This is in regard to dating...will a guy admit that they feel insecure in this sort of situation, or would they avoid dating the woman altogether?
2007-02-01 16:48:46 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Usually its the women who avoid dating men with lower income. And many men know this. That's why most men won't even ask for a date a woman who makes more money than they do.
Nobody likes being rejected. And neither do men in a dating situation.
Perhaps 'threatened' is not quite the right word to describe how men feel about women who earn more than they do. 'Insecure' , 'unattractive' , and 'inadequate' is a more accurate description of how they feel.
2007-02-01 17:10:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think that some men might feel uncomfortable or insecure about dating someone that's more successful than they are. It's been kind of the norm or perception for the guy to be more successful than the girl. Personally, I don't have a problem with it. If my girlfriend is more successful than I am, then that's just something that I would support her for doing. I think it's just really the mentallity of the guy. Everyone is different.
2007-02-02 00:59:44 · answer #2 · answered by jct_21187 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends, you should ask them in a nice non-threatening way so they don't get offended. Men usually know who they are attracted to, & will tell you upfront if $ will be a big issue. What are each of your financial goals?
What ever will make someone happy might not make another person happy, so you should test the waters to see what you will both feel comfortable with. It depends on how much you like each other.
Some people misintrepret being successful w/being aggressive. They are 2 completely different things.
Bottom line is ask the important questions before doing anything hasty.
2007-02-02 01:07:16 · answer #3 · answered by Trinity 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some men, mostly old fashion guys. The world is changing and many women are doing more and making more than men in the working world. I won't lie my girlfriend is a RN and makes more money than me. It doesn't bother me. It's always nice to have that additional income, it definitely takes a lot of stress off of me. If the guy does not want to date you for this reason then it's his loss trust me, besides now a days, the guy needs to try harder to get a woman who is able to handle her own and some. It's more of a challenge.
2007-02-02 00:58:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
A few men are put off by women who are successful, they feel they cannot be in charge and take the helm when this kind of Women is around. Their ego is flatten and in my opinion they will not date because this scares them.......P.S. I was flying to New York a few years ago a Female voice came on the speaker and said this is your pilot, I swear 10 Men wanted to get off the plane.
2007-02-02 00:57:10 · answer #5 · answered by boddkins 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Actually, a lot of guys are not insecure around successful women. A lot of guys are simply turned off by the arrogance that some women display when success comes.
2007-02-02 00:57:03 · answer #6 · answered by Mr. Reality 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Generally, men will avoid a more successful woman
But, quality men are not intimidated by quality women. In fact, they find them a bit of challenge and typically want to pursue them.
You don't need the ones that avoid you. By doing so, they have done you a favor.
2007-02-02 00:55:17 · answer #7 · answered by SafetyDancer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not, I actually like it. That means money won't be an issue. Now it does go both ways, can she handle being more successful than a guy she's dating.
But for me, it's no problem, never been concerned with that kind of status stuff.
2007-02-02 00:53:45 · answer #8 · answered by WestCoastin4Life 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only insecure men who don't feel they have enough to offer a relationship with out making the most money.
2007-02-02 00:55:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I love the self-serving term "threatened." That really only applies to physical situations, and what man could not knock out the always shorter always weaker females?
Further, why would we feel insecure if for once in their god damned lives women paid for their own crap instead of expecting us to push them around in a stroller?
Judging from your avatar, I'm guessing the guy doesn't want you because you are really ugly, as many successful women are- you know the type- short hair because they want to be men, etc.
Just read the women's magazines- they will find a way to twist misery into seeming like you are the threatening one.
Hey, if men are avoiding you . . . are you really "successful"?
2007-02-02 00:54:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋