My girlfriend and i have been dating for about 2 years. up until this point we have been very serious and have done a mediorcre job of keeping the flame alive, she's 19 and im 21, not a big gap but were still youung and both need that passion. my girlfriend's sister has recently been baptized as an advent christian and as a new convert, she has has done a complete 180 on her lifestyle, no sex, drinking, even no MUSIC. now im not goign to bash the bible in fact my best friend is an advent, but now my GIRLFRIEND is beginnig to follow her sisters path and already she has begun to cut back on our sexual activity! im not a perv but i do love sex and its my way of expression! i have the feeling that this is the beginning of the end of our relationship and this scares me......what can i do? i would take on anyone to keep her next to me...but god? im only human.....should i sacrifice my happiness for my relationship? or suffer the pain of giving up the most important person in my life?
2007-02-01 12:16:27 · 11 answers · asked by Kendrix:Evolution 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Marriage is not an option for either of us as this point. sex is not the basis to our relationship, our commitment is. sex is one of the ways i enjoy expressing myself and my feelings.
2007-02-01 12:43:29 · update #1
Time to dump her.
Anyone that would turn off her brain like that to worship an imaginary sky-pixie, is NOT someone you want in your life.
Trust me you'll be MUCH happier without her.
2007-02-01 12:19:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 2⤋
You shouldnt have to... sex is an important part of a relationship... its natural!
You need to tell her how you feel... that you fear it may be the break of you both... she needs to take your opinion into mind... you are important too!
Please talk to her and see if you both can work this through... 2 years is early, but its a long way to go, and i can tell you dont want to lose her... im sure she doesnt want to lose you too.
How would she feel if you didnt support her? The same way you feel about her cutting back on your sexual activity... i know im gonna get some thumbs down from people who think sex isnt important in a relationship... but it is... its not THE most important thing... but it is pretty important... im not answering this for the points, i hear what your saying and i want to help.
What is most important is that you understand each other, and hopefully that you can both work your way through this together.
There are things you should sacrifice for your loved one however, you should be able to do anything for her... but if you feel you will be uncomfortable with any changes, then it will affect your relationship, and you will both get hurt in the end... so you both really need to talk about this.
Best of luck xxx
2007-02-01 12:24:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
One way to solve your problem is to gat married. The only to have sex legally according to God is through marriage. If your girlfriend is becoming a christian .... she is doing the right thing in cutting back on her sexual activities. If you both have been together for that long....consider marriage. It would put you in the right with God. You are currently so far in the red...
Also God took the ultimate sacrificed and sacrificed his only son for your sins...even though he walked the earth 2000+ years ago. God could have kept Jesus with him....and destroyed all of humanity. Yet he still chose to send us a lifeline. He still chose to give us hope. Consider that. God payed the ultimate price for our sins. Would you do the same for him? That sacrifice seems so gigantic compared to your i'm-going-to-die-without-sex sacrifice. It is so much more [insert word here]. There are no words to describe the sacrifices that God has made for us as humans.
If you continue to have sex with your girlfriend because of your needs and wants....you are only currupting her and damning her to hell. If she wants to recede from sex.....then let her. You made it sound like sex was all their was to your relationship. You made it sound like without sex you would not be able to keep your girlfriend.
The best bet would be to sit and talk with her over the matter. Consider marriage in this conversation. Marriage would do you some good. It would make one less sin to commit.
Be Blessed. .. ... .... ..... ...... ....... ........ ..........
2007-02-01 12:29:28 · answer #3 · answered by Master O 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i imagine that clinical technology and awareness is a present from God. the reality is that medical doctors can cope with the indications of ailment and ailment regardless of the indisputable fact that the Lord does the healing. ailment isn't of God hence combating antagonistic to it should be the most ideas-blowing element to do. it isn't God's will that any should be ill. ailment and ailment are consequently of the the autumn of guy. Sin motives ailment. Sin motives ailment. Sin finally ends up in lack of life, both bodily and spiritually. it really is the reason God hates sin.
2016-12-03 08:22:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marry her - then you would not be fornicating.
The Bible calls it fornication, and calls that an abomination before God - in fact says fornicators will not inherit the Kingdom.
There is actually a lot of personal reward that comes from practicing self control. It is a "victory" of sorts. And we have, as a Christian, the strength of the Lord to help us- although it is pretty darn hard, it has been done.
If you cannot abstain - and I certainly understand that one - then marry her.
2007-02-01 12:22:25 · answer #5 · answered by martiismyname 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
friend i hate to tell you this but sex is not to be outside the boundaries of marriage. she is right to change because she is wanting to follow god. I would stay away from the advent church because they have some strange teachings. find a good baptist or non denominational church and you and your girlfriend together come to god and stop having sex. god will bless you my friend , dont let god have to intervene on your relationship when she is trying to come to god and you want to keep having sex, follow god and be strong i know it is tough, pray to god for strength.
2007-02-01 12:24:40 · answer #6 · answered by disciple 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You're 21. You'll find someone else. You don't want to spend your life with a fundamentalist whack job. Get out now -- it'll only hurt more later.
2007-02-01 12:23:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
First you need to ask yourself why sex is your source of happiness. If you can't relate to her without the sex, then there will no be success in any of your future relationships, no matter how much they are into sex.
2007-02-01 12:22:10 · answer #8 · answered by PJ 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
this is one of those decisions that is gonna require you to think long and hard about which way you want this relationship to go once you've decided what you want to do then and only then should you make a decision
2007-02-01 12:25:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to say bye-bye to someone who has completely lost their mind.
2007-02-01 12:56:45 · answer #10 · answered by untilyoucamealong04 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋