 17:00:48
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answered by Anonymous
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She needs to be banned from the house and every other place that her Dad is until she grows up. If she comes back , have the cops remove her from the property. Try a least a six months separation of her from your husband, if this does not change the way she acts, go for a year. This cannot be healthy for your husband and you. Take the lead, stop it asap, even if you have to put her under a no trespass on your property.
2007-02-02 01:07:30
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answered by m c 5
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There may be a reason for all this. She could had been abused by the father when she was young. Try to find the truth. If there is nothing, she is 21, asked her to move out or get married.
I am sure she is working and can afford it but if she is still dependent on her father, well you can bargain with her to behave herself or the allowance will be cut.
Good Luck
2007-02-02 01:12:57
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answered by sonisunny 3
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That's wrong, hunny. His daughter shouldn't be abusing him. Usually it's the other way around, but I see where this is going. Either, you should tell her to move out, or you two move out without her knowing. I know that you probably think that she should know, but if she's doing that to him... she really shouldn't. I say you get him away from her... you should too. Sit down with him, talk him into moving with you so he won't be verbally abused like that. You know that your tired of it, you probably can't take it anymore and you're probably getting so sick of it. He probably is too, he might be thinking that she needs to go. Just sit down and talk with him. Ask him questions like "How would you feel by moving away from your daughter?" or "If you're so sick and tired of your daughter verbally abusing you... why won't we just tell her to move?" and if that don't work... try kicking her out and don't let her come back. I know that's mean, but sometimes... you got to do what you got to do. Hopefully it helps.
2007-02-02 03:54:19
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answered by Tessa 2
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Unfortunately your spouse didn't do what was needed to be done at the time this behavior began, the only thing to do now is to get him to agree to stand with you in not allowing that kind of behavior from her.
Set down an ultimatum that requires her to treat him with respect or get out! Tough love is just that ...tough.
Just so you understand, your husband is to blame for this just as much as the girl if not more so. You have to get his co-operation in putting an end to it and make him stick to it!
2007-02-02 01:11:36
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answered by RP2@AZ 1
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If her mom and him are divorced (as opposed to her mother passing away) she may harbor a lot of resentment and negative feelings. You didn't say whether she lived there or not, either way, if she can't respect her father in his own house, especially at that age, she needs to leave. You say you don't put up with it - how? By sticking up for him? He needs to stick up for himself, its his kid after all. He needs to be her father first, not her friend. If he refuses to put her in her place and she doesn't stop, it may be you that needs to leave. Not enough info to get in depth here, but I would say that this is first and foremost HIS problem.
2007-02-02 01:05:03
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answered by prismcat38 4
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Why doesn't HE make her stop? When grown up children behave like young children they need to be treated accordingly. Maybe your husband tunes her out and it doesn't bother him. What if you loudly say, " Your father is so hurt by what you are saying he can't bring himself to tell you to stop. But I can and will. No one deserves to be spoken to in this way. Please come back/ call back when you can speak in the loving tone WE expect in this house" Maybe your husband doesn't have the heart to scold his daughter. It'll have to be up to you to be the bad guy in order to protect your husband and the peace in your home.
2007-02-02 01:06:32
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answered by LO! 4
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Ask your husband how he feels about it. Maybe he likes to pamper his daughter beyond limits. Some men are like that, but he should draw the line where pamper ends and respect begins. U can only urge him to draw the line.
2007-02-02 01:03:41
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answered by wizard of the East 7
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Have your husband and you do some role playing so he can practice how to handle his daughter. Show him how he can respond - stuff like "Please dont talk to me that way" or "Im not going to talk to you anymore until you change your tone" Then you can play his daughter and he can practice his stuff...(Hint: Youll need to practice this over and over 'til it becomes an automatic for him - sometimes you might have to do this unexpectantly)
2007-02-02 01:05:39
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answered by rokdude5 4
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Do the reverse, the more she becomes abusive the kinder and nicer you act. She'll eventually get too annoyed and stop.
2007-02-02 01:02:18
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answered by Anonymous
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Spread this massages among her friends and teachers, and convince them that they can help Suzanne for respective talk with her guardian.
2007-02-02 01:16:48
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answered by rajesh t 2
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