when i say no to my 14 month old son he keeps doing it?

Question

when i say no to my son he just looks and smiles at me but then when my husband says no he listen i think it may be the deep voice but i cant make my voice that low and when i do i smile and he thinks i am joking then what do i do to get him to listen

Answer 1

get nanny 911 to come to ur house or watch the show

Answer 2

I have 14 month old twins, so boy do I ever know what you are going through. He does not think you are joking. When you tell him no and he smiles and still does it, he know what you will do next: go get him and move him. He is wanting attention and that is all. I have found that when I tell mine no, they turn and give that cutsie little smile and still reach for the blind strings, then when I come to get them, they run or crawl away quickly and laugh. It is a game to them. They understand the word no, but WILL NOT obey in most situations.
The best thing I have ever done, is to go through the house and re-baby proof again. You know the things they are interested in and cannot have. Move them to a better spot for now. Then I place some items in the same place and let them think they are doing something wrong. It is so cute to watch their faces. Then ignore them getting the "forbidden items" and this location will lost interes and they will move on to something else.
It has worked so far.
The other thing I have learned is not to rely on discipline at this age. It is all about cause and effect. He knows that if he touches something that you told him not to that the effect is touch and attention. That is what he is after.

Answer 3

Start off by making sure you have his full attention. Get down to his level if you can. Look him straight in the eye and tell him. Most important thing is to make sure he knows you are serious, not by the deepness of your voice(especially since that makes it into a joke), but by the tone, and the fact that you are looking him straight in the eyes. You're lucky that you are doing this at a relatively young age, because it makes it easier to have more control over him. If you need to, repeat it once, maybe even twice then take him away from the situation (since he's so young you can still do this with relative ease). Hopefully these tactics will work, and he'll get used to the idea of listening to you so you don't need to physically remove him yourself anymore. Also, I would suggest that you stop using the word "no", and give him short simple sentences of what you want him to do instead even "stop that", "leave that alone", or "that's not for you" work, but try to also follow it by giving him something alternative he can do such as "come and play with this toy(or perferably mommy or daddy)" That will make him more likely to want to leave the bad behavior and go do the good one, because he will have some company. Plus it gives you bonding time with him, and a "little break" from the serious things in life. (these are my tactics and so far they seem to be working pretty well and my son seems to be getting pretty good at making it clear what he wants without throwing a fit, and if he doesn't get what he wants, he also doesn't seem to throw fits anymore cause he knows mommy is "no nonsense")

Answer 4

First off, instead of saying NO say that is not okay. Then you need to explain why. Yeah, it seems like a lot of information for a 14 month old, but they really do start to get it. You must say it in a serious voice and always follow through. If you mean no, don't give in. Us moms do that all the time and kids are smart!

Follow through... it really works.

Answer 5

Oh Lord, no matter how hard it is not to....don't laugh! LOL first rule. And yes your instincts are right on. Deeper firmer voice has an amazing affect. No matter how cute they are, you cannot smile or laugh. You have to say NO in a firm way. My thought is that this clever little 14 month old has ALREADY found a way to twist mommy around their cute pudgey little finger. Stay firm and he/she will "get it" after a short time.

Answer 6

When we say "No', we are being negative; soon we say "don't do this, don't do that". Then when the child is around ten, we and the teachers say"You can't even do this? You're no good!". "You're good for nothing! You're a fasthead. You're useless!" What would all this do to your child's Self esteem?
Between the age of three and eighteen, experts say, a child is impacted with an average of TWO million negative inputs! God grief!! Instead, as a committed parent, even if you gave the child two POSITIVE strokes a day, that can amount to 10,000 good inputs into your child's psche. What a BIG difference that can make to his self-worth!
Hence, instead of "NO", gently distract him to take up another activity that you approve of, and encourage him to DO IT! And applaud him with "Good! Hey, that is GREAT!!" and clap, and give him a kiss and a hug!!
That is re-inforcing positive behavior, instead of negative ones!
Try it. Good luck! And remember, God loves you for bringing up good kids!

Answer 7

Well, a study showed that it takes a 7 time repetition to get a toddler/small child to understand what you're saying and adults
3-5 time depending on the person.

Repeat yourself firmly and be consistent.

Answer 8

Your son understands what your saying but thats how he learns. It is the deep voice tat scares him because he knows hes in trouble and is scared..You just have to keep telling over and over again not to do it and he'll learn.My 13 month son is the same way.

Answer 9

You have to prove to him you have just as much authority as dad. When you get on to him make a serious face. If you feel the need to smile turn you back. It works for me.

Answer 10

Honestly, your husband is probably more consistent with him and you probably give in a lot to your son, so he knows he can get away with it.
Consistency is the key to a well-behaved child.

Answer 11

With 14 month-old children, there's really not a lot you can do, because they really are just too little to truly understand, and they don't have the self-control to stop themselves from doing things they want to do. You need to teach them by DOING. Say "NO." firmly, and at the same time, remove him from the situation. That's really all you can do right now.