MY DAUGHTERS FIRST BIRTHDAY IS ON SUNDAY....WE ARE HAVING A PARTY ON SATURDAY FOR HER....MY MOTHER-IN LAW....CAN'T GET OFF WORK ...SO SHE DECIDES TO CALL ME AND TELL ME THAT SHE IS GOING TO HAVE A PARTY WITH HER FAMILY AT "MY" HOUSE FOR HER....WHICH I WILL NOT BE THERE B/C I HAVE TO WORK....MY HUSBAND WILL BE THOUGH....I TOLD HER THAT I WANTED TO BE THERE...AND SHE SAID "WELL WHAT CAN YOU DO"....MY HUSBAND DOESN'T KNOW ANYTHING ABOUT THIS YET B/C HE IS AT WORK AND DOESN'T COME HOME UNTIL 3 IN THE MORNING....SOMEONE PLEASE HELP....WOULD YOU BE UPSET ABOUT THIS...I MEAN SHE IS MY DAUGHTER AND I AM GOING TO MISS HER FIRST BIRTHDAY CAKE
2007-02-01 12:20:28 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
THEY DON'T WANT TO HAVE A PARTY WITH HER SUNDAY ...BUT FRIDAY...TOMORROW
2007-02-01 12:40:21 · update #1
Oh groan, have the party when you want. Is there anyway you can have it with your mother in law and you both present, even if it's not at a convenient time?
2007-02-01 12:25:34 · answer #1 · answered by Cris O 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ohhhh, you have every right to be mad. this is your daughter, not hers and i would never allow her to have the power of taking away the enjoyment of MY daughter's birthday - 1st birthday or 20th birthday. no one can take away your rights, unless you let them. you gave birth to her - not her. you should go ahead with the plans you had made for saturday;if she has to work, it's a really a shame, but that's the way it going to be. she can come see her grand daughter on a day when both you and your husband will be home - and if she wants to invite her family (and you don't mind having them), it HAS to be a day when you are home because you would not allow a party for YOUR daughter without your being there. this is your right and if she cannot understand it, it's something that has to be settled now before any other occasions come along. this is your child and your family. not hers - she lose that privilege the day her son married you. stick to your guns and i wish you well and your daughter a very happy birthday. remember who is the mommy and who is the grandma. this child is yours not hers and you are the ONE who make the decisions of what you want for the happiness of YOUR child.
2007-02-01 20:46:05 · answer #2 · answered by try 2 help 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to spouse when he gets home - but don't pounce on him with it. Make sure he knows your concerns and that you don't want her pulling this happy horsecrap - saturday is the birthday and not any earlier. And ONE party - yours.
In the morning, call your mom in law back up and inform her that the party is saturday, as she is your daughter. If she ants to have a cleelbration AFTER saturday with your daughter at HER house, that is completely fine with you. Tell her there is no negotiation. Have your husband back you on this.
Be calm, be concise in your wording and if she gets abusive, you hang up.
You're not going to miss anything -however, if she keeps this crap up, she's likely to miss a very great deal.
2007-02-01 20:34:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are the mother and it's your choice! You have the right to tell her no. You can let her know that if she wants to have a party for your daughter it will be when you can be there. You can't let your mother in law run your life. She has raised her children and this is your daughter, not hers. Stand up to her now or she will think it's okay to walk all over you and do whatever she wants with your children.
2007-02-01 20:34:15 · answer #4 · answered by QT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to cancel the party until the time you can be there and go by that or put your foot down and let her know how you fill and for her not to take over nothing like she is doing,besides you are the father you have that right.I hope every thing work out for you.
2007-02-01 20:51:27 · answer #5 · answered by D'Asia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you try to find another time everyone can attend and your problem will be solved. But to answer your question, She is pretty ballsy to tell you she is having a party at YOUR house. You husband needs to stand by you on this one.
2007-02-01 20:30:33 · answer #6 · answered by mimegamy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your child
your party
your house
tell mil to butt out!!!
2007-02-01 20:33:18 · answer #7 · answered by nwnativeprincess 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋