i'm 14 years old in the 8th grade.im so sad.ive never had a boyfriend,never been kisssed,and ive never even been friends wih any guy.i know some people say having a boyfriend isnt everything but i just really want to feel loved and feel pretty.ive already gone throught the basic parts of pubety and yet i feel that all the younger girls know way more about boyfriends than i do. there are times when i feel pretty but most of the time i feel ugly.when im at school im a very quiet person.when im in public places i see guys checking me out all the time.a bunch of girls say that im pretty but a guy has never come up to me and said anything to me.i see girls that are fat and really ugly at school,and yet they have had boyfriends and i havent.things lke that make me feel like im a different kind of ugly or fat.and i feel like all never find anyone.i cry myself to sleep sometimes because im soo depressed and im tired of hearing that ill find the right guy someday...somebody....i need help
2007-02-01 16:23:54 · 15 answers · asked by mya_valdez 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
another thing is ive heard form different people that different guys like me but that im just too quiet and ai cant break the whole shy thing.i have myspace and i get friend request from cute guys and pic comments from them telling me im cute but these i guys are all strangers.if i knew any of them in real life i bet they woldnt like me.i cant stand not having anyone.
2007-02-01 16:33:05 · update #1
yes, you do need help
2007-02-01 16:27:38 · answer #1 · answered by happy girl 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You know, I've been reading a lot of these questions out of curiosity, and I felt I really had to answer this one. Guess what? I'm almost 18 years old, and I've never had a boyfriend in my life! In fact, I've never even so much as hugged a guy before (other than family), and I've discovered it's not terrible. It's kind of frustrating for me sometimes too, but you still have such a long way to go. Don't be depressed about it, just find ways to make the most of the time you have now. Throw yourself into school, learn, grow, travel, get good at whatever you're interested in, because once you do find "the one" (which really should still be a long time from now) you will not be able to do all the things you want. Hope that's a help and a comfort...you know you're not alone!
2007-02-02 01:23:53 · answer #2 · answered by need_to_climb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are many lessons in life, and yet there are also many chances. If you took a test and failed it, you probably might be discouraged because you feel bad at the moment. But honey, you need to know that there are many MANY other chances on still getting an A in that class. Same for guys. You probably like a guy and he rejected you, but you have to know there are many other guys in the world. If there was a guy that nobody liked at his school, he's not trying hard enough. I'm not saying that he should change himself for any reason, but he probably has a personality nobody enjoys. But, there is SOMEBODY out there who will respect his personality. Those guys at your school that goes out with the "ugly" girls are probably just doing that to make somebody jealous or to just seem like a player. Don't be disgouraged. Also, rejection is how you grow up. Did you know an average girl gets rejected at least 6 times of any reason (boyfriend, girlfriend, dance, hook up) before they become mature enough to actually get a boyfriend. I hope this helps a lot. And also keep in mind there is ALWAYS hope for you!
2007-02-02 02:11:48 · answer #3 · answered by Vee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry your feeling so badly, I remember how that feels. It feels like your the only one in the world and no one notices or cares about you. And it is really sickening to keep hearing you'll have one some day, concentrate on school, that is most important. I hated that and oh yeah, the all famous they are just jealous, ignore them. It hurts when your alone and want to be loved so badly, especially if you've been hurt by someone, physically, mentally or you know. As a girl, woman we want to be loved and protected, it is natural. I wish I could say you'll meet him tomorrow but I can't dear. I can say, if guys are checking you out and girls say your pretty, you must be. It is just harder to believe it ourselves. If there is someone you like, maybe ask him to a movie or to study. We don't always have to wait for the guy to make the first move as alot of them are just as afraid of rejection as we are, they just don't like to admit it. I have a 16 year old son if you'd like to meet him:) dandanzero hotmail. At least he would make a good friend.
2007-02-02 00:33:11 · answer #4 · answered by lost angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
grl
your life sounds exactly like mine no lie
ive never had a boyfriend and as a big grl in america its not a big deal honest its just 1 more thing to stress about serously. i had this 1 friend we are no longer friends and so i told her i really liked this 1 boy named keith i mean grl he was the TOTAL package a g and 6 pack abs olnii if i could of gotten a little of that!! but any ways let me get to the story... ok so i told her that i had really liked him and everything so she "supposly" told him that i like him and then she told me that last year in 8th grade he was gonna b my valentine...also she said that he said that he liked me ... i knew that something fishy was going on.... turns out EVERYTHiNG SHE SAiD WAS A LiE!!!!!!!!
we are no longer friends there so my point is ur friends are right the right guy will come knocking at ur door it not might be today tomorrow in a month they will come im that quiet shy person in school but i dont feel that boyz are checking me out tho i have very low self esteem but my friends are always telling me i should b a model and crap so know matter what ur still beautiful and ur still gonna get a guy just go out there and act the fool and some boy will notice u!! seriously!! ive seen it happen b4 =]
2007-02-03 13:16:16 · answer #5 · answered by MiZZ. AL3XiS "YOU KNOW" 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
8th grade is fine for all of that- don't feel pressured into getting a boyfriend simply because all your friends have had one. Think of it as making you unique- you're saving yourself for something truely deep and meaningful. And just because you haven't had a boyfriend doesn't mean your ugly- perhaps you just don't appeal to them yet. You have a low self-esteem, and you need to work on that. Think of all the good things about yourself, that you have that no one else around you does. Just be positive- not only will this improve your health, but guys are much more attracted to girls with confidence- ask almost anyone!
2007-02-02 00:27:55 · answer #6 · answered by Jeremy A 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi, need not be depressed. The world doesn't comes to end if you are not having any boyfreind. Try to make some friends. Be open. Involve yourself in some extra-curricular activities. Don't think you are alone. Have your family. If you like someone, take initiative. Tell him about your feelings. Don't get dishearten if you get an unpleasent answer. Life never stops.
Take care n all the best.
2007-02-02 00:49:34 · answer #7 · answered by Gaurav D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, most boys honestly find it more attractive as you get older when you haven't been with another guy. Who ever you first boyfriend is, he will be very proud to say that he is your first boyfriend. if you want to experience it with out waiting anymore (which of course will be worth it), then you might just have to be brave, find someone you really like and say something. The worst thing that can happen is he'll say no, but don't worry because there be more chances.
2007-02-02 00:30:08 · answer #8 · answered by Sheeners 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't place your self-worth on some guy. That'll just make you feel worse if he leaves. A lot of girls give guys subtle signs that they're interested, so they guys go after them. If you like a guy, just talk to him in a pleasent manner and complement his looks. It makes a guy feel good to be called "handsome."
If you find you're not good with subtle hints, take the not-so-subtle route and ask tell a guy you're interested. If the fat girls can get boyfriends, then so can you.
2007-02-02 00:30:56 · answer #9 · answered by Mr. Reality 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey girl, listen, click on my icon to the side here
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Send me an email so I have your email address and let me write to you, you need to smile :) let me understand, There are a lot of determining factors here, too many to mention.
Your so young and I know your beautfiul... dont let this get you down, in a year or two you will wonder why you ever wrote this at all!
Come talk to me, I'd love to help you.
Peace x
2007-02-02 00:30:33 · answer #10 · answered by Kira 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that sounds like me when i was your age...hang in there and things will get better.....guys your age like girls but dont know how to really interact with us "the greater gender"...it takes time for them to gain enough confidance to talk to us...pleeeease from experince dont go for the first guy that asks you out unless you love him back...you will regret it...
also i bet the boyfriends of the girls that you lable "fat and ugly" think that their gf's are the most beautiful people who have ever graced the Earth...remember beauty is in the eye of the beholder... you just have to be yourself and wait for that special guy who can see all of your beauty...
the best of luck to you!
2007-02-02 00:35:07 · answer #11 · answered by shippos_grl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋