I invited my mother in law to my ultrasound to see the sex of the baby.I told her I wanted to tell my hubby efore I told anyone else.When hubby got home she ran out and told him.Then she told everyone the goodnews before we hada chance to!!She says her being the baby's grandmother is just as much ofabig dealas us being the parents ,so it was o.k. for her to do that.......Was she out of line??
2007-02-01 12:04:50 · 27 answers · asked by Direktor 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
she was out of line...that was your special thing and she shouldn't have ruined it like that!
2007-02-01 12:06:58 · answer #1 · answered by aerochik9675 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. She was out of line.
And no, Grandmothers do not trump Mothers or are they on equal footing.
Since you have to do all the hard work on this kid, and all she has to do is enjoy it- you hold all the rights to all the happy moments.
She was wrong. This instance is a for-shadowing of her opinion on the matter and she will be Holy H*ll when the baby comes.
You may need to put your foot down before it makes an appearance- or she may ignore everyone once blinded by the sight of the actual infant.
2007-02-01 12:14:53 · answer #2 · answered by There you are∫ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She was definitely out of line! From now on you should not let her in on any important information until after you and your husband have shared it with each other and decided when to tell others. She may be the grandmother, but you are the mom! Also, it is your place to tell your husband news about the child the two of you created. Good luck.
2007-02-01 12:13:47 · answer #3 · answered by QT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she was out of line. I mean yeah it is a big deal for her too so I understand her doing what she did. BUT then again, she already had her kid(s) and already had her chance to "shine" (if you will) so I do not think she is justified at all. She should have given you the chance to at least tell your husband, I think it's rude.
2007-02-01 12:10:44 · answer #4 · answered by melody g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I would say so. If it was your wish to tell your hubby, and everyone else, then she should have let you. It's your kid for god's sake!! Tell her to stop being selfish! It's great that she's glad to be a grandma, but she should respect the fact that it's your kid, and you should be the one who gets to share the news. Tell her to get pregnant, then she can tell everyone about it herself. Until then, she should keep her mouth shut and let you have your time in the spotlight.
2007-02-01 12:08:32 · answer #5 · answered by Charleen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah I think she should have at least let you tell everyone else just cause shes the grandmother doesn't matter and plus you told her you wanted to tell your husband. But its just my opinion.
2007-02-01 12:09:23 · answer #6 · answered by Bryant 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah that's pretty rude, she was out of line. it's YOUR baby and you requested her to not tell, and yet she did it anyway...it's really bad that she's brushing it off like that, i hope it's not a preview of things to come. if i were you, i'd, how do you say, "lay down the law" and talk to her before the baby's born.
2007-02-01 12:16:49 · answer #7 · answered by Southern Girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends if she did this out of spite or out of uncontrollable joy ? Sounds like a big brew-ha-ha coming . You know this woman and her ways better than anyone here . Let your husband handle this , it is his Mom to deal with . He can express to her, his unhappiness with her actions . This is no time for you to stress over her pettiness . Your first three months are critical as far as staying happy and calm and healthy in all areas . Lesson learned , time to look forward and enjoy . BTW CONGRATULATIONS !!!!!!!!!!!!! ( - ;
2007-02-01 12:30:16 · answer #8 · answered by iambettyboop 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes she was and it wasn't okay for her to do that. she needs to be told in a very calm and quiet manner that this behavior is not acceptable and she needs to respect your requests, your decisions, and basically to mind her own business.
she sounds as though she wants to be the center of attention and doesn't care if she hurts your feelings or cuts you out.
this is your child, not hers, and she has no right interfering even in something as exciting as this! if she is like this now i can't imagine what she is going to be like as time goes on.
good luck! and i wouldn't let her in the delivery room.
2007-02-01 12:30:08 · answer #9 · answered by tess 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, that was rude of her to burst your bubble, but now you know to keep fresh news away from the blabbermouth. Don't let her insensitivity ruin your big event. Just be careful from now on what you let her know.
2007-02-01 12:09:53 · answer #10 · answered by thezaylady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it was rude and selfish of her to steal your joy. I would ask her to think about how it would have felt if when she gave birth to your husband his mom had done her the same way.
2007-02-01 12:09:49 · answer #11 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋