My exgirlfriend dumped me and then I stopped calling and she contacted me again. I asked her why she was calling me and she said she wants to be friends now and see where it goes because she was not happy with me when we were together. She has told me there is no one else and I think she is telling the truth. Now she calls me constantly. Sometimes five to six times a day. I try to avoid some of them. She asks me why I never called her when I don't return her calls. She asks me to lunch and other things but we are no longer physical. I have no idea what to do. I don't want to be put on the backburner or be friends, its too hard for me. I would rather walk away. But should I give her time? Should I see what happens? Or better tell her I can't be friends with her and move on? I have no idea what she is up to. She will not stop calling me. What do I do? Possible we will be back together? Or she has already put me in "friends forever" category?
2007-02-01 16:31:54 · 16 answers · asked by D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Be honest and tell her how you feel. Either she will say that she doesn't want to be more than friends and the two of you part ways or she'll wake up and realize that she might lose you. It sounds like she is already worried about losing you. Girls are weird when it comes to breaking up, especially when they think that YOU might be moving on. She is probably worried that you are going to move on to someone else which she doesn't want to happen yet but at the same time, if someone comes along that she is attracted to, she won't have any qualms about pursuing that relationship. Give her an ultimatum before you end up getting hurt.
2007-02-01 16:39:46 · answer #1 · answered by Brandie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh gosh... it seems like you're in a really tough situation here. As for me, I don't have much experience with relationships because I remain single most of the time. If she contacted you, then she might be interested in getting back together. However, I find that her calling you five/six times a day is just downright annoying. I think she feels bad that she dumped you and that's why she keeps calling. When i broke up with my boyfriend, i wanted to stay friends with him so i did keep contacting him on AIM.. and stuff like that... so that's from a girl's perspective. I guess I wasn't really ready to let go of him yet. If i were you I'd confront her as soon as possible, give her a call back to the phone calls you missed and simply ask: What do you want to do? If you have no problem being friends with her then stay friends with her. So i guess, give it a few days before coming to a decision. As for me, I found it realllyyyy hard to stay friends with my ex... i don't know what we are, but we're not really friends. For me, at least, you're either together or you're not. It's really hard to be in between when you've gone out already, you know?
I hope this helps!
2007-02-02 00:43:02 · answer #2 · answered by septembersapphire22 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably subconciously didn't respect her as a girlfriend, and now she wants to see if you treat her differently as a friend.. She wants to make it with you and perhaps be together again, but wants it to be better this time around.. In the meantime, she's holding back 'cause she sees you're not that receptive... at least that's the way I see it... You should ask her yourself about the "friends forever" category, and don't settle for anything but a straight answer. You don't even seem like you want to be with her though.
2007-02-02 00:41:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know someone who was almost in the exact scenario as you. My friend was having the same problem with having to be friends with the girl who broke up with him. After awhile he couldn't take waiting around anymore to see if she was going to ask him back so he one day decided to tell her that he found a new girlfriend. It wasn't true but she was shocked, he just felt like he needed to move on. He is still in speaking terms with her nothing major and he is very happy he made that decision to move on.
I would recommend to tell her how you feel. You will feel much better and you'll learn how she really feels about you.
2007-02-02 00:52:40 · answer #4 · answered by Sheeners 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did she dump you for someone else... then having that not work out and came running back to you?
Are you still attracted to her?
If not... see how this friends thing go... and have her understand its not going any further then that. If its really that difficult, just walk away.. if she won't leave... start a fight with her... that should work..
If yes... give her another chance... but play 'hard to get'..
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2007-02-02 00:45:12 · answer #5 · answered by Virus Type V 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she needs you as a friend right now and not a lover. She is holding onto to familiarity and comfort and needs someone to talk too. I think she truly cares about you and wants to remain good friends and maybe more. You'll have to find out. I don;t know why you can't be friends with her, but if that happens, tell her you have other things to do and can't devote all your time to her.
2007-02-02 00:36:35 · answer #6 · answered by nobluffzone 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think You still care about Her.
You gotta let Her know what She did was not cool.
Even if You want hertake Her calls...........Then tell her Your busy.
Woman like attention.
Also remind Her, She left You!
You do have a life. Tell her You can be friends..But
You are dating other people.
She needs to know how it feels to be dissed and put on the back burner.
If You really want Her..let Her earn Her way back to You.
You are worth more. You deserve to have a woman who respects You as a man.
2007-02-02 00:44:20 · answer #7 · answered by nickname 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just said you don't want to be put on the backburner or be friends. So ask her if she wants to get back with you.
If she doesn't walk away for good.
If she does then you have to decide.
2007-02-02 00:39:04 · answer #8 · answered by Venom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds like a psycho. She dumped you and now is pretty much stalking you. I would tell her that I didn't want to be friends because it was too painful and you just need space. Then don't take her calls, block her e-mail, etc.
2007-02-02 00:37:56 · answer #9 · answered by Sterling 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be up front with her. If being "just friends" is to hard on you let her know. It sounds like she is trying to get back together with you.Tell her how you feel and let her know that it is dating or nothing. I am sure she will come clean with her intentions and everyone will be better off in the long run (together or not).
2007-02-02 00:41:19 · answer #10 · answered by sara123 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋