me, boyfriend and parents...HELP!?

Question

What do i do??
I have been with my boyfriend for almost a year. Well off and on. I told my mom we have only been together since November cuz that was when we started going back out from out breakup in September. Well she found out it was a year on and off and that my boyfriend Abuses me WHICH HE DOESNT and alot of other ****, i had my phone taken away for 2 weeks. i have been grounded for a month so far and who knows how much longer b/c i lied to them supposbly. wheni didnt think it would matter, also i am in counseling now cuz they think i need it...me and my boyfriend are still together, but my mother said they may end up making us break up, and i honestly dont think i could handle that, he means alot to me and even tho they tell me im not old enough to know what love is maybe not but i know i have VERY stong feelings for this guy, and every since this has happened i havent seen him maybe once in a month but i just need ti knowwhat to do to make my rents not care so much or at least aprove...plez..

Answer 1

Your young find someone who will treat you like you should be treated.
There has to be problems with this guy if you have been going off and on for a year.

Answer 2

I think you have very strong feelings because your parents don't agree with you being with him.
Unfortunately, 98% of the time, your parents are right.
This is just a tiny, wee, small part of your life that will not even matter to you in about a year, let alone 5 years. At your age I would be preserving your relationship with your family, not some guy you break up with every 5 minutes.
Time to grow up blossom, sorry.

Answer 3

Now, if you're going to ask a question you can at least be honest. They didn't pull the idea that he abuses you, out of the air. If they found out he has abused you, you can forget about them ever accepting him

Answer 4

Im sorry to say this but your mother will end up being right.. I garentee it... YOU SOUND A LOT LIKE ME 10 or so years ago, at that age we are very naive, I was engaged at 16, I thought the sun shone out of this guys A***... I was so proud when he paid $25 for a stolen ring..and put it on my finger, I told mum I was engaged and she just laughed at me, how embarrassing! This guy was a complete jerk, I realised later.

Girl, I swear to you, I know it feels so very important to you now, but in 5 years time, there is little chance you will even remember his name... SERIOUSLY.

I know you care what your parents think, which is a really good thing, trust me, you will become your mothers best friend as you turn into a young woman and you will wonder how you ever gave her so much greif!

Your parents are trying to protect you, as people grow older they have a knack of sensing things about situations, they have their reasons.. If you cant trust your parents just yet, and let them make the decision for you not to see this boy, then tell them how you feel..

Sit down and just say "mum, I really like him" Tell her you understand why she is trying to protect you, and you know she doesnt want to see you get hurt emotionally or physically but your growing up now.

Tell her you dont want to go behind her back and see him, tell her to arrange the times and/or dates and have supervised visits, even if its at your house, just so you parents know you safe and so on. If you really care for this boy, that will be enough for you... at the same time you can prove to your parents he is a good kid by letting them see for themselves, if they feel they have control oevr the matter they will GO HEAPS MORE EASY ON YOU TRUST ME... if they feel like they have no control on the matter they will simply put their feet down eve more.

If he like you as much as you like him, he will be OK with seeing you under your parents terms and conditions..(where are his parents? even his parents house?) If he thinks your worth it he will stick around and he will do what ever it takes to see you, even if that means watching a movie with your mum and dad!!!

Tell your mum to set some rules and take control of the situation with you and him, but please dont break you up cause you like him a lot.
PROVE TO HER YOUR TRUSTWORTHY AND YOU WANT TO DO THE RIGHT THING NO MATER HOW HARD IT MAY SEEM.

In the end though, your mum will be right... it may be hard to see now, and I know when people tell you to do something you just fight even harder to prove they are wrong... if you listen to ur parents now, you'll be ten steps ahead of everyone your age in a few years, I PROMISE!

IIf all else fails, I know it seems rash, but do what your parents say...Break up with him and explian the reasons.. if he loves you he will wait for you... forever... if he had to.... if its your first love... trust me when I say it will be something more special than you could ever imagine, but if its not under the right circumstances, it will never feel right.

He will wait, and you can do as your parents wish and show them that you are grown up enough to handle situations by yourself. If you tell you mother you split up with him because it was too hard, but you still love him and you will wait for them to accept that, you will earn major brownie points, I swear. If you can show your parents your willing to comprimise and listen, everything will out.
They are just trying to potect you after all.

Good luck

Peace x

Answer 5

Lol, thanks for that. you've situation promoting him as there's a glut of those for sale in the present day. you ought to attempt including slightly grubby image of a few b*mbo as an incentive. solid success

Answer 6

you know parents shouldn't stop you from loving someone tell them that you're grown up

Answer 7

tell them 2 shove it. its none of their buisness really. its ur own fault if anything happens anyway.

Answer 8

ages would help.

Answer 9

Thats the emergency??????????????????????