My neice always gets me in trouble then yelled at and I didnt do anything to her, I still have school to go through and it brings more stress. It's like living heck. I fell like running away but that makes everything worser.What Should I Do!!!!
2007-02-01 12:50:27 · 14 answers · asked by Clifton Rawlings 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Dear Clifton,
First let me say Welcome to Yahoo Answers! I see that today is your first day. I sure do hope you will be able to get some help and good advice and be able to shrug off any bad comments or advice.
I think what you are feeling is a pretty typical feeling for each of us at some point in our lives. Running away won't solve anything and it sounds like you already realize that.
How much longer do you have until you finish school and can move away? What do you want to do after you finish school? Try to keep your mind on a goal and tell yourself "That this too shall pass". Count the days and realize that every single day you are 1 day closer to your goal.
Something that has helped me over the last several years is the realization that the toughest things in life are usually the things that help us grow.
I would like to share with you a love letter written using Bible verses. Print out a copy of The Father's Love Letter and realize that it is God's Love Letter to YOU.
http://www.fathersloveletter.com/..........
The Cry of a Father’s Heart from Genesis to Revelation
Father’s Love Letter
My Child …
You may not know me, but I know everything about you
Psalm 139:1
I know when you sit down and when you rise up Psalm 139:2
I am familiar with all your ways ……. Psalm 139:3
Even the very hairs on your head are numbered
Matthew 10:29-31
For you were made in my image ……. Genesis 1:21
In me you live and move and have your being ……. Acts 17:28
For you are my offspring ……. Acts 17:28
I knew you even before you were conceived …. Jeremiah 1:4-5
I chose you when I planned creation ……. Ephesians 1:11-12
You were not a mistake ……. Psalm 139:15-16
For all your days are written in my book ……. Psalm 139:15-16
I determined the exact time of your birth and where you would live ... Acts 17:26
You are fearfully and wonderfully made ……. Psalm 139:14
I knit you together in your mother’s womb ……. Psalm 139:13
And brought you forth on the day you were born ……. Psalm 71:6
I have been misrepresented by those who don’t know me
John 8:41-44
I am not distant and angry, but am the complete expression of love …1 John 4:18
And it is my desire to lavish my love on you ……. 1 John 3:1
Simply because you are my child and I am your Father
1 John 3:1
I offer you more than your earthly father ever could Matthew 7:11
For I am the perfect Father ……. Matthew 5:48
Every good gift that you receive comes from my hand
James 1:17
For I am your provider and I meet all your needs Matthew 6:31-33
My plan for your future has always been filled with hope
Jeremiah 29:11
Because I love you with an everlasting love ……. Jeremiah 31:3
My thoughts toward you are countless as the sand on the seashore ... Psalm 139:17-18
And I rejoice over you with singing ……. Zephaniah 3:17
I will never stop doing good to you ……. Jeremiah 32:40
For you are my treasured possession ……. Exodus 19:5
I desire to establish you with all my heart and all my soul
Jeremiah 32:41
And I want to show you great and marvelous things
Jeremiah 33:3
If you seek me with all your heart, you will find me
Deuteronomy 4:29
Delight in me and I will give you the desires of your heart
Psalm 37:4
For it is I who gave you those desires ……. Philippians 2:13
I am able to do more for you than you could possibly imagine
Ephesians 3:20
For I am your greatest encourager 2 Thessalonians 2:16-17
I am also the Father who comforts you in all your troubles
2 Corinthians 1:3-4
When you are brokenhearted, I am close to you Psalm 34:18
As a shepherd carries a lamb, I have carried you close to my heart … Isaiah 40:11
One day I will wipe away every tear from your eyes
Revelation 21:3-4
And I’ll take away all the pain you have suffered on this earth
Revelation 21:4
I am your Father and I love you even as I love my son, Jesus
John 17:23
For in Jesus my love for you is revealed ……. John 17:26
He is the exact representation of my being ……. Hebrews 1:3
And He came to demonstrate that I am for you, not against you ... Romans 8:31
And to tell you that I am not counting your sins
2 Corinthians 5:18-19
Jesus died so that you and I could be reconciled
2 Corinthians 5:18-19
His death was the ultimate expression of my love for you
1 John 4:10
I gave up everything I loved that I might gain your love
Romans 8:32
If you receive the gift of my son Jesus, you receive me
1 John 2:23
And nothing will ever separate you from my love again
Romans 8:38-39
Come home and I’ll throw the biggest party heaven has ever seen … Luke 15:7
I have always been Father and will always be Father
Ephesians 3:14-15
My question is … Will you be my child? ……. John 1:12-13
I am waiting for you ……. Luke 15:11-31
… Love Your Dad
Almighty God
Father Heart Communications Written by Barry Adams Copyright 1999
2007-02-01 13:13:05 · answer #1 · answered by JOYfilled - Romans 8:28 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I understand how you feel, especially when you have a little sibling or relative who seems to get you into trouble all the time. I suggest approaching your parents (or your aunt/uncle) and express your concern. Let them know that getting yelled at (regardless of whether or not you did anything wrong) on top of all the homework and school issues, is extremely stressful for you. Perhaps you suggest that you spend time away from your niece. Ask them to keep closer ties on her so when you're trying to be alone/do your work, she isn't distracting you. If things get hectic, take a walk or call a friend and talk it out.
These things at home never necessitate running away. I know how stressful it is, but being at home is much better than being alone. I've worked with many young people your age who ran away. Their life is not an easy one and many of them wished that they hadn't tried in the first place.
If there are other issues going on at home you should tell a trusted adult at school. Issues like inappropriate touch, calling you names, telling you that you are worthless, stupid, or unloved is abuse. No one deserves that sort of treatment. If this is happening to you, tell someone, don't run away from the problem. (I tell this to everyone, so don't take it personally)
2007-02-01 20:58:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Try to remember that no matter how bad you've got it there are people worse off then you. I know it can be hard to do sometimes. Especially when you feel the world is crushing down on you but try it. You obviously have family, some have none. You have the opportunity of an education, many don't. I'm guessing you have a roof over you head and food on the table. You must have access to technology such as the Internet. So many people in the world would give anything to have what you have. Try to find the good things in life even if they seem insignificant and hold on to them. Put a smile on your face and fake it until you feel it. Positive thoughts going out to you.
2007-02-01 20:59:20 · answer #3 · answered by angelbearcottage 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to find someone you trust that you can talk to. Some one who is impartial about the situation you are in. Ideally an adult.
I believe that you are a teenager, if that is the case most people go through this emotional roller coster. Hang in there, things usually get better with time/ age.
If your niece is the one getting you in trouble, if you can you should stay away from her, if you can't do this then try to stay around the adults so that they can see who is really at fault for all the trouble.
2007-02-01 21:03:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stretch, get a job involving customer service, drink plenty of water and eat food which has B vitamins in them like ham and vegetables. Wheat bread is good for your head. These things will make life better. Also try to please people and earn their respect, make people laugh and laugh at yourself once in a while. You don't live to be stressed out, you live to better yourself and do what you love to do while you are still able to.
2007-02-01 20:57:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Seems like the crucial part lies on your niece.
Why not try to find out why your niece gets you into trouble. Try to understand her more and perhaps try to be her friend. Then perhaps the problem can be solved.
2007-02-01 20:56:06 · answer #6 · answered by Freak 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You should try to sit down and talk to your parents. If that is not an option for you go talk to your school counselor or your priest or pastor or whoever at your church. Talking to someone will give you ideas on how to handle your problems. Good luck and God bless. Peace.
2007-02-01 20:58:17 · answer #7 · answered by rick m 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
When we start to grow up, our problems also increase, that's just part of life. It's ok to hate your own life, so that you will put in effort to make improvement. But, don't hate your life for too long.
2007-02-01 21:09:18 · answer #8 · answered by Tan D 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I understand completely. I had similar problems when i was younger, living with my mom/step dad. Try to stay "above" it all - try to ignore your niece and focus on YOU. It's your life and no one can take your happiness and peace.
2007-02-01 21:14:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
as long as we are silent no one can stop this type of people.Even i am surronded by few of this kind people,so what i do? hear me carefully "i know for sure that i haven't done anything wrong,so i will just offend them",then they got nothing to talk but shut up.Tell them that "i am sure,i haven't done anything wrong" and tell them that u don't want their advice even they were trying to help you.
2007-02-01 21:02:36 · answer #10 · answered by cherry 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋