the guy i really like acts too at home when hes at mine
he helps himself to drinks
he goes upstairs and leaves his stuff im my room
he goes and turns on the tv
he uses the computer
he turns the radio on
he looks through our dvd collection
he uses the upstairs toilet (thats more a family one)
he sits where ever he wants
he even used the shower once
is this a good sign or not and y
2007-02-01 12:29:07 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i dont mind it and im taking it as a sign he comfortable round me thats gud as im thnking of asking him to be my bf soon
2007-02-01 12:37:33 · update #1
You let him.
2007-02-01 12:31:50 · answer #1 · answered by mamabear 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well its a sign that he feels comfortable with you but its not a good sign if it makes you uncomfortable and he has failed to notice, does he come over uninvited? if not stop inviting him or maybe ask him to call before he comes over so you can choose the option of meeting at his place or meeting out somewhere , but i can tell you if this is how he is now its how he will always be so if it bothers you now expect it to only get more irritating. sometimes its all about the way a person was raised but if you can tell right away that you two are on different pages as far as etiquette goes, i would take that as a sign of more troubles to come
2007-02-01 20:33:52 · answer #2 · answered by theburlaces 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You didn't say what your relationship with this person is, but clearly you are not impressed with his "make yourself at home attitude". You could start by discussing this openly with him and let him know that you and your family are not OK with his run of the house. In any event , you must assert yourself and take control of the situation by setting guide lines for him coming to your home. eg. if he heads for the upstairs, then just simply say, "I prefer that you restrict your visit to the common areas" or something like that, you get the idea. This person sound like someone who is used to getting their own way and doing whatever they want and may not even realize that what they are doing is annoying. If this doesn't solve your problem, then perhaps you should simply tell him that he has worn out his welcome.
2007-02-01 20:45:28 · answer #3 · answered by Trail Hiker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Makes you think twice about saying, "Make yourself at home," in the future doesn't it? Did you tell him that? It is a good sign if you don't mind.
If you do, you need to set boundaries. Tell him upstairs is off limits and you prefer to serve him if he wants anything to drink. Tell him he is making family members a bit uncomfortable so, although he is still very welcome to visit, he should consider himself a guest and ask before helping himself to the use of anything in the house.
2007-02-01 20:37:54 · answer #4 · answered by amazingly intelligent 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people don't know boundaries. And taken alone, none sound like he's offending. However, he won't change. You can mention it to him and he might respect what you say but he'll never understand why you're laying down the rules.
It takes all types for the world to go 'round.
2007-02-01 20:33:41 · answer #5 · answered by something 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey Sweetie I have a neighbor like that. He is cute but when he does things like that I think of him as more of a friend type. But when I am at school he acts like he is just another friend that lives no where near me. I think it means that he thinks of you as family and that is a good thing unless you really like him then that might be a bad thing because he might not what to date you because you seem more as a family type to him.
2007-02-01 20:34:41 · answer #6 · answered by x33and_hearts 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not a bad sign from him, but a bad sign of your relationship. There is a communication problem. You need to tell him when he does something that you don't like. Otherwise, he could be totally oblivious that you feel like this.
2007-02-01 20:33:23 · answer #7 · answered by Tess 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you don't mind it and it is not bothering you fine. If it bothers you in the slightest make it stop it could be a sign he is trying to take over.
2007-02-01 20:33:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well apparently.. hes really made himself comfortable and "at home" at your house and if you don't stop him sooner or later.. he'll be using your bed and telling you to sleep on the floor..
It sounds more like hes taking advantage of you and you definately should approach him about it
2007-02-01 20:32:46 · answer #9 · answered by MeganElizabeth 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Did you or any part of your family ever say something to the effect of "make yourself at home"? That is just what he is doing.
2007-02-01 20:33:26 · answer #10 · answered by sm177y 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this is a sure sign that he is here to stay
but i get the vibe ur not too much into him
anyways if it bothers u that much talk to him about it
2007-02-01 20:33:22 · answer #11 · answered by jahblez 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋