why would my parents say this?

Question

No one is going to hire you-you have no work experience.
How are you suppose to get a start in the working world?
You should not sell yourself at a job interview.
I had a learning disability-You will never amount to anything.Why didn't they try to help me.
How come you don't have more friends and you are not popular?
They also told me they wish they never had me.I was a
disappointment to my parents through causes of no
fault of my own.
My question is why did they not try to be more helpful?

when i went for my GED I did not tell them.
They would I am wasting my time.
They also said GOD meant for you not
to be successful like other people.
Would you talk that way to your kid who
is trying to find employment?

Answer 1

They sound like horrible parents. If you are old enough, get out of that house. They have been and continue to crush your self esteem. I am sure you have something to offer. Find something you like, see a guidance councellor, but do not go to your parents for help - they won't give you what you need -- ovbiously

Answer 2

Geeze, I hope you're getting yourself out of this environment. What they are saying is verbal child abuse. How successful are they? Don't listen to them. Whatever they say, just ignore it. You may not be a rocket scientist (few of us are) but your very capable of doing something productive. These people should never have been parents only because they aren't qualified. I wish they would give some sort of a test, and not let idiots like this, bring up a child. When you finally get out on your own, put them behind you. They will just keep trying to bring you down, and if you ever have children, they wil just bring them down too. Get your GED, and don't tell them. When you hit 18, you can try the military if nothing else. They will train you and you can earn a degree while in the service, or they will let you out for a couple of years so you can go full time. (I have this on authority as my son is in the Marines. He had an AA, but is taking classes on line to complete his BA. He's also found out that if he re-ups, the Marines will pay him to go to school, and get his BA. He'll have to re-enlist for another 4-5 years, but he was planning on staying in anyway) I wish the best for you. You're in my prayers.

Answer 3

Do not let them kill your self esteem. Based on your very well composed question and statement I am not reading in to a learning disability. If you do not sell yourself at a job interview you will not get the job. That is what the interview is about. Your parents need to support your growth. You will find a job, you will be a success! If you do not pass your GED, don't give up, try it again, wer'e all rooting for you! You have a cheer team out here! If you parents continue to brow beat your esteem, prove yourself and your success, find a roommate and move out on your own. Why they can't be supportive is a SHAME!!!!!.

Answer 4

In my teenage years I dated a guy who has parents that sound allot like yours. We had many conversations on why they were like that toward him and not his brother. His parents wanted to hold on to him in a sick way. They did not want him to leave the nest. If he got a job then he would be independent, with little to no education finding a good paying job is not an easy thing to do. Also there was a little jealousy on his dads end my x wanted a car at 18 his dad got his 1st car at 31. He did not want his son to do better then him. His mother hated me & after 10 yrs of datting we broke up for good. He then noticed she hated who ever he dated. There was no pleasing his parents We sometimes can not answer or explain why people do the things they do but, I can tell you this My x is now 39yrs old with great job, has his own home & is happy with his wife and kids. It took him a long time to relaize that life is what you make of it. Once he started to stop looking for his parents approval and love his life turned around. Think positive and good things will happen.

Answer 5

Hey, you didn't ask to be born. It takes to to tango and if you ask me, they're the screw ups here. That is no way to talk to a child. First off, you won't get work experience unless you get a job. You gotta start at the bottom, but it's a start. If they are unhappy with the way their lives turned out, they shouldn't take it out on you. Learning disabilities are very common, don't be ashamed of it. Actually, if they know anything about business and the modern world, they should know that selling yourself during an interview is the way to get in. If you don't have a huge resume, you sell away to make up for what you lack on paper. As far as your parents are concerned, they are pretty lame.
But you sound like you have the drive to make something of yourself. I say, don' t let anyone (no matter who it is) get you down. It's your life, your future, so make of it what you want. Best of luck to you.

Answer 6

I have a learning disability, epilepsy and poor eyesight. My father has been downing me all of my life. Now, he is mad because I spend no time with him. He has been abusive psychologically, emotionally and verbally. Apparentlly, he felt that he could break me the way his old man has him despite being dead 30 years.
My father wasn't man enough to take responsiblity of his self-esteem. He would yell at me for misunderstanding homework, then be nice later assuminig that that would smooth everything. He never thought about how scarring it is. After my hardly having spent any time with him, despite still being stuck home, the man doesn't get it.
For the past year, he asks "Do you love me?" I say nothing. On Martin Luther King's birthday, the man's raises Kane when I didn't answer. His self-esteem is his responsibility not mine. Where does he get off expecting me to stroke his ego? Well, he's paying for it and I'm loving it. Now, when he says "You won't make it", his face falls because he sees how far I've progressed and just needs someone's patience.
Once my father asks me "Why don't you spend time with me?" I said, "Haven't you heard enough of B.B. King enough to know that the thrill is gone?" Since he like Barbra Streisand, the next time he asks me I'll ask, "Haven't you heard Streisand enough to know that enough is enough?"
I loveto psychologically squash that abuser---giving him a taste of his own medicine, but it's not as if I do it 3-6-5. I just do it when it falls into my lap.
He's living the song "Cold As Ice".

Answer 7

As I was reading your statement I thought maybe that your parents were using physiology, but as I continue to read it whatever reason they had stated their unloving behavior it was totally mean and very uncaring. I am sorry you don't have the supporting and caring parents, but they had proven their own mental disability. If you want to categorized your situation regarding your parents, they are just like anyone who are uneducated and unthoughtful. Please don't drown yourself into your parents self pity nor do not allow them to tear you down. I know you want their love, approval, and support, but sadly we don't all the Bob and Carol Brady parents To be very honest with you, I don't care about discussing the matter about your parents, my main concern is you!

If your ready to go and find a job, began looking for something you would like to do. Some jobs requires training so therefore, search for the school that would give you proper training and then
after wards start submitting your application. Don't be afraid to ask for help even in yahoo Q&A.

Depending upon your situtions check with your local county and research the typ of assistence you may need to get started. Once you have earned your independence, start searching for ways of moving out of your home, and let me know add. Always try to surround yourself with loving and supporting people. You already have my support.

Don't hate your parents because of their faults.

God Bless and good luck.

Answer 8

it sounds like we have the same kind of parents.except mine weren't just verbal. alot of times it's the fact that they are unhappy with something like; the way their life ended up, their own childhood, or something else that has to deal with their life. just forget them and don't let people bring you down. i had to learn that the hard way. i was depressed for many years thinking that i would never be anything. well my "biological egg donor" is a bartender and an alcoholic that lives above a bar and my "biological sperm donor" is........i don't know where, last i heard jail. and i have my own place with my daughter and i work as a data entry clerk bringing in almost $2,000 a month.but what helped was that i was emancipated at 14. just remember someday you will look back after you become successful and you will realize how strong and determined they made you. love yourself for who you are and if they don't like it then **** them.they don't deserve you. once you get a job and your own place loose all contact with them and remember, when they put you down it's just them trying to feel better about themselves

Answer 9

You refuse to give up on yourself and for that you should be very proud. It takes a strong person to achieve success when their main support system is lacking. Keep working on yourself. Keep trying at job interviews. You will succeed. The only reason you will not is if you give up and quit trying. I think a counselor would help you as well. It is very painful to have to admit that parents are not a positive force. I do think that most parents try to do the right thing. I would bet that one of your parents had the same thing happen to them at your age and they continue the pattern. A great thing you could do for yourself and for your children, if you choose to have any, is to recognize that what they are doing is hurtful and choose NOT to do the same to your children. All parents make mistakes. The secret to good parenting is not to make the same mistakes that our parents did. Good luck to you! And don't give up!

Answer 10

obviously your turning out to be a better person.
if i were you, i would write them a letter or something after you become as successful as you want to get and tell them y ou said id never succeed, look at me now. if just having you wasnt enough for them to love you, then i think your parents are the ones with the problem. dont get yourself down about it. i mean its sorta hard not to when your parents are disapointed in how you turn out. im not sure what your parents problem was. just know that there are other people in the world that care about you. i dont even know you and i feel like im one of them. good luck in all you do and im sorry abotu your parents.