Ok, my sister is coming into town from Feb 28 - Mar 21. But only her husband will be here from Mar 12-21. So during that time we have decided to go out for dinner so they can finally met him. Well the only day it can be is a Saturday. He works afternoons so it can't be that Friday and I have Volleyball Sunday's evening's. Well my problem is this Saturday falls on St. Patricks day. Now I have never been a big fan of it so it's not important for me to go out and drink. Now my sister want's to go a certain restuarant because they don't have them in Arizona. Well it's not a pub but they do sell drinks. Well he wants to go out to an Irish Pub before hand. I'm upset because I don't feel that it's that important. My sister is in town and the only time we can ALL hang out with no kids is this one night. He know's this is important for me and he is making me feel that this drinking day is more important. Also he doesn't really drink. Wine or a beer here and there....Help what 2 do or say??
2007-02-01 12:45:35 · 13 answers · asked by browneyegirl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No friends of his will be there it's just the day of having to go drink at the irish pub....I don't get it. And no he doesn't have issues with my sister he hasn't even met her. ALso she is my TWIN sister, we are very close....so it's important that they meet. Also my sister doesn't want to go to the pub. I mean she is the one coming into town and wants to pick were she wants to go.
2007-02-01 12:54:19 · update #1
We can only go out that one night because her husband will be here as well.
2007-02-01 12:59:10 · update #2
Saturday is the ONLY day we can do it. It's the only Saturday they will both be here. And I work day's and my bf works afternoons.
2007-02-01 13:08:58 · update #3
Just explain you side, pretty much what youve said here, he might not realise that it is the only time you can all hang out. Surely he will understand, or you could comprimise and just go out early for one drink and then have dinner with your sister.
2007-02-01 12:51:20 · answer #1 · answered by f_jayce 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you go out for a long lunch on sat instead and then if your boyfriend wants to continue on at the irish pub he can - or if you're all in the mood by then, all the better.
Having said that, it sounds like maybe your boyfriend is a bit jealous/possessive? Just tell him how you feel and ask him to be supportive of you on this night because it means a lot to you etc... Use some of that female charm and I'm sure you could have him wrapped around your little finger...?? Good luck.
2007-02-01 12:52:19 · answer #2 · answered by rosie_rey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would let him go because A) he said he wants to go earlier in the day before the dinner. B) He doesn't drink much
Things i would try to compromise with him are: a time to be home early enough so everything goes smoothly for everyone and to drink like he normally does.. only a beer here and there. Since they serve drinks you can celebrate again later at the restaurant. Everyone i know starts drinking really early on st pat's because of the parade in our town.. so .. :) hope it goes well!
2007-02-01 12:52:07 · answer #3 · answered by fuhreezing 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him how you feel without yelling and getting upset and leave the ball in his court..........just curious why you can't go to the other restaurant another night with your sister, why can she only go that one night? Are you only eating out one night the whole time she is visiting? If not then maybe you could go a different night to the one she wants and work out some kind of compromise with bf
2007-02-01 12:53:02 · answer #4 · answered by irish eyes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are friends of his going to be at the pub as well or something?
Just negotiate something. Maybe you could set the time with your sister earlier, and he could go to the pub after that.
2007-02-01 12:50:54 · answer #5 · answered by Rey Gamberro Salvador 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you suggested that maybe he could do his St. Patty's Day drinking *after* dinner with your family? It's not as if the pub closes at sunset.
2007-02-01 12:51:09 · answer #6 · answered by John D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are worried sick about something that is over a month away, why can't you all get together Saturday during the day?? let them do what they want at night, i mean since it is "not all that important to you"?
out of a nine day period you are all only available to go out together one night?? i find that hard to believe
2007-02-01 13:00:36 · answer #7 · answered by Brandon B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be mean go to a pub so he can see whats it like,then go on some where else.
2007-02-01 12:50:35 · answer #8 · answered by nessie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you guys WILL and ARE going out for supper. But you're definitely open to going out for a few drinks afterwards
2007-02-01 12:49:26 · answer #9 · answered by Mandy B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put your foot and say you need to be with your family. Better yet just tell him everything told me
2007-02-01 12:52:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋