My fiance and I are having a very small wedding, just immediate family and a few friends. I'd like to mail an announcements to other family and friends telling them we're getting married, but how do I word it? I need to tell them what's going on but get the message across ( with tact and in a nice way) that they aren't invited. I don't want to hurt anyones feelings or have it come across like I'm fishing for a gift. Any suggestions? Thanks!!!!!!!
2007-02-01 11:19:40 · 21 answers · asked by K 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Usually announcements are sent out fter you are married. That way you let people know, "Hey, we got married!" without them feeling like you are asking for a gift. There is no tactful way to say beforehand "Hey we're getting married, but you didn't make the A-list!" It goes over much better after the fact. .
To send announcements after the wedding its nice to include a photo and then you choose the level of formality you want. You can with something fun like:
We did it!
Hylie and Liam
are happy to announce
we are now
Mr. and Mrs. Liam Butler
We exchanged vows
Saturday, the sixteenth of July
Nineteen Hundred Ninety Eight
Or more formal:
Mr. and Mrs. Alan P. Leff
have the honour of announcing
the marriage of their daughter
Heather Marie
to
Mr. Thomas Joseph Abernathy
Saturday, the sixteenth of July
Nineteen Hundred Ninety Eight
St. Mary Cathedral
Huntington, Wyoming
If you want to announce your engagment you send a card sying something like:
Mr. and Mrs. Cary Neilson
are pleased to announce
the engagement of their daughter
Lori Nancy
to
Mr. Richard Albert Gries
July the sixteenth
Nineteen Hundred Ninety Eight
Hope this helps!
2007-02-01 13:48:23 · answer #1 · answered by Mommy-of-Twins 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should word it just like an invitation, but you send it AFTER the wedding.
No matter how you word it, if you send it before, some people will be confused when they don't get an invitation.
And anyone that you are that concerned about and want to let them know beforehand, a personal note or call would allow you to share the news and communicate the reason for a small wedding in a way that they understand but don't feel hurt.
2007-02-01 12:40:05 · answer #2 · answered by apbanpos 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The tradition is to mail the announcements the morning of the wedding. It should be worded similar to the invitation, except make it clear your parents (if they're on the invitation) word it like:
Mr. and Mrs. Harold Smith
Would like to announce the marriage of
Daughter
and
Husband
On this day 2007
Some might call your mother or your hubby's mother to ask about gifts, and just make sure they say not necessary.
The other option is to not send anything to someone not invited. Some wedding etiquette people say to not send them, as it rubs it in they weren't invited and that you are fishing for gifts.
If you send them, do NOT send them before the wedding. Mail them the day of the ceremony.
Good luck and grats!
2007-02-01 11:46:01 · answer #3 · answered by scarfyrre 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A wedding announcement generally is mailed AFTER you are married to announce it. That should get the message across to everyone.
2007-02-01 11:50:12 · answer #4 · answered by mimegamy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would just do wedding announcments. List who you are, maybe your parents, when you got married, where at, pretty much the basics. Mail these out on your wedding day. If people ask before, tell them you are having a very small wedding like you've told us, I'm sure they'll understand.
2007-02-01 11:26:31 · answer #5 · answered by layla983 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
We married in Las Vegas, with just family there. Had Formal announcements printed and mailed them the day we married with a Vegas post mark on it. This was our wording.....
Making their friendship so true
after great times and happiness
they've said, I do!"
Lynn XXXXX
and
John XXXXX
were married
on Monday, the fourteenth of June
two thousand and four
at four o'clock in the afternoon
Las Vegas, Nevada
2007-02-02 09:40:47 · answer #6 · answered by Lynny K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest mailing the annoucments after you are married. THat way people do not feel left out.
say something like.
Sorounded by a few dear friends and family
we felt your love with your love with us on this day
we were married on______________
Also check your local printing companies. They usually have books and invatation samples. You would be surprised that you can get an excellent invatition at about the same cost as making ones at home. They also have great ideas on how to word a situation like yours
2007-02-01 15:09:48 · answer #7 · answered by Jen 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It would be rude to send it out before the wedding. It would be like saying, "We are getting married, you aren't invited, send us a present anyways".
Wait and send an announcement after you are married.
2007-02-01 11:54:39 · answer #8 · answered by cetak 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We sent wedding announcements after the fact. We simply waited till we were married, then sent out invitation-type announcements saying we'd been married on such-and-such a day/time/place. It was fine that way.
2007-02-01 11:47:14 · answer #9 · answered by Brutally Honest 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Announce it after the fact.
Just say that you and the family had a small wedding. As your good friends, you wanted them to know about the joyous event.
2007-02-01 11:50:31 · answer #10 · answered by ignoramus 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋