MY FRIEND IS GOING TO KILL HIMSELF, hELPPP :(:(?

Question

Im ex boyfriend wants to get back with me but i keep telling him no, because things just didnt work out and i need to end this relationship. I told him i just wanted to be friends but he cant do that because he says he loves me to much and that owuld be to hard on him and he couldnt deal with it.

He started crying and pleding to get me back but i just didnt give in, he said he would never do anything to hurt me, and he would do want ever i wanted, i told him i just dont think that its going work . He kept pleding that he would prove me wrong

He told me he could never be with any other gurl, he would die loving me. He told me after me He has nothing else to lose...

I think he is going to kill himself, because he was talking about it. I just dont know what to say to change his mind, well besides the obvoius.. going back out with him but i just can not trust it will work out, my gut tell me no.

BUT HES GOING KILL HIMSELF, what do I DO!?!??!?!?!

Answer 1

you can always call 911 and have the police go out for a welfare check. you can tell him to call 1800-suicide or your local suicide hotline (google it) to talk to a trained intervention specialist. i work for one of these lines, and theyre very helpful for a lot of ppl.

my ex did the same thing to me...i ended up sending him to the psych ward. he wasnt happy about it but he said much later that he respected me even more for doing this.

just know that its NOT YOUR FAULT, and that you dont have control over your actions. OR, you can always call a suicide hotline--its called a 3rd party call--and talk to them more...theyll get details, etc and go from there, and decide what is the best way that you can help him, given your situation.

good luck.
note: even though some people are suggesting that you stay friends with him to prevent him from killing himself, know that in no way are you responsible for staying friends with him. if you want to, you want to, if you think its better that youre not friends, then thats OKAY. sounds like youre concerned about him, so call the police...sometimes you need to give up control. this could very well be a tactic to manipulate you and for him to get you back in his arms and in his life. still, i applaud your wanting to help. no shame in that.

Answer 2

First off, let me tell you that I'm completely biased about this because my daughter's boyfriend did the exact same thing - he threatened to kill himself (in lame poem form) if he couldn't have her, and she immediately felt sorry for him and took him back.

I think it's low - to use his life as collateral and a bargaining chip to toy with your emotions. This alone should signify to you that he is a selfish person - who doesn't care what you want in a man, but rather what he thinks he needs and he's decided that he needs you.

A real man, honestly, would understand that some relationships will work out, and some will not, and he has to let nature take its course. If he threatens to hurt himself or anyone else if you don't love him - well, that like the equivalent of a child holding his breath if he doesn't get a cookie.

I'm sorry to put it this way, but be firm with your decision. Don't show him too much compassion because he'll mistake it that you still love him. It's obvious that you still care about him, so tell him that it's a stupid decision to ponder, and then tell him that you'll keep track of him and you're worried about his well being as a friend, and you'll do it through a mutual friend.

DO not go back with him because of this threat because it is already a sign of a bad relationship. And your gut tells you it won't work out, well, it won't. Good luck.

Answer 3

He is not your responsibility, free will and all. If you are really worried and are a minor, talk to the counselor at school or your parents. If you aren't a minor, the only thing you really can do is call the police and indicate he made threats against himself. It may or may not do any good. Remember, you are not responsible for anyone's actions but your own. If he does commit suicide it isn't your fault.

EDIT: And for the record, he is mentally ill. Do not "stay close to him" like some of the other answers suggest. He is not a healthy or safe individual. You can't help him, only he can help himself. Until he gets help, you, the object of his obsession, will only make things harder and worse for him. It would be best if you just disappeared from his radar for awhile.

Answer 4

Oh God, he's just acting desperate. He's not going to kill himself, I've seen this one before. He knows this is the only way you may consider going back to him because it's such an awful and scary thing and he knows for a fact that you'll believe him. Instead of feeling sorry for him or getting scared, you should be pretty angry that he's manipulating you this way. It's selfish of him to put you through this guilt and stress just because he wants something that you don't. Stay strong with what you say you want. Make it clear that your relationship is over and that you won't let him manipulate you. He'll probably go so far to call you and say he's about to do it, but he won't. Call his mom or dad and tell them what he's doing. Believe me, his nonsense will stop right away.

Answer 5

you need to contact his family ASAP. I also would tell my parents and friends. look,he might turn around and kill you instead!
IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT that he is unstable!
this boy has depression issues that his parents should have noticed. do not get involved with this guy either...he has no respect for his own life how can he even say he loves you or respects you! he is bad news.
on that subject if he did do it he will just comeback and have to go through it again until he realizes not to do it in one of his next lives .

Answer 6

wow i had da same problem but i told straight up stop being stupid u knew it wasnt working so i called it quits, either we stay friends or not at all, i dun want to play games n make u feel as though im giving u hope,killing urself ont solve the problem, before u can love any person u have to love urself. and then i had sum of his friends talk to him to n it was slow though the process of healing but me n r friends now...

Answer 7

you need to let someone else know what going on. he need
to get some professional help to deal with the pain that he
going though, you dont need to go back with him just to
save him from doing this. it will only hurt him even more, he
need to talk to someone about this. as for you just be there
for him if you can but he need to make his own way and you
cant do that for him. good luck to both of you.

Answer 8

Dial 911

Answer 9

Well tell him tt wat he is doing is hurting u... if he is sincere enuff mayb u guys can get baq togather on a long distance r'ship... no point both of u hanging on ... not wanting to let go and he hurting another gal coz he cant forget u!! I mean its really mean of him to be doing tt if he is dating tt gal coz of u... wun it b better if u both get baq togather than he doesnt have to hurt u or tt poor gal.... Well follow ur heart if he pops u the quest "do u wanna get baq togather with me? " only u urself know the answer to this quest... tho dun drag this thing too long... it ll only hurt u more when suddenly he decides to put an end... take care & Good LuCk!! ;)

Answer 10

I'd love to date you so I can control you with suicide threats. Give him a stronger rope or some cyanide. Tell him how happy you will be if he kills himself coz there will be no-one threatning you and causing panic. What a loser that guy is