My boyfriend is 32 y.o. I am 31. We are close and connect in many ways, but I sometimes see things that makes a red flag go up. Once we were at a club with a female friend of mine and he slapped her butt 2 or 3 times that night. I thought that was inappropriate. He swears he doesn't remember. another situation was he was at his friends house and his friend was talking about how much time he invested in playing video games and my boyfriend commented to the friend's wife saying " I bet you don't get any" I just found it a little odd when I was told of the conversation because I wasn't there. To me that is leaving yourself open to invitation? Am I just being overly concerned? I don't wanna end up with a cheater or womanizer.
2007-02-01 15:29:00 · 12 answers · asked by bubblesfor2 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ya noe.. it seems that u are really over paranoid and jealous.. i meann he was prob. drunk that night at the club and sayin taht sumbody duzn't get none isn't really like anything.. think nothing of it just ask him polietly if he would be more respecetfull considering that you do not like it..and keep in mind have u done something like this?? that has madeu freek out when he has done it...
hope this helps
best of luck. my wishes to you.
2007-02-01 15:33:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This ties in with your more recent posting.
These red flags are telling you deep down-watch out. He disrespects you by repeatedly demeaning your girlfriend like this in front of you. If he says he doesn't remember then he is either having blackouts ( problem drinking) or he messing with your head and lying to you. I'll say it again. Your concerns are justified. He is disrespecting you and his friendships. You don't want to end up with a cheater or a womanizer? That's exactly what you are headed for. If you stay with this guy he will cause you nothing but trouble. You say you connect with him? Just you wait. You're going to be so connected the likes of which you can't even imagine; nothing good you can be sure of that!
2007-02-01 21:13:21 · answer #2 · answered by quantumview 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey from personal experience it sounds as if this guy is bad, bafd news and cannot be trusted. I say this because I once had a boyfriend like that but it turned out that he was nothing but a womanizer and a cheater. I know cause he cheated on his wife with three other women including myself, but was told he was divorced but had no idea he was married. You will probably be best to break it off than stay with him and risk getting hurt in the end. There is someone for you but it's not him, okay!!! Good Luck!!!
2007-02-01 15:54:04 · answer #3 · answered by chris a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd be more concerned with the butt-slapping incident than the 2nd one with his friend's wife, which just seems like a harmless (altho very adult) joke. The club incident was totally inappropriate. I am from a more conservative culture, and that kinda thing is simply not done. I would let him know it was inappropriate. How else would he know about boundaries? I thinng that kind of discussion is always useful in relationships. Just dont make it accusatory. Be gentle. And ofcourse, I'd say keep your eyes open for other such incidents.
2007-02-01 15:41:24 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well the red flag should be up he must want to get busy with someone else the slap on the butt was real inappropriate
2007-02-01 15:35:29 · answer #5 · answered by DIAMOND 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh god this is a big decision and you seem old enough to have enough experience to make it. If it were me, I would break up with that goldfish and go for a more mature fish in the sea, such as one that is ready to stop fooling around and ready for a commitment. Good luck!
2007-02-01 15:33:52 · answer #6 · answered by UrNightmare 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you already are. I think that he has taken things a little to far, a little to often. You have right to be concerned. I would speak with him, but then again, he doesnt sound worth it. Follow your instincts usually there always right, especially if its not the first cause for concern.
2007-02-01 15:35:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just keep an eye on him if he starts cheating on you then make breakfast for him that's right breakfast. Make a BIG HOT batch of grits. When he sits down say, Hello sweetie! then throw all of the HOT STICKY grits in his face! then get your well balanced skillet and start smacking the hell out of him. (If your good at tennis it will help.)
2007-02-01 15:37:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you`re overly concerned, but that`s ok. It seems that this guy is a player...or somebody who`s used to flirting with women. I think you should make sure HE isn`t cheating on you, and if you find him with another woman, DUMP HIM!!!! Go out with another guy!!!
2007-02-01 15:34:26 · answer #9 · answered by Alison 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are having doubts then there is a good reason why and no matter what anyone says to you the question still remains do you trust him because if you don't then there is no relationship
2007-02-01 15:34:08 · answer #10 · answered by Sati 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋