HELP!!!!Huge guy problem?

Question

im 14.Theres this guy i really like and i want to ask him to a dance at the end of the year or just ask him out somewhere...but im too shy to talk to him and its hard to tell if he likes me........his name is ADAM....we were in groups and Adam was with a guy named Brian.Adam made Brian throw a pencil at me i guess but it went right past my head and it was Adam's pencil.I think its strange...cause Adam made him throw it at me and I like Adam and sometimes Adam seems like he likes me to.Does he like me???How do i tell if he does???

The pencil thing..i think was just to get my attention and not to try to hurt me..plus he looks at me alot.

Answer 1

Well it really depends on the personality of the guy? Do you think Adam is a little immature? If he is....maybe having Brian throw a pencil at you is his way of telling you he likes you. I think that with this kind of guy, you really need to make the first move. If a dance is coming up soon, then you should ask him to it and to make it less awkward, you could go in a group with your girlfriends and their dates. You could do the same thing and go to the movies together if you prefer that instead. If you automatically feel connected to him, you don't have to bring your friends along.....it's just an option! Good luck! (=

Answer 2

Hmmm. For starters, this problem is very common and not huge at all. Believe me, this problem has occured more than once in every teens life. There may be some chance he likes you, but its very slim. If he shows little to no signs of liking you, bottom line is, HE DOESN'T LIKE YOU. I mean, maybe adam asked that brian kid to throw a pencil at you because he thought he was being funny. or maybe he was trying to throw it at someone else, you just misunderstood. Maybe he gave you attention because he wanted to make the girl he really likes jealous. What I'm trying to say is it's not always, totally and completely, about you. They don't always have to like you just because they crossed the female/male border. Ever heard of opposite sex friendships? The whole pencil incident probably doesn't mean anything. Sorry to dissappoint you, but don't get your hopes up too high. It'll just make it easier for other people to knock them down.

Answer 3

It is always oh so hard to tell. The only one that knows is him. Are you good friends with this guy? Do you feel comfortable talking to him one-on-one. I get the idea that he might like you. Why not ask your friend Brian, or someone else you can trust, to see if Adam likes you. It's a good way to find out without putting you or him in an uncomfortable situation. Could you imagine his thoughts if you just randomly went up and said "Hey, Adam, do you like me?"

Why not ask him to the dance anyway. Going as friends can be fun. And if he does like you you can go as couples.

Answer 4

You sound more like you're 10 or 11 at the most. Who cares about Brian or Adam's pencil.

Answer 5

Well when you looked at him was he glowing red or seemed embarassed,
if so he probably likes you if he laughed and had a grin on his face he probably likes you
if he seems to stare at you often you know love is in the air and about asking him out just go up to him and tell him wht your heart says and if he thinks your stupid or ignores your feelings you might be after the wrong guy but you know it does take most guys A WHILE to express their inner feelings to girls, believe me I have experienced this its like you want the ground to swallow you up but not really, i just say take a step because everything begins with the first step and if you take the step first the guy will probably take the next, he is probably waiting for you to make the BIG move, My best of wishes to you!

Answer 6

Stop dancing around and looking for an easy way out and just pop the question. There's no easy way out; to gain, you're going to have to risk. I could either give you an answer that you'd like to hear, or I can tell you the truth, and I'm giving you the truth. I used to be shy, too. Now that I look back, all I see is missed opportunities. Don't let it wait.

Answer 7

Guys are immature. He may have wanted to have the pencil thrown at you, just to get your attention. Does it seem like he ever goes out of his way to walk past you in class? Do you ever catch him looking at you? If the answer to either of these is yes, then he's interested. Get a group of your friends together and plan to meet at the mall or something (guys and girls) ask if he wants to go. If he says yes great...if he says no, then you have your answer and forget about it.

Answer 8

Well having people throw pencils at you is a strange way to show it, but I think that he likes you. Otherwise you wouldn't have his attention. Guys around 14 don't know how to act with girls, so they do really stupid stuff around them.
The more stupid he acts around you the more likely it is that he likes you, & throwing a pencil at you is pretty stupid, so he likes you a lot.

I am afraid you will have to overcome some of your shyness, & talk to him. Just be prepared for him to get really goofy when you do that though.

Answer 9

First of all if he is telling his friend to throw things at you, there can only be two reasons. One is very simple: He doesn't like you. The other a little complicated: He likes you and can't tell you himself so he is using his friend to get your attention. I suggest you just ask him.

Answer 10

He probably does like you. Wait it out. At that age, it is better to let the guy make the first move. You coud, of course, give him a note of some sort - and let him know that you like him - in a round about way, of course. Don't make the first move unless you know it's the right thing to do.