me and my boyfriend have been dating for almost 5 months now and everytime we get into a fight he always brings up the fact that i slept with a girl and that makes me disgusting. I dont know what to do. it was me and my best friend and her boyfriend, we were playing truth or dare one night and one thing lead to another. we both really liked it because it was fun so we decided to go to a hotel every weekend and "shack up". We only did it about 4 times and i dont regret it. Him and i were not together then and we didnt even get together until about 3 months later. Is it such a crime that i wanted to experiment and havea little fun?
2007-02-01 12:21:07 · 50 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no way - there is NOTHING wrong with that - HE needs to grow up and let the past be the past (especially since he wasnt even around then)
you know, it's my experience that people often have insecurities out of thier own guilt... so maybe he has had an experience with guy friend that he would rather forget :) or have happen again, who knows!
2007-02-01 12:23:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
I am not a big fan of your sexual experiences with the 3some but I'm not here to judge you but you have to be careful what you tell these guys because some of them are not mature enough to handle it. I'm sure he has done some things in his past that you would find terrible and would make you sick to think about it. I think the fact that it was your best friend and you still see her he probably sees her as a threat and wonders if you would ever do it again. For some reason he feels betrayed by you even though this happened before you met him and the relationship is never going to work....let him go and the next relationship be very careful what you tell him, make sure he can handle your past, the best thing is to let the past be the past and just move on.
good luck
2007-02-01 12:32:05 · answer #2 · answered by Pegi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It isn't whether or not sex with another girl was wrong that is at issue, it's the unfairness of bringing it up whenever you have a fight.
Using something irrelevant to win an argument with you is just manipulation of your emotions. It's not fair, and only erodes the relationship. Tell him to quit, and dump him for a better guy if he doesn't.
On the other hand, you have to move on and not go back to feelings of guilt for what you did (which I'm assuming you have, or he wouldn't be able to manipulate you with it so easily). Find real forgiveness, and then you can truly not regret it.
2007-02-01 12:28:34 · answer #3 · answered by John D 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok, i'm no longer a woman yet i've got have been given to place my 2 cents in. First, i assumed all females took their makeup off at bedtime, no rely the place they have been, except it develop into forgotten interior the warmth of the 2nd... so adult men already assume it comes with the territory. which you will go away so which you does no longer might desire to take off your makeup after a evening of steamy intercourse is excellent, tremendously thinking how little of the makeup remains the place it began... My considerable factor is i've got observed something occurs as quickly as I awaken next to a girl, tremendously in the event that they are nonetheless asleep: they look particularly harmless. She might have been a woman the night until now and a wildcat in one day yet interior the mild of the morning she's an angel - each and every time - and unquestionably alluring. mockingly, wearing makeup spoils the result - to no longer point out that passionately kissing somebody's makeup off tastes yucky. So particular, you will look distinctive the subsequent morning, yet angelic distinctive, and that's an excellent element. and don't deprive your self of intercourse after breakfast in mattress... what's it called, 5th meal? Mmmm the flaws you're able to do with marmalade... you will omit all that goodness? do no longer penalize your self via assuming he won't settle for you with out makeup. forget approximately suitable to the adult men who're that shallow and shop on with people who see your splendor in all its many types! Does a diamond have in basic terms one edge? Why could you?
2016-11-02 02:23:39 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No crime. You have to find out who you are and for some that involves many aspects of life.
I lived with a BI-Sexual woman for a few years. Few men ever came the house but what a load of women paraded through.
It is not seen as OK by many but then you are not the "many" You are you. If the BF can't deal with it time to give him the boot!!!!
2007-02-01 12:25:47 · answer #5 · answered by Ronnie R 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that is something that he needs to recognize is in the past but it might be hard for him because he might have some kind of issue with it that you don't know about and that he does not know how to bring up with you. I think that you and him should sit down one night and talk about it. It might help. But I think that he needs to go seek help to resolve some issues. I am doing that right now because I have issues about things that happened in my husband's past. I know in my heart that I am the only one he wants to be with but I am having a hard time getting my head to agree that his wild ways are over. That could be what your boyfriend's problem is.
2007-02-01 12:28:08 · answer #6 · answered by Strong Happy Marriage 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well id have to say honestly that i think your boyfriend is over acting and that if your telling the truth then i wouldnt care since it happened 3 months before you guys got together. i also think you shouldnt listen to him when he brings it up just say that it happened a long time away and it doesnt matter any more im only 12 and im like i therapist. bye
2007-02-01 12:32:33 · answer #7 · answered by Halo Freak 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, it was before you were together and obviously you were honest and upfront about it or he wouldn't be throwing it in your face now. The fact that you trusted him w/ that information should be enough to convince him that you care deeply about him. Tell him how you feel and if he still does it, then he obviously isn't mature enough to handle a relationship w/ you, or any other adult.
2007-02-01 12:25:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's completely normal to explore our sexualities. As long as you're faithful to him that's all that should matter - he is not accepting you for who you are or were. If it was me he'd be gone. I am bisexual and my husband has known from the get go - if he had ever held it against me I wouldn't have ever even given him a chance. I can't help who I'm attracted to and I'm not going to justify it to anyone - and I'm certainly not going to let anyone judge me or persecute me by it. I could go on forever - it's a very near and dear issue to me. People are born with an orientation - we couldn't change it if we wanted to & it's no one's place to judge us by it.
2007-02-01 12:28:38 · answer #9 · answered by Ashley 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No there's nothing wrong with that at all we as human beings love to experiment! He's an a**hole for not being able to accept the fact that you had a life before him! He's immature and unworthy! And you're not disgusting!
2007-02-01 12:25:09 · answer #10 · answered by Maria C 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋