This one guy thinks I am a racist. He is black, he asked me out, and I didn't know him so I said no. Well, I said he is not my type, I don't look good with Black people, and this one girl overheard and told way tooo many people, so everywhere I go people ask me why??? Well, h ewon't accept my apology, he won't talk to me, or even wanna be in the same room as me. No matter how much I say sorry or cry, he doesn't care I thnk he is hurt, but.....well, I could imagine, he liked me a lot, but I need some advice on getting him to not hate me, and to go out with me maybe. I want him to give me a chance, but I dont know how........I've tried many things too.......so I would appreciate it if youc ould help me, anyone please!!!!!!!
2007-02-01 15:14:21 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First, it shouldn't matter if you "look good" with a black guy. If you didn't know him, thats all you have to tell people. If they think that you are racist, that is because they are closed minded, and he apparently can't handle rejection well, so he used racism as and excuse.
That was all one long run-on sentence, but its all the truth.
2007-02-09 02:51:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Just give him a kiss in front of all his Friends that should take care of that problem . I don't think your a racist but that truly was a racist remark . I think that you are afraid of what your parents would say if you went out with a black person. If you don't look good with a black what makes you think your going to look good with a white? If your ugly then your ugly black and white has nothing to do with it
2007-02-09 13:08:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Couple things -
1) comments like " I don't look good with black people" yes that is pretty ignorant and racist.
2) why are you really interested in him now, is it because he is no longer interested in you.
3) think about why you really said no - if it's b/c you just weren't interested, let it be
Who cares if he hates you - what you said kind of deserved it. It sucks that you hurt his feelings but not for anything, get over it. He's the one who's hurt, let him be.
2007-02-09 13:35:25 · answer #3 · answered by dolphinchick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What the he!! does it mean you don't look good with black people? Maybe you should watch how you say things because that right there makes you sound like a spoiled princess. If you didn't want to go out, just say no thank you and leave the remarks out! And he's not still mad you won't go out with him, he thinks you are a moron!
2007-02-09 14:38:08 · answer #4 · answered by Rhode Island Red 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not a racist. But You have a choice about who you go out with. If he was a white guy would you feel as bad and would you give the white guy the same Chance? He should not get any special treatment because of race.
2007-02-09 14:37:32 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't look good with black people? What kind of a statement is that? Who you choose to date should be dependent on how good you look with them. All that aside, if you have apologized a number of times, you've done what you can do with this situation. In the future, think about what you are going to say before it comes out of your mouth.
2007-02-09 04:15:26 · answer #6 · answered by Ryan A 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
i dont think you are really racist, but saying that you dont look good with black ppl is pretty racist. let it go
2007-02-08 12:48:05 · answer #7 · answered by need to know 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
well you could start out with dinner a movie and back to your place or his and treet him with a lot of love do what you got to do to get him back buy him something real nice but dont get on your nees then if he still the way he is well then you lost his respeck and i was a black man i would be hurt to but if you like him that much you would try to it least gain some of his respecked back and if it dont work out i cant tell you anything els
2007-02-01 16:08:20 · answer #8 · answered by virgil w 1 · 0⤊ 3⤋
well um this is a hard one...but i guess you could try and show him the colour of his skin doesnt matter...like tell him he could be blue it wouldnt matter...show him it really doesnt matter...as long as it doesnt..hope it helps
2007-02-01 15:20:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you might have to move states
2007-02-09 11:41:59 · answer #10 · answered by Jassie's mum 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋