I'm scared. Just plain worried. I'm completely and totally in love with my boyfriend of just about a year, and he's going to college next year. I know I won't see him often, and I'm worried about losing him. The thing is, we say we want to get married someday, and we're not kidding. Wanna share any advice you've acquired through your own experiences? I just need some other opinins. Thanks
2007-02-01 14:40:29 · 6 answers · asked by Janice 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Most people do a vast amount of maturing and growing between the ages of 18 and 30. For a lot of people, going to college is the first time they've lived apart from their parents, and they start to question who they are and what they believe in. So people change. He'll change, you'll change. We all change. It's not good or bad, it just happens. We learn, we grow.
Right now, at 17, you guys seem perfect for each other. you love each other and want to spend forever together. It's beautiful. But when he goes to college, and you don't, you'll be living two very different lives. He'll grow in ways that you won't. And you'll grow in ways that he won't. And you'll very likely just grow apart. It will be very hard to try to grow together during this time in your lives.
I was worried that I'd lose my girlfriend when I went to college. But when I look back, even though it sucked to break up, I've had even better relationships since then.
It was kinda funny; in my dorm at college, a lot of us on our floor freshman year had a girlfriend leaving high school. And one by one, each of them broke up. I was one of the last to hold out, and I almost made it to the end of the semester. By the start of the second semester, every single guy had broken up with their girlfriend, or their girlfriend had broken up with them.
I'm not trying to make you depressed. Okay, I'll end with a happy note. One of my highschool friends married his high-school sweetheart. I went to their wedding. And they went to college. They now have a son and are doing great. My friend came from a family where his parents and his grandparents had married their highschool sweethearts. And they were still married!
2007-02-01 15:44:46 · answer #1 · answered by EmptyStomach 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter how a couple seems so dedicated, things aren't going to work out all the time. Everyone wishes to live in a fairy tale romance, but there are things in reality that prevent those from happening and that is life in itself. I'm not saying you guys will break up, but high school and college are very different scenarios. That's great that you guys have a deep love and a great sense of commitment for each other, but you have to keep in mind that when things, like college, come in between, you guys may not wind up "together forever." I don't want to sugar coat anything for you, and what i'm saying are just the facts of life. It would be wonderful if he could be very faithful and committed to you while he's pursuing his college career. Don't overlook the fact because you always have to be prepared for the worst. This isn't being pessimistic, it's just looking out for youself. Keep in mind that college changes a lot of things and though he may remain with you til the very end, there is still the chance of him finding someone new in college. I don't want to say this to break your heart, but i want to be truthful with you and i want you get the right impression about reality. Just prepare for the worst, but hope for the best.
2007-02-01 22:48:57 · answer #2 · answered by Alicia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is possible but Hard!
if you truely care about one another you'll be ok
But when i was a senior and my bf at the time was entering college we tried staying together but all those hot college girls got the best of him 2 months after he left for school we broke up.
Im not saying this will happen but it was my personal experience
good luck
2007-02-01 22:45:38 · answer #3 · answered by Atllas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be careful. 50% of people that go to Post-Secondary find the person they spend the rest of their life with there.
2007-02-01 22:43:43 · answer #4 · answered by Femme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure there is...some people will split or marry their high school sweetheart. n
2007-02-01 22:45:41 · answer #5 · answered by Nikki 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I THINK THERE COULD BE , IF THERE'S ALOT OF CARING BETWEEN TWO PEOPLE , I SEE NO REASON , THAT IT CAN'T HAPPEN!
2007-02-01 22:44:23 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋