it is a not a productive spending of time/money/efforts.
instead we can give return gifts.
pl comment.
2007-02-01 14:00:27 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You're inviting them and your hosting them gathering for you
2007-02-01 14:19:12 · answer #1 · answered by zen522 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Receptions are meant as a thank you for the attendance of the people that you have invited. Weddings are a time for people to come together and wish you the best in marriage. Even at a very informal wedding, a guest will dress for the occasion and will bring a gift. If you do not want to have a full reception, have the wedding "between meals." This would reduce the need for food. You would still need to serve at least punch or tea and coffee.
If times are so tight that you are going to return gifts, have your family and the rest of the bridal party pass on that gift certificates or cash would help the most. DO NOT mention anything in the invitation about gifts. That is just rude. Most people will spend time to think about what they are giving you, about your personality and your needs.
If all else fails, the justice of the peace can marry you for a very inexpensive fee and just send out announcements after ward.
2007-02-01 16:13:51 · answer #2 · answered by wedding planner tx 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In early days, people used to live in small groups each group being at a good distance from the other. These groups were termed villages. When a wedding took place within any village, people from other villages were also invited. After they had waited for the wedding rituals to be completed they did bless the couple.
Later it would be rude for the hosts to send the guests back without offering them anything to eat as the whole procedure took more that 6 hours. And going back to their own place would take another couple of hours. Gradually it became feasts bacame a custom.
And what's wrong in that, you are just expressing your happinness to the people around about the marraige. even in your marriage you would have geusts from far of corners and they will need to spend a few hours with you. Won't it be rude to send them back with return gifts.
:-)
2007-02-02 03:12:03 · answer #3 · answered by plato's ghost 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You would serve them if they were house guests, at least most of us would so why not at your wedding where they are coming to witness and bless your marriage? It is polite and proper and what people have done for centuries. I guess you really don't have to if you don't want to. Let them all know that the wedding has nothing to do with food and that they should eat before or afterwords but to me that is just rude. I would be honored to serve or provide food for my family and friends, ones that have done or given me so much and want to share in the happiest day of my life. I hope you come to realize that it is a blessing to have friends and family, many do not even have that let alone a wedding, be thankful for what you do have and be blessed. After all that is why your friends and family are there, to give their blessings, they are not there just because food is being served. At least not 99% of them.
2007-02-01 15:04:17 · answer #4 · answered by lost angel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
b/c you invited them to come and celebrate with you. You have sent them an invitation and asked them to join YOU for a celebration. Therefore, as a host, you are suppose to serve food and drink.
Say, someone sent you an invitation to attend a party at their home and then did not have any type of food or drink to offer you once you got there. They would be viewed as a bad hostess, same applies.
If you don't want to have a reception, then just have people greet/bless you after the ceremony. Then have everyone go home.
2007-02-01 14:11:29 · answer #5 · answered by Answer Girl 2007 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So they come to greet you, bless you and you invited them- and you aren't even gooing to give them a cup of coffee and a sandwich?
The reason why is GOOD MANNERS.
You can have poor manners if you like. If you don't want people to celebrate with you, go to Vegas and come back married. But don't expect presents and parties.
People spend time, effort and money on gatherings with their friends and family because it shows regard for the people who are important to your life. If you have no regard for them, by all means, don't invite them- you'll have more free time, and more money in your pocket. And no friends and laughter in your life.
How sad that you need this explained to you.
Live free and productively!
2007-02-01 14:46:21 · answer #6 · answered by CYP450 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why we have to serve food to guests when they come to greet/bless married couple?
2007-02-01 18:34:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's an act of hospitality. Just like when you invite someone to your place, dont you serve them drinks at least? Also, as a form of showing gratitude for their effort in coming and for them taking the time to grace your wedding. Also what betta way to say 'thanks for the gifts' other than great food and wine?
2007-02-01 16:59:29 · answer #8 · answered by snoringcouchprincess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They have taken time out of their day to come and celebrate your wedding, some people may have brought you a gift, some people may have bought you a card to congratulate you, so it is only polite and good manners to give them something to eat and drink to be a good host.
2007-02-02 01:06:06 · answer #9 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because if you don't no one will come, that's the only reason people sit through a boring wedding is they know they will get free food, beer and a piece of cake.
2007-02-01 16:15:28 · answer #10 · answered by Jonathan I 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a tradition, a kind thing to do for the guest who have taken their time to witness your marriage.
2007-02-01 14:58:53 · answer #11 · answered by trykindness 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋