I am 13 years old, with a mother in her early 40's. Recently we have been having relationship troubles. We fight constantly. There is little to no respect between the two of us. She is a little overbearing and I am just plain out defiant. She says that we are going through a cross road in our lives and we are either going to come out freinds or not being able to stand eachother. I don't want to hate her! We both say we are going to try harder but it never happens. I don't know what to do any more! Please help me!
2007-02-01 13:52:19 · 9 answers · asked by Rayne 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I have a 12 year old and we kinda go through the same things. Just keep telling mom you love her. And do try to do better, do little things for her like dishes or even just pour coffee for her every once in a while, she'll return the kindness back. When you do feel like the fight is starting again stop and say I love you it'll catch her of guard and stop the fight. and remember you are only 13 mom does know best she has lived longer than you and seen/experienced more. She's just trying to do right by you and protect you. you have no idea of what the world holds.
2007-02-01 14:07:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am almost 45 years old and I still have relationship troubles with my mother. We never got along because she never accepted me for who I am and I was constantly disappointing her. Likewise, she disappointed me on a regular basis by not being there for me and for dismissing my feelings like they were meaningless.
The one thing I can advise you is to not expect your mom to change. Once you accept that she is the way she is... then you can start to learn how to deal with the way she is and the things that upset you.
The respect thing is important but it has to go both ways. An overbearing mother is also hard-headed and probably unwilling to see any other point of view. Just be the best you can be at whatever makes you happy.
Remember, your Mom (like my mom) only has your best interest at heart... and even tho she might seem impossible to live with.... ultimately she will always be there for you.
Good luck!!!
2007-02-01 14:11:03 · answer #2 · answered by quickgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All teenagers will have fights with their mothers. But the mother is right 99% of the time.You are defiant and that is normal at your age. Show your mother respect and she will show you respect in return. You think she is overbearing but you are only 13 years old so she should be. Just respect her and follow her advice. Mothers do know best.
2007-02-01 14:06:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First your mother needs to know she can never really be your friend, She will always be your mother, you have friends. Even if your not getting along with your mom you should always respect her,as she should you to. You should both sit down and fine out whats really going on. Talking is the only way you both will fine out whats going on. Some mothers fine it hard to talk to there daughters but keep trying you will need each some day. Good luck.
2007-02-01 14:07:21 · answer #4 · answered by spookieone48 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get yourself a job, get yourself a car, and move out. Parents seem to play favorites with their children and to them you are trash and not a daughter. If you have not got your drivers license, start studying for it and also start applying for jobs out there. That way when you start working and get paid, you can save up and buy yourself a car and move out to college or whenever you want. You are going to be 18 in a bit, that's already adulthood. Yes, I agree all teenagers need to go out and have fun because youth does not last forever. They have to understand and I am sure that when your parents were your age, they partied like crazy. Now, try not to make more mistakes so that your parents stop trashing you and start to take you in consideration.
2016-03-29 00:50:29 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through the same things your going through when I was your age, I can relate to you 100%. I am now 49 I wish I had my mother here with me, she died in 1996 I wish I could tell her just one more time how much I loved her & to give her a big bear hug. Your mother is 100% right, listen to her, go up to her, tell her how much you love her, how much you appriciate her, tell her how you feel, open up to her & you both will be okay! PLEASE....do it, okay? Also, PLEASE try harder, make this a goal for yourself! Let me know how things have turned out i'm 100% behind you! I know you can do it!
2007-02-01 13:59:55 · answer #6 · answered by YAWN 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well for one, you are a teen. It is going to get alot worse before it gets better. I had the same thing happen to me growing up. Once you get a little older it will get better. I don't think you will end up hating each other as long as you keep talking. It will make a big difference, even if you don't agree.
2007-02-01 14:14:04 · answer #7 · answered by Jodi C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hun....you can say something, but never do it. Try harder!!!!! Ofcourse you want to be her friend, she loves you, and I KNOW that you love her, back! Do something nice for her every once and a while. It takes TWO to argue. Read this answer to her, time to show, not just say. Good luck to the both of you! God Bless ya...
2007-02-01 13:59:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am alomost 17 and when my mom and i argue i just let her say what she has to say and i jus agree. i dont know if thats good or bad but it tends to help me. I love my mommy and i would kill myself she ever left. Randomlly tell her that you love her in the middle of one of your fights and randommly any time cuz then she has to tell u she loves you back. plus randimlly hug her. it let her know that no matter what yall go through you'll still love her.
try it and see whats up!
2007-02-01 14:06:25 · answer #9 · answered by skofadown 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋