She sleeps over at our place almost ever night with him and never sleeps at his place with him. My fiancee would like to have some time alone with me, but we always have them hanging around. His excuse is that he doesn't live with his parents and can't go to the place he lives, he lives with a girl and her mum so I can't see any reason why they shouldn't go there sometimes. What do you think? My gf is getting sick of this!
2007-02-01 15:19:00 · 17 answers · asked by saau2003 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Although she is 18, she is still living in your home. So, that makes it ok for you to lay down some ground rules. Just tell her the truth. Be gentle about it, but set limits.
Although it might not be right to tell her you don't want HER home every night, there is no reason that this guy needs to be there all the time. If you limit the number of days a week he is allowed to stay over (like 3 or 4, max) then I bet they find a way to make staying at his place work.
Good luck!
2007-02-01 15:25:53 · answer #1 · answered by mistaken4sane 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, she is your daughter and has the right to be there, if it is her home and you have made it known to her that while she is an adult, it is still her home. You and your fiance are able to be there, so why can't your daughter and her boyfriend be there? Your daughter will view it as you having a double standard, seeing as you and your fiance are not yet married. She will wonder, "what's the difference between you wanting alone time, Dad and me wanting it as well?" I have a teenage son (almost 18) and I know how kids think. Anyway, it is perfectly okay to have alone time and to ask for it. Is there any way that you can come up with a plan for one couple to be gone for a couple of hours while the other couple is home, and then visa versa? Or, better yet, why not just sit down and talk it over in a calm manner to work out a solution that is fair to everyone? Good luck.
2007-02-01 15:26:38 · answer #2 · answered by Chimichanga to go please!! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit your daughter down and tell her that things need to change.Be nice,but tell her how you really feel. Your daughter is an adult so she and her boyfriend should get a job and get their own places.I can understand letting your daughter sleep over some times,but not her boyfriend,he is her boyfriend, not husband. There is no way in hell I would let my daughters boyfriend sleep in my house with her. The other thing,it sounds like the boyfriend is up to no good. He lives with a girl and her mum? Think about it.
2007-02-01 20:52:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-13 06:48:01 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is there any reason you are allowing the bf to stay at your home? what about the daughter if she is not in school then she should be standing on her own.
besides the gf knew you had a daughter and if she has a problem with the daughter maybe you should have a problem with her.
2007-02-01 15:26:48 · answer #5 · answered by Sati 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have NEVER started allowing her to have this boy sleep over night at your place. Maybe the girl he lives with is also serving as a "girlfriend".
2007-02-01 15:36:02 · answer #6 · answered by princessscarbough 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
NOT to be rude or mean.
But why are you letting your daughter live with this boyfriend of hers. My mom would go crazy if I told her that my boyfriend is sleeping our house. My mom would kick me out of the house, tell me if I'm going to live with this guy, he should be married to me Or else, I'm a Bitc* If, I'm living a with a guy that is not married to me.
2007-02-02 02:10:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your daughter is 18; time to be straight with her. Simply sit her down and explain the situation.
2007-02-01 15:24:21 · answer #8 · answered by Bethany 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think sweetie 11 got it right.
Y is he living with a girl & her mum ??
He's either doing it with the girl or her mum or maybe both.
I'd check this situation out becvause it sounds really suss!
2007-02-01 20:00:15 · answer #9 · answered by Sheikh Mustafa El Bundy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and your girlfriend need to get a hotel room or go to her place.
I would have a problem with my daughter having her boyfriend spending the night.
2007-02-01 15:23:13 · answer #10 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋