MY DAUGHTERS FIRST BIRTHDAY IS ON SUNDAY....WE ARE HAVING A PARTY ON SATURDAY FOR HER....MY MOTHER-IN LAW....CAN'T GET OFF WORK ...SO SHE DECIDES TO CALL ME AND TELL ME THAT SHE IS GOING TO HAVE A PARTY WITH HER FAMILY AT "MY" HOUSE FOR HER....WHICH I WILL NOT BE THERE B/C I HAVE TO WORK....MY HUSBAND WILL BE THOUGH....I TOLD HER THAT I WANTED TO BE THERE...AND SHE SAID "WELL WHAT CAN YOU DO"....MY HUSBAND DOESN'T KNOW ANYTHING ABOUT THIS YET B/C HE IS AT WORK AND DOESN'T COME HOME UNTIL 3 IN THE MORNING....SOMEONE PLEASE HELP....WOULD YOU BE UPSET ABOUT THIS...I MEAN SHE IS MY DAUGHTER AND I AM GOING TO MISS HER FIRST BIRTHDAY CAKE
2007-02-01 12:20:49 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
THEY DON'T WANT TO HAVE A PARTY WITH HER SUNDAY ...BUT FRIDAY...TOMORROW
2007-02-01 12:39:58 · update #1
You don't have to miss her first b-day cake. Just calm down & think about it. Go ahead & give her the party on Saturday like you planned. Then if your husband's family wants to have a little party for her on Sunday let them have one. She's his daughter too, though it is hard to share a child with in-laws sometimes!!
2007-02-01 12:28:07 · answer #1 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This just happened to me except my sons second birthday is Saturday. We are not having his party until the 11 because that is when we have money. My husbands mom came by Saturday with a cake and ice cream and presents and said they were doing his birthday because she doubts she can make it when we are having it, I was on my way out the door. Anyways, there was nothing I could do but I suggest to you that if they want to have a party on Sunday let them, you already saw your daughter with her first cake. I know it sucks but there are probably going to be bigger battles to fight so save your energy for those.......
2007-02-01 20:34:11 · answer #2 · answered by kristi_rost2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Edit - re answer:
If she wants a party on Friday, I would tell her too bad. It's Saturday. I would tell her if she wants to have a small get together Sunday, fine, but that is the only compromise I would make. It most DEFINITELY wouldn't be on Friday. No Way, No How............She is really disrespecting you as a mother and is seriously crossing her boundaries as a grandmother. She needs to be made aware of that either by you or your husband (since he won't be home until 3, you may have to handle it so you can get some sleep tonight.) I would be as cordial to her as you can be when you talk to her, but I would make it clear that her first birthday party will be on Saturday, not Friday.
2007-02-01 20:29:43 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh baby, sounds sooooo much like my mother in-law!! Want a good idea??? While you're still hopping mad ring the old bag back and simply tell in her in no uncertain terms that you're very sorry but your child and your husband won't be able to make on that day because they want mummy to be there too!!! Unfortunately, mother in-law dear, unless you can make more suitable arrangements it looks like we'll only be able to have one little party for her!!!
How's that??? Don't let this woman take control of YOUR HUSBAND, CHILD AND HOME!!! Stand up and be heard girl. Go!!! Do it now. God speed.......... :)
PEACE & LOVE & ALL THAT
2007-02-01 20:30:49 · answer #4 · answered by Minx 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It should be up to your husband to negotiate this situation....and he should support you! of course you should be there for your daughters first birthday. Can the party be moved to a later time the same day, perhaps supper time? Then your mother in law could prepare dinner for all the guests :) and you could arrive just in time to eat and enjoy your daughter!
2007-02-01 20:28:42 · answer #5 · answered by silco4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell your mother in law that if she had any love and respect for you as the wife of your husband and mother of her granddaughter she would not put you in this position. or better yet, tell your husband to tell her this. because he needs to stand up for you in this. they are his parents and there for he will be in the middle of this.
he needs to explain to her how would she like it if someone made her feel like she didn't matter at her baby's first birthday?
i don't know how well you two get along, but me and mine get along great, but if she ever pulled something like this on me, I would make it clear that she's not respecting you as the mother of that baby. you pushed her out, you carried her, she can't relive being a mommy through your daughter. she needs to be happy she is a grandmother and gets to spend so much time with her grandbaby
2007-02-01 20:51:07 · answer #6 · answered by Kitterkat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would be mad and I would also not allow it. Tell your husband to tell his mother that it wouldnt be appropriate for her to throw YOUR daughter a birthday party especially at YOUR house without YOU there.
2007-02-01 20:26:53 · answer #7 · answered by jaysgurl28 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd be furious. She's YOUR daughter...Your mother-in-law got to watch all the moments in HER children's lives. It's your turn now. You decide when the party is...your mother-in-law can make things work for YOUR schedule.
2007-02-01 21:00:31 · answer #8 · answered by coldasyou213 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell no, I would fight tht tooth and nail. Mom in Law is being disgustingly disrespectful of you and you shouldnt take that crap.
Tell her if she cant make it "well, what can you do". Thats her problem. If she must have her own party, let her, but AFTER you have yours with your baby first.
Dont let her start walking all over you now or it will never end. Shame on her.
2007-02-01 20:26:43 · answer #9 · answered by LuLuBelle 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Put your foot down and say NO. Its not even my kid and it makes me mad, LOL!!!!!! Seriously though dont let them have the party without you. You are mom, she is just grandma. I've had to learn to say no and put my foot down alot because I have in laws that will litterally tell my kids to call them "mama" "papa" Believe me you dont want a situation like mine where the in laws think you child is there's.
2007-02-01 21:11:09 · answer #10 · answered by Luv_My_Baby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋