She has been single for as long as I have known her (about 5 years) and obviously wants children of her own. I find it awkward to talk to her about it as I believe there are many couples out there (esp those who cannot afford IVF) unable to have children yet the NHS helps her and she's on her own.
2007-02-01 12:18:16 · 10 answers · asked by catrina 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Somehow, especially in these days of NHS rationing I'm just not convinced that the acquisition of children should be everyone's "right". Medical procedures on the NHS should be for the sick - not for reasons of social engineering.
Political correctness, however, seems to have deemed that it is every woman's right to have this procedure if she so desires. I am not convinced - this is a step nearer to the society predicted by Huxley in "Brave new world". Well heck I forgot - you no longer need two parents to bring up a child because the state is going to do that for you. How interesting that in the UK the government are taking serious measures to get single parents off benefit and back into work - of course they will provide our children's upbringing and we will pay for it.
Should we as a society in an over populated world, with so many unwanted children be using very expensive medical processes so that someone can acquire a child? Children are not a commodity - and call me old fashioned if you will - but they are hard work, they need constant love affection and security and I don't think this is something the state can provide.
So I for one can see where you are coming from. Very nice for her - hope it works out, not just for her, but especially in the long run for the child. You have your doubts and you are entitled to them. However if you expressed these to her - you would probably damage your friendship...
2007-02-01 15:06:42 · answer #1 · answered by stgoodric 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man, if she can't handle a relationship with an adult, what makes her think she can raise a child? What does she expect this kid to do for her life? Kids are a whole lotta work, and that's not something you wanna go through without support...but whatever.
I'd wonder why she thinks a child will help her out or whatever. Like it'll complete her or make her happy? If somebody I knew was adamant about single-parenthood with a sperm donor...I'd do everything I could to encourage her not to do it.
2007-02-01 12:24:13 · answer #2 · answered by SlowClap 6 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Hmm.. it relies upon. in the event that they're merely relationship for sexual crap or through fact everybody else is relationship, it incredibly is stupid. yet while they're incredibly mature and actually decide to get to be conscious of the guy and be with them, it incredibly is high-quality. yet I surely do not think of 14-15 3 hundred and sixty 5 days previous adult adult males are mature sufficient or waiting for a sturdy relationship. a number of them are. i substitute into 14, very virtually 15 when I went out with my first boyfriend and he substitute into sixteen. this would not make me a ho, i substitute into merely greater mature than adult adult males my age and that i for my section enjoyed the guy I dated and had to get to be conscious of him.
2016-10-16 10:34:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its fantastic how men and women have adapted to modern life... they have, through tiime, learnt how to live and fend for themselves, withotu a partner... Being a single mum is fine. There is nothing wrong with it, and im sure she will be fine... but she may need a really good friend like yourself to support her. Give her all your love... and make sure you let her know what a great job shes doing with her life, her pregnancy, her baby... it can be really tough being a single mum, but that doesnt mean its the end of her life... sounds to me like shes doing really well...
Support her
:)
2007-02-01 12:31:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If she wants children and hasn't found someone she wants to marry, why would that scenario make it awkward for you to talk to her about it. You should be happy for her. She is just as deserving as the women who have spouses.
2007-02-01 12:37:18 · answer #5 · answered by MyPreshus 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't worry about what other people do. It is her decision and I am sure she will do just fine. It is her life, don't be awkward or mad at her for what she wants to do.
2007-02-01 12:21:01 · answer #6 · answered by Metal 4 · 2⤊ 3⤋
mind your own business
2007-02-01 12:21:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
Good for her :-)
2007-02-01 12:39:30 · answer #8 · answered by Screamin' Banshee 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
good for her.
im hope all is gr8 for her.
2007-02-01 12:21:37 · answer #9 · answered by rostov 5 · 1⤊ 3⤋
It is her choice....doesn't seem fair does it?
2007-02-01 12:21:34 · answer #10 · answered by Bear Naked 6 · 0⤊ 4⤋