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I'm have a long distance relationship with my boyfriend and my mom has annoyingly expressed her discomfort everytime I'm on the phone. I'm usually on the phone with him twice a day, about an hour - 2 hours each. We had a talk and she accepted my excessive phone use but now she's blaming all my problems on the phone. Example: I didn't clean my room for a week and she think it's all my boyfriend's fault. She said she does not want me to talk to him or for him to call again.

This is unfair because I'm 17, college-bound, a 4.0 student and have been obedient. She claims she's worried about me but nothing is there to worry about, he's not even in the same state as me! She thinks I use the phone way too much but if I was online all the time, she wouldn't say a thing. I would IM him but he has no computer at home.

How do I get her to understand that not everything has to be her traditional belief of what a boyfriend is? She makes it sound like talking on the phone is as bad as smoking weed.

2007-02-01 13:27:33 · 7 answers · asked by NYCArcadium 1 in Family & Relationships Family

7 answers

It sounds like she bothers you even without the whole not doing your chores, or else you wouldn't be complaining. Try to cut down on the time, I know it's hard but when you guys actually do talk, it will be more meaningful that way. She just cares for you and some adults do it the old fashion way. If you keep up with your responsibilities, she might just accept and allow you to have a boyfriend.

2007-02-01 14:26:36 · answer #1 · answered by alienhumanhybrid 3 · 0 0

My best advice is to get all the chores done before you chat with your boyfriend. That way, she can't get on your case about the cleaning. I think she cares about you and only wants what is best for you. She wants you to stay focused about your schooling. Long distance relationships don't have a great success rate and maybe she doesn't want you to get too attached and get your heart broken. Simply put, she loves you, but doesn't really know how to get it across without annoying you. It is a natural thing for a loving parent to do. Cheer up. It will be okay, just make sure you clean up.

2007-02-01 23:18:42 · answer #2 · answered by zumi 3 · 1 0

Just clean your room and do the chores and talk to her the way you did here. You explained it well here and see if you can get her to understand better, Or show her the answers that you get here.

2007-02-01 21:42:08 · answer #3 · answered by DESTINY 4 · 1 0

She was once a kid....tell her that. Maybe...you can do your chores? And cut down the time a bit. But you are a young lady, and if you want a boy-friend you should have one.

2007-02-01 21:37:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

I had a long distance relationship and we wrote a lot of letters. I still have them and sometimes it's fun to read them again. (My future husband kept his too.) Why not take that hour (it wouldn't take that long) and write some letters and create memories? Don't people write letters anymore? They are fun to get and fun to read. Try it!!

2007-02-01 22:01:20 · answer #5 · answered by prarierosebud 5 · 1 1

Do your chores in between phone calls. Maybe she will stop then.

2007-02-01 22:22:26 · answer #6 · answered by Jodi C 5 · 1 0

Clean your room, then maybe she would get off your case.

2007-02-01 21:32:34 · answer #7 · answered by mamabear 6 · 2 0

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