okay so my boyfriend got this job, he works four days straight then has four days off.....he workds from 2:00pm to 12:00am......and he has no vehicle... : /
and im afraid I wont see him as much.
It's like some weird feeling of detatchment and I dunno what to do.
2007-02-01 15:49:24 · 8 answers · asked by Esmi 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I can relate to this. My BF works 12 hrs. Mon-fri, then 10 hrs. on sat. We have been just trying to make it a little more special than normal. It is hard cause he does like the job and the pay. so maybe could find some special moments to treasure in the between.
2007-02-01 15:56:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First and foremost, do NOT rely on love. Love is an emotion, and no matter how strong, emotions are chaotic. If you want a relationship to last, no matter what the conditions, you have to work at it all the time. NEVER assume he knows you love him, always show him.
As far as specifics to your situation, I would see this work schedule as an advantage. Assuming you have a job with a more "normal" work schedule, work with your employer to get your two days off to align with two of his.
Speaking from experience (I work 60 hours a week and get little time to spend with my wife), don't forget that working more than 8 hours a day can limit what a person can do during a work day. Working 2pm to 12am really eliminates alot of possibilities for activities too (no going out to the movies for instance). Remember that there may be things he wants to do on his days off that you're not interested in, or for whatever reason he doesn't want to do with you. Try to be understanding.
If he needs to sleep more as a result of the longer hours, try and find ways of telling him you love him without taking up alot of time he would otherwise be sleeping. You could leave him loving notes for instance, or maybe run an errand he would have to put off for several days otherwise.
Most importantly, talk. Talk to him about what's bothering you, but don't be demanding. Listen to him and be compromising. Love isn't just lust or adoration, love is compassion and understanding too.
I hope this helps you.
2007-02-01 18:43:34 · answer #2 · answered by whatdoitypehere 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just like the person's coment below, if it is strong it will last. Make the best out of it because there is always someone out there that has it worst. I'm in iraq right now and i work a 13 hour day 6 days a week and i havent been home or seen my girlfriend in 4 months so your situation is not that bad. I'm sure things will work out and you will make time to see him
2007-02-01 15:59:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should never complain when someone is out there working for a living. That is a part of life, and one that many do not take seriously. You should support him in his efforts to support himself and be a productive member of society.
My ex used to complain about the long hours I had to work to allow her to not work the first year of our oldest's childhood. It was very tough to put up with.
Be supportive, understanding, and thankful he is working. You just have to learn to make the time you spend together good. It's quality, not quantity.
2007-02-01 15:54:41 · answer #4 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The hours are long, but it's 40 hours a week which is a "normal" work week. Deal with it and be thankful he has a job and isn't a lazy bum.
2007-02-01 15:55:01 · answer #5 · answered by prismcat38 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its hard but you have to accept you wont be seeing him as much!!!â¥
Life has its obstacles and this is one you and him have to tackle together!!!â¥
2007-02-01 15:56:21 · answer #6 · answered by Dance♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your love is strong the relationship wilt last
2007-02-01 15:52:53 · answer #7 · answered by ,,,,,,, 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Suck up and deal with it and quit whining about it.
2007-02-01 15:54:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋