kids dont listen?

Question

i have a 3 AND YR OLD BOYS. AND THEY DONT LISTEN TO ME OR MY HUSBAND AT ALL. WE TRIED EVERYTHING. IT JUST SEEMS TO GET WORST. THEYKICK US AND HIT WALLS. DONT SLEEP IN THEIR OWN BEDS. ITS RUING OUR LOVE LIFE BAD!!! IM JUST SOO STRESSED OUT BY THIS AND NEED SOME ADVICE BEFORE I BLOW MY COOL

Answer 1

My advice is to bite the bullet. Take one weekend - get some comfort food and make a pact with your husband.

Take away every toy. Every game. Everything.

Don't yell (I'm not saying you do, but just saying). Keep your voice calm and authoritative. Say "You will not" and keep at it. Don't let them win by losing your cool. Let them see that you and your husband are a team. Tell them that when they act like this, you and your husband can't be happy. And when you aren't happy, good things just DON'T happen.

It will take a million times repeating it, but drill it in their heads.

If you see one of them acting correctly, give them a toy back. Praise the heck out of them. Most likely, they will start to work for THAT kind of attention rather than the LOADS of attention they are getting now.

Another poster recommended "whooping their a**". Yes, that's wonderful if you want to turn their issues inward and make an bad problem even worse. Why try to cure bad behavior with bad behavior?

I've had some issues with my kids in the past, but buckling down and taking CARE of the actual issues (and not adding new ones) always made those issues disappear. It takes some additional time and effort, but it's worth it.

My advice about sleeping is to buy them their favorite character pillow case. Buy a night light. Tell them IN THE MORNING that when it's bedtime, they will be going to bed by themselves, in their own room. Reference it a few times during the day - and don't say it like it's a punishment or because they've done something bad. And when it's time, be ready for some all-night wrangling and carrying back to bed. Yes, you aren't going to get some sleep but stick by your guns. A few nights - or even a week's worth of misery is going to be well worth the YEARS of kid-free sleeping you'll get. Now, I say this as my 5 year old is in my bed, mind you! He had oral surgery this week and we wanted him with us. We are going to have to do "the above" as well this weekend....

Just take deep breaths. If they do something positive, cheer them on. And make sure that you and your husband act the way that you want them to act. We changed a few behaviors in our household by example (please/thank you/"I was wrong")

Good luck and know you aren't alone. So many people and parents get overwhelmed and start to sink before they know it.

Answer 2

Call Dr. Phil

Answer 3

Its called an a*s whoopin. Our parents did it to us to keep us straight. Why should our children get away with murder when theres an easy fix. Its called bend over and smack. Do not let your 3 year old run your house. When he kicks you grab his legs and hold them tight then roll him over and spank his bottom and say "mommy is not a kicking bag".

Answer 4

DEAR IT IS TIME FOR TOUGH LOVE IT IS TIME TO USE A SPANKING MATTER OK JUST POP THERE DIAPER JUST ONCE AND A REALLY STIFF VOICE AND THEY WILL GET THE MASSAGE OK TAKE CARE OK.