Ive reached the point in my depression?

Question

where I am afraid to get better. I feel if I get better it will only be a let down when I come down again. Maybe I never got better before except ignored a lot of things. Taking a bottle of pills equals no pain and getting better means the possiblity of pain. Im just amazed how my mind set has altered so much. Im just down that I dont have anyone I can trust when I hit those real low points where I need help to get myself back up. Does this crap ever stop?

Answer 1

I think that you will feel more optimistic once you start feeling less depressed. Of course, you need medical attention when you are really depressed. Be sure to go to a good doctor that you trust.

There is hope.

I don't know if you are religious or not, but here's a spiritual approach that may help you (in conjunction with the treatment you are getting from your doctor and counselor). If you are an atheist, an agnostic, or follow a different religion, just adapt these principles to your life.

1. Commit your life to a grand purpose. For Christians, this means a commitment to glorifying Jesus Christ. The point is that we can all commit ourselves to a grand purpose---- of doing good, of doing the best we can.

2. Spend some time every day reading the Bible. Think about what the words mean to you, and how you can apply it to your life.

3. GET RID OF ALL OF YOUR GRUDGES. This is vitally important. Forgive others..... and also, FORGIVE YOURSELF. A grudge doesn't have to be against other people. Sometimes we need to forgive ourselves for our mistakes, and move on.

4. Spend dedicated time daily with the important people in your life.... your family, your closest friends.

5. Spend time every week with some positive Christian friends. The key point here is to find a group of friends that are good people, positive people, that support you. It might mean going to church on Sundays and socializing afterwards. Or maybe going to a Rotary meeting, or an Elks meeting, or some other club that has positive, friendly, and good people as members who you can socialize with.

6. Follow a daily routine that is satisfying to you. Realize that there is meaning in seemingly trivial things. Follow a routine that is healthy for you, and that brings some stability into your life.

7. Do something nice for someone every week. Do random acts of kindness. It doesn't have to be much. One simple act will have important and lasting effects.

8. Give thanks daily for being given the gift of life.

These ideas are not mine..... they are from Frank B. Minirth and Paul D. Meier, of the famed Minirth & Meier clinics. I highly recommend you work with your doctor, heal any biochemical abnormalities that you may have (perhaps genetically predisposed towards), and also take steps to strengthen your soul. The steps listed above are powerful. Especially important ..... forgiveness of others, and forgiveness of your own mistakes.

You can get better, and yes, the crap you are experiencing right now can stop. Please do everything you can to get better, and work with your doctor and couselor.

Answer 2

there's only one hope for depression. That is an effective anti depressant medication. Depression comes from a checmical imbalance in the neurotransmitters and the brain and nothing in the world will alleviate unless you compensate for it. The right medication will do it. When you're depressed, you're unable to interact with a therapist by talking or be with or around anyone so talk therapy won't work. Being around people is a waste because the loss of interest makes it difficult to tolerate company and again, verbal interaction. You will have no desire for pets or taking care of animals as it's too labor intensive, too complex and your mind can't handle it. Excercise requires motivation which you have none. Until you can compensate for the chemical imbalance that's causing the depression and anxiety, none of these suggestions are useful.. Once you regain your sense of motivation and desire to do things, only then can any interaction or activity possibly help feel good.. There are ssri's, snri's mao inhibitors and trycyclic anti depressants. Some work better than others depending on the individdual. It is frustrating until you find one that works well with tolerable side effects. If none of these are ever an option, try ect (shock therapy)l

Answer 3

It only stops when you make it stop.You have keep on taking those meds & making those appts. If the meds aren't helping tell your Doc & perhaps the dosage can be adjusted or a new medication can be prescribed. Have you ever been hospitalized in a Psych Ward? It's no fun , honey, & not something I would wish on my worst enemy. And I've been in the worst to the best. None of them are a picnic or can compare to the outside world where you can be independent & make your own choices. Once they lock that door all your freedom is gone, so think about what you're doing & even if you feel there's no one you can trust at least trust yourself. You seem to know the signs & when you need to reach out to someone, so get to your Dr & start talking. Good Luck!

Answer 4

hey hey now. Sorry you feel low. What you are experiencing is another symptom of depression. Unfortunately your brain won't think positive until you aren't depressed. You need to agrressively embrace the possibility that there is some medication and therapy that can begin to turn this around for you and that your life will change. Tomorrow will be different, it may not be better but it will be different. You are thinking yourself into a hole. Your question is the snake trying to eat it's own tail. You need to seek professional help and really stick with it until a light comes into your life. Hold on and move forward.

Answer 5

"Does this crap ever stop?" I've asked myself the same question and i think no because life doesnt stop, but it does move, things change however slowly and things will never be the ame as they were in your downest as so many things are different now, youve seen that you can feel better and i know with myself even when i sink somtimes its never for as long and never to really the same severity as it was at the worst, it can feel like the pits because im used to feeling ok most of the time now, so a little bit of downer feels like "AAAARRGGGGG" but really i bounce back a lot better and after its passed again i think eh, wasnt so bad. Depression so sucks!!!! I hope you feel a bit better for having vented though, you just gotta keep the ball rolling and more than anything try and remember that nothing is permanent, not even depression.

Answer 6

It only stops when you let go of your romantic notions of what depression is.

Step 1. Off all drugs. Cold Turkey.
Step 2. Recover from the hangover of the drug taking so that you can be focused again.
Step 3. Exercise or do something that activates your brain, allows the blood to flow.
Step 4. Realize that your depression is merely chemical and relates to the amount of blood flow in your brain. You need to circulate the blood in your body.

If you take these steps, you will be to busy to consciously dwell on the very fact that you are depressed to begin with.

Intelligent brains overcome miniscule problems, such as depression, quite easily.

I guess the answer to your question is simply: smarten up some and you will be ok.

Answer 7

I am Bipolar. That means I go way high and way low. I take 13 different pills a day (some of them more than one). It has helped me tremendously. You must see a psychiatrist, you can not pull yourself out of the depression without help! No one can. Some people choose to ignore it, but they still fight the battle-alone. They never will get back to really feeling good.

As you get to feeling better the medication will be backed off. I assure you, if you let a medical person help you, you will feel much better and not so afraid.

God bless you :)

Answer 8

Yes, it does stop, but remember you are the only one who can make it stop, the mind can reset itself, but you have to do the work. you have to medicate the anxiety and depression and then get at the root cause, there is something deep in your mind that is bothering you, and somewhere along the way life has taken the wind out of your sails, keep working and don't give up, exercise, eat right ,and rest as much as possible, find an outlet, like painting, or writing, these things don't cost anything to do and they make you feel better, its called transference

Answer 9

There are some cases where chemical imbalances (generally caused by poor diet choices) can cause depression. Otherwise, it's a choice. If you choose to be happy, you can be. As you state, however, it's much easier to throw a pity party and suffer. All for no other reason than THAT'S THE WAY YOU CHOOSE TO BE. You can change if you wish. Just do it.

Answer 10

Iv been depressed before. The best way to over come it is to just try to ignore it. Try a new hobby...i would suggest pottery. Its funny and you can meet a lot of new people in classes. Always stay busy and i would suggest talking a sleeping pill so you don't lye awake at night. i hope i helped.