Okay, I'm 14 in a all black and mexican school and i'm white. I met this guy who is intelligent and VERY nice and he's 15. We talk EVERY day. He sits by me before school starts, We walk by the art wing and we start talking there until the bell rings, and on top of that he WALKS to my locker and walks with me out the door. The problem is that my parents don't approve because
1) He's black
2) I'm too young to date
I'm really mad about this but i'm afraid to say something to him if something does happen. I'm worried mostly that my FATHER is going to find out >_>
My family is not racist, they just have a belief that black friends are okay but black boyfriends aren't a good thing to mix with. The thing is HE'S NOT LIKE OTHER BLACK GUYS I'VE MET.
What should I do about this?
2007-02-01 15:17:48 · 14 answers · asked by EllaBELLA♥ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh I did talk this with my mom many times but they said i'm going to regret it and she doesn't want me to "get my *** kicked"
God I would NEVER tell my dad.
My friend doesn't know that I like him like him but I don't want to ask him directly until i'm sure. This is my first time with a guy that is ACTUALLY interested in me.
2007-02-01 15:32:03 · update #1
Listen to your parents.
2007-02-01 15:21:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Ella Bella!
You sound like a smart girl. If this guy is special, I suggest you keep him as a friend. Then you'll have him much longer. Most boyfriend/girlfriend relationships don't last that long at the age of 14. But friendships often last a lifetime. I'm sure your relationship is very meaningful for both of you, but if you keep it on the friendship track, you and your family can have the benefit of knowing this young man as a treasured friend. If you still think you could fall in love with him when you graduate then your family will love him too by that time! Good luck Sweetheart!
2007-02-01 15:28:52 · answer #2 · answered by babydoll 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say but yes your family is racist. Anybody that judges people because of color is racist. You are too young to date but just because he's black shouldn't stop your parents from allowing you to date him. especially if you're in a school where color doesn't matter. It is the 21st century and everyone is 1/2 of this or 1/4 that. It shouldn't matter. Wait until your old enough to deal with this kind of situation. Be friends and when your old enough you'll know if its right or not.
2007-02-01 15:26:03 · answer #3 · answered by angleyez_18 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Who cares if he's black! You like him and that's what matters. My parents are the same only I'm not allowed to have a boyfriend until I go to college. I think you should tell him that. Maybe be his girlfriend but only in school. Just make sure your parents don't find out.(If you don't like to hide things from you parents then don't read this)
2007-02-01 15:31:50 · answer #4 · answered by Kat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Respect the wishes of your parents. Communicate the parental
guidelines to any school friends that might want to be more than
friends. Consider the fact that any adults who notify you of their
desire to "date" are subject to arrest for sex crime by any peace officers. Be thankful a father wants to protect you. Give parents
their due. Somebody VERY nice is worth waiting for, right? It is
time the reader started taking some responsibility for her life. Be
a good person and life has more to offer. See my source.
2007-02-01 15:57:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be friends. You are young yet. If you are still friends in 6 months, then perhaps your parents will start to understand.
Include your friend in as many family events as you can so that your folks can get to know this lovely young man as you do.
Good luck!
2007-02-01 15:24:12 · answer #6 · answered by huckleberry 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
LOL @ the girl who said your parents are racist. Anyways, listen to some of these guys. You may not like it, but its best not to form a wedge between yourself and your parents, ESPECIALLY over a guy regardless of race. I mean, its okay to like him, except that don't let this get between you and your parents. That's all I could tell you are anyone can really. NEVER LISTEN TO DOUCHES THAT TELL YOU TO GO AGAINST YOUR PARENTS' WISHES. NEVER!!!
2007-02-01 15:35:43 · answer #7 · answered by Sammy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you may ask you parents if they would like to meet him let them get to know the guy . If your dad is like most dads he wants to be protective of his little girl . Oh and by the way how do you meet white guise if you go to prominently black Hispanic school
2007-02-01 15:26:27 · answer #8 · answered by jeremy j 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain this to your parents calmly. Tell them that you understand their concern in being in a relationship with a black boy, but he really isn't what they think and that they should give him a chance.
Tell them you respect their position in this, but you need them to respect your decision.
NO MATTER WHAT, DON'T SCREAM OR FIGHT WITH THEM. That'll just make things go down the drain.
2007-02-01 15:22:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
hahahahhahha....that's a big problem...real big....why is it that you have a racial discrimination in your place!!!
here in philippines there's no racial discrimination!!!
everyone has a fair right...better go here in phil. maybe you can find a guy that could possibly be better than him hhehehehe joke!!!
...it would be better if you will get into relationship first!!!
...prioritize your studies
...obey your parents
...seek advices
...ask guidance from GOD
2007-02-01 15:29:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋