Will it ever happen?

Question

I am a single mother of three boys, and i am afraid that guys will lose interest in me when they find out that i am a single mother. My children all have the same father, whom i was with for seven years. But alot of people say that guys dont want much to do with single mothers, especially with three kids. My children are my world, and i would never put a man before them. But i'm getting worried that most guys wont accept that.

Answer 1

Hi Devinalex, never give up hope, my eldest daughters
"sperm doner" (real fathers stick around) walked out 2 days before I was booked in to have our daughter by c-section, while I was on the opperating table, he was at home clearing out our house of everything, when I arrived home with a 4 day old baby I didn't even have a tea spoon...he took the lot, what made this even worse was the fact that the entire time we were together, he NEVER worked, I supported him, his wealthy Mother would give him money when I couldn't, yet she never helped with food, rent etc. Any way 2 days before giving birth to Courteny his mother rang and said "Son, I don't think you're ready to be a father, if you come home, I'll buy you a brand new car, so off he went, back to cessnock in NSW", we dodn't hear anything from him for 3 years, when Courteny was 18 months old, I saw a psycic who predicted that I would leave my job and go back to Uni to re-enter my profession of freelance writing and political science, she also predicted that I would become engaged to my soul mate by 1998, that his name would be Stephen and that we would have another baby girl in 2001.
All of this happend in 1995 and I thought no more of it. As there was NO WAY I could afford to be on a sole parents pension and raise Coureny to the standards I worked so hard to provide for her.
To cut a huge story down, In 1997 I quit my job and re-enterd Griffith Uni, still not remembering what the psycic had said, about a month later we moved from our home of nearly 4 years - it was REALLY, REALLY low rent and over looked the broad water, a beautiful home I had put a lot of money into so Courteny had a great enviroment to grow up in - to his day I don't know what made me want to move, esp with the stress of study as well, we had only been in our new home for 2 weeks when I blew up my computer, through a friend of a friend I was given a phone number of a computer tech, guess what his name was Stephen, and what really freaked me out is that prior to me moving, Stephen lived 5 houses away from me for 18 months, yet we never laid eyes on each other, I knew as soon as I saw him that I had just met my best friend, 6 months later while chaseing each other around the back yard with the hose, Courteny came flying around the corner and said to Stephen "will you be my Daddy" I wasn't looking for a father for Coureny, yet they found each other as well, the most bizarre thing out of all of this is Courteny was always saying "my daddy lives round the corner and I woud have to explain that no her father had moved to Sydney a long way away, and she would be addament with me....no Mummy, he lives round the corner. We married in late 1999 and had our beautiful baby girl Kree in 2001, everything the psycic said came true, the saddest thing, she also told me my beloved Grandfather would pass away within 8 weeks after Kree's birth, Kree was 7 weeks old when he passed away.
Stephen is amazing, don't give up hope there are good men out there, the secret is stop looking, it's when your not looking for a relationship that a perfect one comes along, good luck, Yvette

Answer 2

Listen, you will find men who could not care less and men the minute you say children are out of there. When you go on your date don't monopolize the conversation talking about your kids. Talk about the things that interest you outside the kids. Find a local group in your area that involve divorced parents for support. Don't bring the new guy to meet your kids even if he asks. Boys don't want to have to compete with some new men in mom's life. There is no need to keep telling your children that you will not put anyone above them...show them. And make sure a good girlfriend know who you are dating in case he turns out to be psycho and the police needs him to be identified in a line-up.

Answer 3

times are changing my dear. there are lots of single parents out there now, and many do find loving partners.

i must confess that i am 33 yrs old and i have never had a serious relationship. i used to think i would get hitched early and that me and my dream woman would lose our virginity together and go thru life together.. having kids, etc..

but as i get older, i have let go of that idea, and now that i feel too old to go thru that learning curve, i often think about getting involved with a woman who already has kids. it's scary because i don't have much relationship experience, and obviusly no experience with kids, but it is not something that i would fear.

if you are a decent person who knows what you want, then i'm sure the right guy will give you a chance..

Answer 4

I kind of disagree with you, from personal experience, I think guys would rather have a lady with kids. I was never blessed to have kids, and they all want to know if you have children. When you say no, the ones I have known just fade away. So don't give up just quite yet, you just haven't met "the one" for you. He will love you and your kids. Lots of guys like "instant families". I have seen it!! Just keep your eyes and heart open. Good Luck!!!

Answer 5

Being a huge Nuggets fan I don't want Danny Green for Corey Brewer. Green is a good defender and a solid offensive player, but Brewer has shooting instincts. He can knock down back to back 3's to bring the Nuggets back into games.

Answer 6

i think things have changed a lot,if hes really interested in you,and you get to know him-well,he'll accept your baggage.just beware of one thing,make sure hes interested before he gets close to the kids. i have a friend who has 4kids all from different fathers, and they range from6 down to 2, she found this guy, he loves her kids and they are monsters,and he wants no kids of his own, so they are now happily married for 5 years now, kids have calmed way down,they are all very happy, we were all worried about her, who would want a woman with 4 monster children, shes was only 20 at the time, but she got lucky. then there's a guy friend of mine who when we were growing up, he was sort of one of the girls, not gay, he just hung out with about 5 of us girls always, well he met this girl-at work she had 3 kids, he started dating her fell in love with her and kids, married now for20 years, decided he didn't want any kids of his own, he helped her raise her since they were all 2,now there in college, and he says their his kids, hes happy, so it can happen , there is hope.good luck and happy hunting

Answer 7

I had three kids when I met my husband and he had two now we have one together. Some men care and some dont. I am sure you will find a guy that loves and accepts you and your kids. Good luck!

Answer 8

There are plenty of men who will date women with children. I've dated plenty of nice guys. You just need to find the right one. If they don't want to date because you have kids, you don't want to date them anyway. Don't worry. You will find a nice guy.

Answer 9

men should be IN AWE of you because your a single mother. i know its hard to be a single mother, but thats how you see whos the TRUE one for you. if they look past you having children and see YOU, then they're the right one. you GO girl!

Answer 10

Alot of men do accept it. But you have to wait around to find one who does. It takes a bigger man to love 4 new people unconditionaly.