My son's growing up too fast!!!?

Question

I need advise. My son is fourteen years old, and he has recently become curious about sex. We have a good relationship, and he is comfortable about coming to me about most issues. He has told me that he wakes up with semen in his underwear, and I explained to him that he is becoming a young man and this is normal. We have talked about sex; however, he is not currently sexually active. Tonight, I discovered that he has been searching for animated sex cartoons. They are not too explicit, but this concerns me because I don't know what to do next. I have blocked the sites he visited and restricted other sites, but what now? I want to be angry, but I realize that he is getting older and he's curious about sex. He is now the age I was when I had him. I have worked very hard to prevent him from making the same error in judgement I did. He has never had a girlfriend, but he is now interested in older girls. What's happening with my son?

Answer 1

It sounds to me like your son is growing up. Do not be alarmed. You are doing a great job from what you have said. He can talk to you and does about sex and girls. Keep this line of communication open always. My boys are younger so I do not have this situation yet. But I have a daughter that is 14 years old. I want her to know that one mistake can change her life forever. As I am sure you have told your son as well. The computer issue is normal to me for his age. Keep up what you are doing..I think you are on the right path!

Answer 2

Well you know, if you had him around 14 or so, did you know that was normal 100 years ago? That most women were having children in their teens, and only a few women didn't have children in their teens?

Our bodies are still pushing us to have children at that age, as much as current "society" and "culture" want to reject that. You didn't make a mistake having him at that age, and it's disappointing to hear that you're brainwashed by society into thinking it was a mistake.

Tell him that this is natural and the urges he's feeling will continue throughout his life. Believe me, if he's not able to put those urges to use in a normal way, he'll seek it out in an un-normal way, like these sex cartoons. Culture sucks when it rejects the natural forces of our bodies.

I'm expecting to get "thumbs down" by a bunch of other brainwashed people, but forget them, and think about what I'm saying. Think outside of what CNN and FOX and MSN tell you for a change.

Answer 3

Oy, I have a 15 year old son. Good for you for keeping an open dialogue with him; we do the same.
You need to have a serious talk with him about porn, and all its varieties and how this is just not acceptable at all - how it is totally demeaning to all women, and totally disrespectful to you as his mom - his aunties, grandma, etc. Keep on top of the computer restrictions, and go further if he dishonours your wishes.
We can just do the best we can, and keep the information channels open. Good luck.

Answer 4

your son is becoming a young man right in front of your eyes and i know who you feel but you cant keep him lil for ever no matter how hard you try to keep him from porn he will find away to get it or find it or he may skip the porn and go have sex i had a family male friend talk with my son about porn and he even gave him some magazines that are soft core your son is at the age they start masturbating he needs tools for the job i know its hard my sons are 16,15,10 as mom we don't want to think this will happen to our baby's but it is and will if you can talk to him great my son came to me before he had sex the first time (he called me from the girls house to ask if i would kill him ) it was the hardest thing i ever had to go though as a mom but boys become men remember not to make it seem wrong or a bad thing it is normal

Answer 5

He sounds normal, but keep him off the computer.