I have two kids right now a 4yr old girl and a 2yr old boy. I love being a mom even though it can be stressful at times. My husband and I have talked about it and we do want one but we want to get a house first and get my career started, but I don't want to wait and then have to put my career on hold when we finally do get these things done. I also don't want to put too many years between the kids ages neither. What do you think ?
2007-02-01 16:43:29 · 9 answers · asked by maliksa3782 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
It is absolutely the right time to have a third if you are going to have another, I have three and they are 2 years apart. They are close enough together to have common interests, be great playmates and also help each other through typical childhood issues. They are also far enough apart to be able to afford the big events in their lives with little or no trouble, like drivers ed, or graduation etc.... once you have 2, a 3rd doesn't add all that much stress.....
2007-02-01 16:53:50 · answer #1 · answered by CoolThatWa 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think whenever you feel ready. Having children is a stressful thing, and things get very crazy, especially in the young child development years.
However, don't wait too late to have another baby if you plan to. It sucks to be that child, with 2 older sibilings that have nothing to do with the "baby" of the house, once the latest child grows more.
I am the youngest of my family, my older brother is 5 years older, and he has a brother thats 5 years older than him. It wasnt planned that way... My mother got pregnant with the oldest one, then 5 years later was suprized by my older brother, got a divorce, remarried, and had me a year later... Its not so bad, but I wish I had someone to talk to more. Everyones off, and I have no one to help me with things. And my parents are older at my age than when my brothers were my age, so they can't do as much with me. I think 5 or 6 years difference should be the cutoff.
2 or 3 years sounds pretty good though. That way you only are paying for 2 kids at a time for college, or senior stuff, different higschool things. I never realized how expensive highschool is...
They would be close enough to have a good relationship (all kids fight, but once they turn to adolescents, they usually get along pretty well), yet far enough to haev their space.
2007-02-01 16:52:16 · answer #2 · answered by jo_elizabeth2009 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be great if you could wait another 2 years. Your new baby would be apart by 4 years.. which would make attending college easier on you because when one starts the other finishes. It would give you enough time to also meet your other goals in life. You've become a mom already so start your other plans. And wouldn't be nice to have a house for your family to grow up in and have memories in?
2007-02-01 16:49:41 · answer #3 · answered by fuhreezing 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only you know when it is right for you to have another child. I will say that going from two to three is completely different than having the second baby. I do not know what it is about that third baby but it is non-stop. I have talked to other families about this and they agree. Even my sister, who has five, said the third is the hardest transition. Good luck
2007-02-01 16:50:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nice to know that u love kids. By the way, if u want to have a third bundle of joy, i think its time now b'coz now yr second child is 2 yrs old. By the time the third one is born, the second child will turn 3 yrs old. That gap is enough.
Good luck. My best wishes and prayers are with u. Proceed dear proceed.
2007-02-01 16:50:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Simple: this will satisfy all your needs.
Adopt a lovely, cute child!
That does not stop your husband and you making love henceforth! Yet, you can still get a house, get the career started, etc. How does that sound??
2007-02-01 16:49:44 · answer #6 · answered by thegentle Indian 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would recommend having the third child now.
You haven't said your age.
You can go back to work when the kids are in school.
If you want another child, then make that your priority.
2007-02-01 17:38:17 · answer #7 · answered by gg 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should go to college.
2007-02-01 16:58:07 · answer #8 · answered by bewitching_green_fairy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think if you can aford it do it now ,, dont wait to far apart they wont have much in common ..........closer in age the better
2007-02-01 16:47:58 · answer #9 · answered by t_ibrahim 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋