What would you think or do?

Question

OK, this is a very complicated thing. my best friend, who I really care about is married. I met her while she was married and we became best friends. On this past Christmas I kissed her (tongue) and she didn't reject. Since then we've been around eathother all the time and are falling for one another. She says her husband doesn't make her happy. yet she doesn't want to leave him because she fears divorce and what people think. this weekend i plan on taking her off her feet. he never wants to do anything with her so we always go to places and hang out at my sisters, he knows this, but isn't botheres as we are ''friends.'' i want to have an indoor picnic (being cold and all) because shes never been on one. So I want to surprise her with that and also have candles lit around us while we are on the floor and have yellow rose petals (her fav.) covering the floor. then afterwards watch the movie we firsted kissed on...Monster's Inc. i know kid movie im 19 she's 20...so what do you think?

I know it's wrong but I can't help it. She said shes never cheated on anyone, I believe her. She didnt want this to happen but she said I make her incrediball happy.

it's definatly love. I don't lust after people I'm usally in long relationships and would NEVER consider cheating. But, its not me doin it.

We do have fun, that's why we love being around eachother. We havn't had sex.

and he didnt want to have sex till their wedding night (virgin till he was 23) and in that time she hasnt ''got off'' once. Their sex only last 30 sec or so. I really feel bad. Thats horrible.

Answer 1

I would tell u to leave her alone, but ur not gonna do that! So.. Go for it. sweep her off her feet. The plan u have sounds nice, really does, but u have to rememver at the end of the night, no matter what u've done, she goes home to him.

Answer 2

I think you haven't seriously considered the consequences of pursuing this or else you wouldn't be asking this on Yahoo!
First of all- it isn't complicated. It's very simple: She's married. To your BEST FRIEND.
Do you think he'd consider you his best friend if he knew what was going on? Why don't you quit thinking of yourself and give your BEST FRIEND a hand by dropping a big clue or something to let him know he's not hitting on all cylinders with his wife? Since you're his best friend and you seem to hit it off so well with her, then you should be able to help them be happy in their marriage.
Furthermore, you're being played for a fool and you don't even realize it. If you're going to get in the middle of your best friend's marriage and screw it up, then at least LET HER MAKE THE NEXT MOVE!!! If you keep putting the moves on her then she'll go right along with it until you two get busted (and you will), then she can play the, "Oh I'm soooo sorry honey, he came onto me and seduced me" card and then guess what- YOU GET ALL THE BLAME; she gets to keep her hubby and the get out of jail free card, you get to lose two good friends and all you have to show for it is a bunch of melted wax and comestains on your floor!
The best thing you can do is forget the whole kiss thing ever happened!

Answer 3

For starters she is married , and you are going to end up loosing a friend and getting hurt.
2nd - if all your friend wants to do is get away from her husband , then she needs to deal with the problem at hand , and not run around having an affair.
3rd same partner sex is bad - its not normal and its a sin - the bible tells us this.
If you are 19 and she is 20 - your both too young to be married and should be out having fun like normal teenagers.

Answer 4

I think that when it comes down to it that you may end up getting hurt emotionally. If she says that she doesn't want to leave her husband then she probably won't, regardless of how much you sweep her off of her feet. If you truly care about this women then you will back off of persuing a relationship. Having an affair brings with it a tremendous amount of stress, guilt, and fear. Do you want that for her? If he doesn't make her happy, you won't either. We don't "make" people happy, they have to choose it for themselves. She needs to wake up and realize that where she is in life is where she CHOSE to be and she needs to live with and accept her choices. Marriage is not a game! It's SUPPOSED to be something sacred between two people, NOT three!

If you love this women then leave her alone, even if it means stepping out of her life altogether.

Answer 5

well if i was her husband i would kick your *** so bad you would never kiss another married women tongue in this life, or the next.
I would put the boot to you to such a degree you would never even want to attend another picnick be it in, or out door that a married women or to that fact a woman considering marriage was at.....So you better think about that. Some men and you never know who it is will go to great lenght's to inform a homewreker

Answer 6

You must see that she is being very unfair to her husband.It is better to be alone than unhappy. It will only get worse for her.So she should come clean, so u both can grow. But if she is worried about what people think maybe she doesn't have a strong interest in you.Think about this. it is a strong interest that will have her do the right thing.

Answer 7

You need to leave this married women ALONE! Once her husband finds out about this , he will get revenge. Also, if she is cheating on her husband what makes you think she will not cheat on you if any thing does come of the both of you.

Answer 8

I think you are playing a very risk game here. Unless you are compelled to watch the scenes of a very ugly divorce that you helped to create - I would suggest you stop the relationship before it goes further.

Answer 9

that's just not right ,your going to get your *** beat or shot . Oh by the way you don't really care about your friend so stick that sentence ware the sun don't shine just an excuse for your concerns

Answer 10

I think she is cheating on her husband and using you as a fool. If she messes around with you on her husband, she will you with some one else. I think her husband and you both need to ditch the witch, she is just a plain old cheater and your just a dumb fool.