How do you tell your boyfriend you may have cancer?

Question

a lot of you guys keep saying things about him maybe leaving me...that's not my concern. he has been at every doctors appointment when they didnt know what was going on, but now they think i might have cancer... he was out of town for this appointment but he's gonna want to know everything the doctor said when he gets back and i wanna know how to tell him.

Answer 1

god lets hope you don't first of all. but i would sit him down and tell him. I hope he will be there for you, and i pray that you don't have such and awful thing like that happen to you, I have lost a few people in my family to cancer. I hate to see someone else go though that.

Answer 2

If in fact you do have cancer I am very sorry to hear this-but depending on what type etc... there are possibilites of remission for most of them- just approach the subject slowly, start by saying " I went to the doctor (put the date in here) and I have something I need to tell you- he will PROBABLY think your pregnant so say right after the doctor part NO I'm not pregnant but I do have (whatever type) and then tell him what the doctors are suggesting you do for treatments etc.. If he loves you he will be there for you-if he doesn't then your better off w/out him! Good Luck sweety!

Answer 3

You tell him sooner rather than later. Or seriously, your guilt over keeping it a secret will eat you up more than any cancer. You don't need that stress in your life as well as the cancer. And, it is possible that he won't react positively but he should at least hang on until it's confirmed and by then he might be used to the idea?

Answer 4

Cuddle up with him, and tell him you need to talk.

Then tell him... and if you're scared (I would be) go ahead and cry. If he's a real man, he'll hold you, and do everything he can to support you, throughout the entire thing...

I've had the experience from the guy side... and all I wanted to do was to protect her and take care of her... I guess I just wanted to protect her even more...

I wish you all the best.

-dh

Answer 5

Usually, for the person who doesnt have the threat of cancer, the news is not as heart wrenching . He has not heard it yet so the initial response would be disbelief, suspicion ( is she for real?, is she trying to test my reaction? what game is she playing now?).
It will take some time for him to believe you and respond appropriately.

If you like, postpone telling him until the suspicion is confirmed.

Answer 6

you dont till you actually know for sure. save the people you love some worrying. however when you do find out and its postive for cancer you let them know right away. there is no right time or right place. just the there and now.
if you find out its negative, no cancer tell them you had a scare but everything is fine.

Answer 7

guys tend to like thing black and white, straight out. Find out for sure first then tell him. Otherwise he may not understand your emotions when still wondering and if he is anything like my partner will say "find out for sure then we will deal with it".

If you don't have cancer you will stress him out for nothing. Worry about facts not the what ifs.

Answer 8

Just come right out and say it. A close woman friend of mine found out she had breast cancer. She called to tell us of it and beat around the bush forever.

She, and I , both felt better when she finally came right out and told me.

Answer 9

Usually by a Dr. telling him after running the right test. Be positive.

Answer 10

You tell him you aren't feeling well and are seeing a DR and you don't use the cancer word until you know for sure that is what it is.
If you do have it then you just be honest with him.