my muslim guy whom i've been seeing for a month doesn't want to
get involved with relationships but just play around. I know he likes me but he won't be with me because at the end of the day he only wants to marry a girl from pakistan and obviously I am not. We have been physical and I want to have future with him. I really like him but I don't understand what relationship we are having now, I am going crazy. I dont know what to do.
2007-02-01 12:09:28 · 15 answers · asked by just a girl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He is quite clearly using you. Get rid. He will never marry you and there is no future in this "relationship".
2007-02-01 13:47:14 · answer #1 · answered by b97st 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can not have a future with someone who doesn't want one with you, and why would you want to? Why would you go into something like this in the first place? Didn't you know what he wanted before you gave yourself to him? All the sex in the world isn't going to make him want you any more. The sooner you realize that, and stop allowing this guy to take advantage of you, the better off you will be.
My mother always told me to take people at face value. So face it. The two of you have different values and he's never going to see you the way you want him to see you. Move on, now. Don't allow yourself to be used until someone he thinks is better comes along.
2007-02-01 20:19:18 · answer #2 · answered by sleepingbeauty123 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i am going to answer this from a guys point of view, allot of men are attracted to the way Pakistan woman and woman from foreign country's treat there men, they are very good to there men traditionally, and they are different than American woman, i am not saying that American woman are bad, this man was raised and taught at a young age what to look for in a wife, stay with him if he treats you well, get to no him better learn about his culture, if being physical is bothering you then talk to him about it, i think it sounds like a interesting relationship, i learned not to long ago that Muslim men some times have more than one wife, talk to him about this,like i said learn as much as you can about his culture, remember if he is a true Muslim his believes toward woman and the world are just as real as what Christan's believe in. are any other religion.
2007-02-01 20:56:13 · answer #3 · answered by devil weed 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to be blunt but....
Leave him its not going anywhere and things will only get more complicated.
Don't be 'physical' it will make things harder for you and what if you get pregnant??
He is using you. He will ditch you when he gets bored.
Distract yourself, go out with friends, get a new hobby, one day you will meet someone else and wonder why you put yourself through this. He is not compatible and short term it may be ok long term it will probably not work. You make it sound like he is muslim and you not, this would complicate it further.
Good luck
2007-02-01 20:19:58 · answer #4 · answered by uk.housewife 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing u can do, u cant make some1 be with u. U have 2 ask yourself do u want 2 share your man with another woman once he has found his bride from pakistan cos i wouldnt no matter how much i loved him. If he truly loves u anyway then why is he looking 4 another bride if u are good enough 2 sleep with then u should be good enough 2 marry
2007-02-01 20:16:57 · answer #5 · answered by kerry w 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
GET IT INTO YOUR HEAD THAT YOU HAVE NO FUTURE WITH THIS MAN.He has clearly told you taht he just wants a bit of fun. Quite frankly i think you are playing a dangerous game here. There are plent of other guys out there who are happy to give you a strong relationship, you just need the patience and the where with all to go and get him.
2007-02-01 20:15:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's using you for sex and a good time until he returns home to marry "the pre-selected woman" in an arranged marriage OR the kind of woman his parents expect him to marry.
He's already told you this, right? Yet you refuse to believe him. When a man says these things, he means it.
2007-02-01 20:13:58 · answer #7 · answered by americansneedtowakeup 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have cheapened your self and he TOTALLY disrespects you.
Do you get a thrill out of being used, like a piece of furniture to be mounted at your lord and master's whim?
Because that's all you are to him. A beast of burden.
2007-02-01 20:16:02 · answer #8 · answered by Not Ecky Boy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you find a way to make him stay, you will both end up unhappy.
Just enjoy yourself and see what happens...
2007-02-01 20:13:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him truthfully, he might not be worth it if he is not willing to commit like you are, he may not appreciate you, so you need to ask how he feels about you.
2007-02-01 20:14:41 · answer #10 · answered by smiles 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋