Seven months of dating - in public no less! We made big plans for the future. He wined and dined me - flowers to the office and the whole bit! When I had a scare that I was pregnant I thought he'd take it ok. That's when he said he was married! I verified this - he still lives with her! I wasn't pregnant and of course now he wants to continue our relationship. The sad thing is, I still love him. Advice, please.
2007-02-01 11:32:02 · 29 answers · asked by DPL06351 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Get out now! Even if you get him to divorce her, if he cheated on her with you then a few years down the road he will cheat on you with someone else. Not to mention he is liar! You can do better. Also if you need a good book to help you move on, try "Better Single than Sorry" It is great.
2007-02-01 11:38:59 · answer #1 · answered by Erin B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you still love him? Do you love yourself? Can you trust him? He didn't tell you he was married until he thought you might be pregnant, what was the point of telling at that time, you ever ask yourself that question. It was his way of saying your relationship wasn't going any further,even with a baby. And what if you really were pregnant, is that the way you want to bring a child into this world. Now that you know the truth you need to reconsider your feeling or have some will power until these feeling pass b/c if you continue the relationship with this man you'll most likely end up hurt b/c he will never be able to give you what you really want.
2007-02-01 19:47:53 · answer #2 · answered by Forever_Young 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to let that go! he's no good for you! what if you would have never told him about the pregnancy scare? you would have been left in the dark. your 7 months relationship was based on a lie, because he was never yours. no matter how much time he spend with you, you're the other woman. he told you he was married when you thought you were pregnant to a) let you know that he has a family of his own already, b) in hopes that you wouldn't have the baby because of his marriage, c) to let you know that being pregnant will make the situation more difficult then what it is, or d) he finally felt that it was time you knew. but the fact is he lied to you! plus girl he didn't even have the respect to get a divorce before he asked you back, that means he probably never will.
2007-02-01 19:40:36 · answer #3 · answered by T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very sad that you feel that you still love him. He betrayed you,lied to you,and would have definitely abandoned you had you been pregnant. This is what happens when you don't take precautions. Unprotected sex is a death sentence with the rise of HIV/AIDS in North America. You can stop your heart from beating, just like I can't give you the answer to the question you already know the answer to. Protect yourself and take each day at a time and PLEASE make sure you get tested, for your own safety. The rise is in your age group, 14-34 heterosexual females. And Guard Your Heart. Good Luck girlfriend, it will work out for you, keep your eyes open, your young and intelligent and that is what attracted this "love" of yours to you in the first place.
2007-02-01 19:44:11 · answer #4 · answered by peaches 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what ever it takes to get this Casanova, out of your head. He is an expert at the art of sedution, he will never change. When he tires of you, he will be looking for the next conquest. This is not love, he has manipulated you, build a shield against his charms. Of course he wants to continue, but if he really loved you, he would not stay living with his wife, stop before he breaks your heart, (more than he already has), how mean to lead you on, and lie to you about his marrige, and he would make a lousy husband, you can do better than a liar & cheater.
2007-02-01 19:45:12 · answer #5 · answered by Kimberly H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh boy, that's a big mess you got yourself into, eh? Well, knowing that he's married, I think you need to end the relationship because if you continue with this, everyone will end up being hurt. Please think about this too - how can you still love this guy after he's lied to you all this time? He obviously doesn't love you. I'm sure there are a lot of unmarried men out there who will love you and treat you good.
2007-02-01 19:43:41 · answer #6 · answered by mauinei34 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hahahaha, wow that sucks. Ah well, at least your not pregnant. Use a combination of birth control and condoms for no more scares because the likelihood of becoming pregnant while using condoms and birth control is so slim it's not even worth mentioning. Anyways, you should move on with your life. He's a jerk and he's using you. If you want to have some fun, threaten to call his wife.
2007-02-01 19:36:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
OMG!!! Since your not pregnant, I suggest you move far away from him. Honey, if he's married to someone else and wining and dining you. What makes you think that if you were married to him, that he wouldn't be doing this to someone else. Remember, karma goes around. You wouldn't want your husband in a situation like this.
2007-02-01 19:37:32 · answer #8 · answered by Sharon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love ahhh dont we just wish that it was a switch that we could just turn off? So wow what a shock to you he was married huh? Well I think that you should find out first why he felt like cheating, if he plans on stayig with his wife. But don let him play you, if he is going to leave her for you that watch to see what his actions are - actions speak louder then words. Good luck.
2007-02-01 19:43:24 · answer #9 · answered by Rosie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey he was just using you for a freebie until you put the scare in him. Now he still wants to carry a relationship because he knows he's getting over on his wife, unless she finds out about the two of you,????!!!!!!
2007-02-01 19:45:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋