ok i dated this boy and we broke up twicw but went back together now we dont go together but yet he wants to have sex and wants me to do oral on him(i do it too) but he doesn't a relationship with me. he knows that i care about him and that i want to be with him but yet he says let time take its course. he tells me that he likes me and all that other stuff. while he tealls me this stuff i still feel likes he's using me. I remember the day when he left me at his house after we did it. he told me that he had to go make money and that he would be right back but yet i waited for 2 hours. i was so hurt. we were going out at this time. he told me it was a mishap. he makes me feel like im not good enough. i feel as if im just no good. he uses me so bad. I give him money too because i see it as being there for him seeing that his parents wont give him money. i need help and advice. with him sometimes i feel pretty and sometimes i dont. im so insecure now. please help me.
2007-02-01 11:41:42 · 21 answers · asked by smfan 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
WE DONT GO OUT NOW BUT HE STILL WANTS THINGS FROME ME.
2007-02-01 12:00:15 · update #1
I will not beat around the bush, or go easy on you.
Questions: Why? Why are you still associating with him? You 2 broke up for a reason. Move on. When people break up, that means that they no longer interact with each other on an intimate level. It's possible to be friends, but seeing that you are doing "favors," he IS using you, and not being considerate of YOU or YOUR FEELINGS. Simply put, he's using you because you allow him to do it. Put your foot down and tell him, "NO MORE!!" If you don't do this, you not only set yourself up to be "used" by him, but by other men as well. Do you want that for yourself? I hope not. Giving him money on top of what your are doing with him? That's even worse. CUT IT OUT!!
I'm sure you are a very attractive young lady, but you need to step up to the plate and defend your dignity. Operative word: DIGNITY.
2007-02-01 12:23:52 · answer #1 · answered by Andrew B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie,
There is a point in a relationship where you have to end it. Brake up with him and start a new relationship, regardless of what he offers you. If u continue like this, your relationship can become abusive. So watch out for signs of anger. Don't give him Money either. It just encourages him to be the way he is and not to change-which he wont. Go and find some one that loves u for who u are and not for what u offer. If some one truly loves u, they will not allow u to have a bitter moment, like he does. U gave him a chance twice and he is still the same. Make sure that wont happen with the others. Sex is sure an important subject in relationships too, but some one wanting u for it is wrong. (watch out what people tell you to do during sex too. Don't harm your self).
I hope u find the right person.
The Mastermind
2007-02-01 11:56:45 · answer #2 · answered by The Mastermind 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You broke up with him because something about him in your soul doesn't like right? Well have faith in you! Follow you girlie vibe and don't stand to being used. Your better than that. Don't wait for NO GUY unless he calls you and says he's running behind and has a good reason. Honesty is the key here and the only person you need to be honest with is yourself. Guys that make you feel pretty one minute and scum the next isn't worth having in your life. You need to get a hobby like,sewing, sports, reading, art, something you are good at or something new you want to learn. Don't wait around for him to come to you.. He'll show up when your NOT lookingor waiting. I PROMISE! You are so worth being treated like the princess you are. Take care and email me if you EVER feel this way again. Oh and another thing Oral is earned honey not just giving out freely. That boy must earn his to get his..and from what you're telling me he 's not worth it! There are so much your missing out on in this BIG ole world.. Go out and explore it!
2007-02-01 11:52:30 · answer #3 · answered by anabanana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are beautiful and if you are helping him as you are and you feel that he is taking advantage of you for money and or for sex you should just drop him and move on. There are way too many other guys out there that will not leave you hanging and will love you for who you are. Doing things as having sex with him that is not a good thing, make him realize that you do not need him and he will then take you serious about your break-up. Do what is best for you, you are the one that really matters.....love yourself with in and don't give up....Be all that you can be and stop worring that he needs money and sex from you.....He is using you and I know that you must know this.....move on dear....God loves you and he will bring the right one to you, beauty is only skin deep remember that.
2007-02-01 11:52:28 · answer #4 · answered by Nancy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please lose this guy. Have you ever heard the saying why buy the cow when the milk is free. He is doing nothing but using you for his on personal pleasure. There is someone out there who will like you for you and not take advantage of you. Kids today get relationships confused with sex. Sex of any kind does not make a relationship. A relationship is what makes sex called making love. It is beautiful if with the right person because there are no worries because the inner feelings are there before love making and afterwards.
2007-02-01 11:49:05 · answer #5 · answered by Father of 2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are being used by this guy and you know it, You do deserve better and leaving him will unload a lot of bad baggage is is dumping on you which is bringing you down. Your self-worth is taking a beating and he could care less, But you do and you must. He's sending you such bad ideas of you not being good and then hits you up for money. It should be no surprise to you that his parents don't give him nay. Please, for your sake, get out and begin a journey of re-discovery where you will find that you are good, and you are pretty, and you deserve the best in life and a guy who will really care for and love you. It will be a place of safety where your soul will be nurtured and your needs met. Your self-worth and integrity will remain as strong as you make it.
2007-02-01 11:56:26 · answer #6 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like he controls you. I think u should tell him that ur not going to hav sex w/ him or do oral unless he want a relationship. It does kind of sound like hes using you but the way it sounds might be different from what the reality. You should probably just take a break from him for a while and just see what happens.
2007-02-01 11:49:58 · answer #7 · answered by Cassy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are completely being used. You have deluded yourself into believing that this is a worthwhile, meaningful relationship, when it is a DANGEROUS and UNHEALTHY one. He is using you and your body and you are worth WAY more than that. Stop calling him, and stop answering his phone calls. The best way to get over him is to remove him from your life completely. He says he likes you but if he truly did he wouldn't treat you this way. You deserve someone better. He says let time take its course? That simply means "I will just get what I want from you until I get bored." - He is getting everything he wants, but you are getting nothing but hurt feelings and low self esteem. This is an emotionally abusive relationship, and you should not go through this alone. Talk to your friends about it. If you feel like you can't, you can email me. No one should have to deal with that.
2007-02-01 11:48:49 · answer #8 · answered by Helpyouhelpme 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when i was younger i went through a similar thing. my best advice is get out while you can because the longer you stay "with" him, the less confidence you will have in yourself and the more likely you are to become pregnant by this asshole. i've been there and done that and now im a 20 yr old single mother of a 2 1/2 yr old child. GET OUT WHILE YOU CAN. YOU ARE BETTER THAN THAT!
2007-02-01 11:48:56 · answer #9 · answered by wats_wrong_with_ppl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get yourself respect out the gutter and find some one who will respect you. you need to find some one who wants to be with you and doesn't' just want sex from you. Time is a funny thing and if he isn't willing to respect you the way he should, then why the hell should he get the benefit of sex? Time to take yourself seriously and tell him to take a long walk of a very short pier
2007-02-01 11:48:42 · answer #10 · answered by Rusty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋