well me and my bf have been dating for a yr now and he says that i have seriuso anger problems which im trying to fix but just now he wouldnt get off the phone and he just slowly feel asleep, and when i tried towake him up he yelled at me and told me tocalm down. this happens all the time and i love him but i cant take it no more. we have fun but then again we fight a lot more than normal. im not ready tobreak up with him and i wanna be with him but i dont kno what to do. what do you think i should do
2007-02-01 15:36:34 · 16 answers · asked by wow 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
sit him down tell him that you need to have a serious talk & tell him how you feel.......calmly!!!
2007-02-01 15:41:05 · answer #1 · answered by ♣Cj♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yet another "Rules" question!! Sweetheart, in every relationship, someone has the upper hand. In yours, it's DEFINITELY him! He doesn't value you anymore. You need to do something drastic if you really like this guy. He's getting bored and he's waiting for the next girl to catch his attention. I'm going to tell you EXACTLY what to do. First, never stay on the phone with him for more than 5 minutes. If you have to, set a timer for yourself. Don't end the conversation badly, just say something like "oh, I LOVE talking to you but I have like 5 million things I have to get done tonight and I have to go!"This will always leave him wanting more and he'll never be so bored that he'll fall asleep. Secondly, NEVER call him! Let him call you! That way, he will always be in the mood to talk because he decided when to be on the phone. Lastly, the reason you are most likely in this situation is because you have made your life revolve around his. He no longer respects you because you are not the interesting, well-rounded girl he met a year ago. Think about it. Are you still doing all the same things for yourself and with your own life since you met him? If not, reassess your situation and try to develop your own time and hobbies that do NOT involve him. A guy will never respect a girl who doesn't value herself!! I highly recommend you read "The Rules". If not, email me and I'll be glad to help you out with the rest. Good luck!!
2007-02-01 23:49:39 · answer #2 · answered by answergrrl3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like there is trouble in paradise. Keep working on the anger problems, sounds like he might be getting a little tired of it. If you fight a lot now, it might not get any better. You two need to address this situation now, sounds like this relationship is headed for disaster if something does not happen to fix it.
2007-02-01 23:44:34 · answer #3 · answered by m c 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it sounds like maybe he has the anger problems. you should sit down and think to yourself are you usually the one yelling for no reason, or do you have a reason? are you angry because of him? maybe he is the angry one and has just made you feel bad. i dated a guy like that before, he considered everything i said or did being angry, and mean, and im not a mean person. i realized that it was usually him being mean and angry all the time. also, no one can tell you to stay with him or be with him that is up to you and how you feel in your heart and head. dont force yourself to stay with someone though just because you love them, sometimes its not enough. he has to put effort into the relationship too.
2007-02-01 23:42:40 · answer #4 · answered by larissaxxlove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember, show no weakness. If a battle begins you must stand your ground and fight it out. Aggression, anger, is good. It keeps you focused on your enemy.
Now, go to your garage and get a hammer. Next time he picks up the phone, smash it. If he won't wake up with a smile on his face and a "Honey, whats wrong?" Beat the **** out of him.
You have your advice.
2007-02-01 23:40:59 · answer #5 · answered by Cauli F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GET AWAY, you 2 need to break up and move on.
Take it from me, me and my ex used to beat the sh*t outa eachother, and always yell at eachother, and it was always a cycle. It's kinda dangerous cause someone can get hurt or threatened, and I was scared outa my wits so I just gave her the finally goodbye and have been ignoring her eversince. Fighting too much is not a healthy relationship.
2007-02-01 23:40:40 · answer #6 · answered by Joe Capo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
break up with him. he's abusing you. no boyfriend should ever treat you like that. you may love him but it looks like he doens't really love you back. even if you dont think its the right time then you will probably find that you made the right choice because he will probably do the same thing to a different girl and you'll be hearing a bout it and you'll say that could have been me. and you'll be relieved.
2007-02-01 23:45:59 · answer #7 · answered by zainabainza 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe some things that he does bother you and you keep them inside and then you just get angry if somethign little upsets you. every successful relationship needs good communication. if you are working on anger problems then he has to understand that and not yell at you because you're trying here. maybe u guys need to speak to a relationship expert
2007-02-01 23:51:27 · answer #8 · answered by blue ocean 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow and I mean wow you got mad at him for falling asleep talking to you If that makes you mad then I would hate to see you if he didn't call at all grow up. let me just take a stab at this you called him and talked to him forever at like 10 or 11 and you dominated the whole conversation wow sounds like allot fun for the other person. My fiance loves it when we have talked so much that I fall asleep with my head in her lap that's love . I say get help your to pissy for my taste sorry
2007-02-01 23:48:51 · answer #9 · answered by jeremy j 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is to be resolved you both have to meet half way. Granted I don`t know of anyone that enjoys getting yelled at. Kiss and make up if can. Otherwise, Be honest with each other.
2007-02-01 23:42:51 · answer #10 · answered by grtoo9 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your going trough a phase, it's just that you see each other too much that gets him caught up, both of you should give each other some space, and trust in eachother, hes overwhelmed by your presence that he just acts up, if you grat him normaly and don't get in his case youll see im change.
2007-02-01 23:42:42 · answer #11 · answered by electricbluerocker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋