The Perfect Girl?

Question

I found the perfect girl for me. She's afraid of guys and I'm afraid of girls. She's shy and so am I. She's exactly what I want and she's single. Now, I don't know how to ask girls out. People say it's so easy, just go up and ask, but I can't do that. I'm too shy and I don't want her to say no. I think we're almost exactly the same and she's in a class of mine and sits right next to me. See, the thing is is that in the beginning, I said I would go out with her, and then I looked at how she acted and thought, she'd be perfect for me. And slowly I'm finding more and more things about us that its perfect for each other. My friend asked her out for me without my consent and she said no, because she didn't want to ruin our friendship, she wasn't good with guys, and she was scared of them too and she had all these reasons like she'd been planning it forever. I can't gather the balls I need to ask her out! HELP!!!

Answer 1

I know it's a hard thing to do man. It's really hard for me to do sometimes, and I'm a go gettum' type. What you'll need to do though buddy is get your courage built up. Your stomach will be turning and in knots when you go up to her, but as long as you don't vomit in front of her, like a certain cartoon boy I know, you'll do fine.
You're doing this at a perfect time of year. Women get all romantic around Valentine's Day, so if you approach her now she'll probably be more apt to say 'yes'. You could take it slow by asking her if she'd like to meet you for a movie, this way you can both leave at any time and you won't have to worry about too much discussion. Go bowling,.. I never ever bowl, but you can't help but have fun doing it. You'll have a great time laughing about how badly you both suck, unless you're both avid bowlers.
What it boils down to bro, is that you'll have to dig down and get that courage to make the initial contact. Once you've spoken to her and shown an interest the ice will be cracked. Then you think of how it's easiest for you to get together in your fragile state of shyness. Go get her,.. YOU CAN DO IT!!

Answer 2

My opinion here would be to carefully and flirtatiously drop little notes on her desk telling her sweet things, maybe even cute little jokes.. build up her confidence a little bit since you say she's shy.. write her something like "You make my day with every smile you send my way" Leave little chocolate kisses on her desk, or just a piece of candy to sweeten her day up a little bit, Or compliment her from time to time, in other words make her feels like she's the most gorgeous girl in the planet, like she's the only one you have eyes for. Once she sees what a sweet guy you are and the effort you are putting into her she'll begin to let her guard down, and once she does you can ask her out to some place you know she might enjoy.. a place where the two of you can do something together.. somewhere you can talk and get to know her even more :)

I know it might be a bit nerve wrecking.. but you need to use little stepping stones before you take the big leap :) Good luck and I hope it works out for you two. One thing I will say though is don't wait too long to do it, time that passes you by without you making a small attempt at asking her out is time wasted, and you won't get it back :)

Answer 3

If it's easier for you, try asking online or over the phone, although face-to-face is much better. Since she is shy around guys she probably won't want to reject you to your face or say that she needs to think about it. Give her some time though before you ask, and maybe you'll find out that you two are just good as friends.

If you really want a relationship though, just talk to her a little more and be more affectionate around her by giving her compliments, etc. and see how she reacts to that. Don't have your friend do it. Get a mutual friend and you should all hang out together.

Good luck! ;-)

Answer 4

this is the problem I'm having but if she sits next to you if you can write her a note asking her if she would go out with you and you can either try to put in her back pack or just give it to her and if you ask her she might say yes because she knows she likes you too. so you can try or just wait till you get enough courage to ask her out good luck. :)

Answer 5

One step at a time. Don't ask her. Become more of a talking friend, and develope your relationship. Then get a little flirtish. You will know how far to go because she will either do the same or back off. Don't push it. Eventually i believe you will get the nerve to ask. "Movies?" Start of with group of friends to movies first rather than one on one.

Answer 6

i would write her a wee note saying you like her. explain that your shy and she will respect you and feel comfortable with you.tell her its ok so she will feel comfortable and less scared. ask her out like 'wanna go to the movies with me'
a little note is cute and if she really likes you she will keep the note forever and be real apperciative. dont get your friends invovled. that will be ackward and uncomfortable, it will scare her off. it has to come from you. good luck

Answer 7

Start by opening a conversation with her....Then tell her that you are going to the mall or any place and ask her if she would like to come with you...See what happens....Good Luck

Answer 8

awww its nice to know that shy guys still exist because i havent met/seen one for a long time...newys, getting back to your question...if u sit right next to each other in class just start talking to her about something i.e. movies...ask her wat kind she likes or wat was the last movie she watched......n then just be like "oh maybe we should hang out sometime and maybe go to the movies or something..." start if off as friends and then get to know her and ur courage with come once u get to know her better...n it wont seem too forward either.....Good Luck!

Answer 9

Get a celebrity to do it for you. Or maybe some other high profile person.

Answer 10

Send her a valentine.