My friend invited me to go out with her last Saturday but I already had plans with a guy I'm dating, so I told her we would plan on getting together for lunch this Saturday. (We live far away and haven't seen each other in a long time but I told her I would drive up there to have lunch with her.) Then a few days later she invited me to go to a Superbowl party this weekend also but I told her that I had planned to get together with the guy I'm dating after I have lunch with her, since he lives nearby, so we'll have to just meet for lunch. Was this rude of me? She hasn't emailed me back yet. Do you think she is mad?
2007-02-01 14:03:05 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Talk to her and ask her
2007-02-01 14:05:28 · answer #1 · answered by zen522 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, just being perfectly honest. Yes, what you did was very rude. Because you are making it sound like your guy is more important than your friend. You need to spend time with your friend too!! Although you already made plans, don't forget your friends. Friends are a sure thing in life, but a guys are a dime a dozen. But just to be safe, ask her if everything is OK between y'all and then the two of you can maybe figure out some kind of schedule.
2007-02-01 14:18:18 · answer #2 · answered by Vanes 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you weren't being rude, and you aren't "dumping her for your boyfriend" ..you already had those plans, from what you said. She should understand.
Is there any way that maybe he could go to the party also? Most I have been to were for both husband/wife or bf/gf. Wouldn't hurt to e-mail and ask or call her.
Being loyal to friends is one thing, but if you do it every time then you could end up with no boyfriend,
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2007-02-01 14:22:04 · answer #3 · answered by J T 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can relate to her because this is not a friend that lives down the street. She lives far away and you guys havent seen each other in a while and I'm sure you can see this guy your dating almost anytime. Make time for your friend if she's a good friend. Don't ruin a good friendship for a man. I'm sure he will understand if you cancel with him this time.
2007-02-01 14:07:51 · answer #4 · answered by mypassions4life 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
she should not be mad...i think if you lied to her about where you were going than that would be rude, you were honest with her and your dating a guy that can be future potential and you need time with him to see where the relationship is going. if she doesn't email you soon, why don't you email her and ask her if anything is wrong because she hasn't emailed you, and than you will really know whats going on with her and work it out from there
2007-02-01 14:07:34 · answer #5 · answered by dearfriend44 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She shouldn't be since you 1) told her the truth and 2) are making time to see her instead of just blowing her off. If she is mad about this, then that's her problem.
2007-02-01 14:08:38 · answer #6 · answered by marklemoore 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If she is angry because you insisted on keeping your promise to another, she's no friend, whatever she says. That she asked twice the same thing, knowing the second time that you had a commitment, indicates that she really did expect you to break a promise for her. Thus, I suspect that she is mad, but so what?
2007-02-01 14:07:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I believe in being honest but I also believe in not pushing friends aside for a man. I think she's HURT maybe not mad more hurt then anything
2007-02-01 14:06:51 · answer #8 · answered by texas_angel_wattitude 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
turn the tables, how would you feel? sure sounds like you're spending a lot of time with this guy you're dating - won't he still be there after you choose your friend JUST ONCE??????? At some point she will stop asking so you need to decide how important she is to your life.
2007-02-01 14:06:50 · answer #9 · answered by girlysledgirl 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hey its not your fault that you have a separate life from her and that you make plans with your bf. maybe she just hasnt had time to reply yet. but honestly, if she's going to be mad about that, thats just a biotch move. at least you're making an effort for lunch.
2007-02-01 14:06:44 · answer #10 · answered by missy_t_09 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
may be. can you take her with you. and your guy. that would be cool. well she hasn't seen you in a long time. and may have had plains to go out for old times. think about it. have a BIG HUG on me. be cool to her
2007-02-01 14:12:00 · answer #11 · answered by freeman3905@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋